Posts by besunny

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The 2012 JW Survey is now online!

by cedars in

i'm delighted to announce that the 2012 annual survey has now been launched and is ready to receive your votes!!.

please visit www.jwsurvey.org and give us your votes at the earliest opportunity.

this latest survey is obviously available to all those who voted in last year's survey, as well as to those who have never voted before.. so, what's different?.

On being born in and celebrating Birthdays

by baltar447 in

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so i'm in my mid 30s and about to have a birthday next month.

was putting together a very modest wish list and just broke down crying.

i was in tears.

Happy Birthday Baltar,,,I just had my first ever birthday party for my 21yr. old daughter,,it was fun but I still felt uncomfortable singing the birthday song,,it made her so happy but she did comment "mom we could of been having this fun all along" which makes me a little sad but now I plan on having one every year for all three of my kids,,,it makes them feel special and they deserve that

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Geneaology - any tips for a noobie?

by sir82 in

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saw a news article on a guy who found an old class ring, 90 years after the owner lost it, and returned it to the owner's grandson.. in the article, a reference was made to the finder using the website findagrave.com to assist in locating the grandson.. on a whim, i typed in my grandfather's name on that website and found it!

my grandmother is on there too.. this led to a quick search on a free geneaology site where i found out more details on my grandparents, stuff my parents never told me (dysfunctional family, yada yada, skip boring parts).. .

i'm stunned - i had a mental picture of my grandparents from teh bits & pieces i got from my parents, but my whole picture has flipped!.

besunny

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Do you miss "dressing up" for the meetings?

by dozy in

i was thinking about this the other day when doing a bit of tidying up of my wardrobe.

all the kh suits are now pushed to the back of the wardrobe and i am seriously thinking about a visit to the charity shop to get rid of most of them.. for me one of the (few) enjoyable aspects of being a jw was getting dressed up.

my secular work very rarely involves putting on a dress suit & tie so i miss getting dressed up - smart suit , tie , shiny shoes , slapping on the aftershave.

besunny

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Pros about being a jehovah's witness

by raxxxx in

can you personally think of any pros of being a jws?

anything that you have experienced that was and still is beneficial to you now from when u were a jw?.

besunny

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Our latest "Gee it's great not to be a JW" moment. Share yours!

by Open mind in

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recently my son had a minor injury that required a trip to the emergency room.

the admitting nurse asked us a ton of questions and then this:.

nurse: do you have a religion?.

besunny

I can say lucky without feeling bad,,and we got to go to a Journey/Night Ranger/Foreigner concert without guilt

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Cons of being a jehovah's witness

by raxxxx in

what could u list as negative things as being a jw/ex jw for example when u were growing up etc that still affext u now?.

besunny

Being judgmental and being judged,,,also being told I would never grow up in this system and now my kids are grown up and I'm 48,,I feel like I missed out on alot of things and it makes me mad,,,I've done alot of soul searching the last year about these things and more,,,,, funny little story,,last week I was helping my son deliver papers for his paper route,,and I was actually having anxiety going door to door hanging the papers on the door knobbs,after a few minutes I figured out it was from going out in service for all those years,,,that was the worst thing for me about being a Witness

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Please can we all have a go at describing and celebrating our different NEW IDENTITIES, versus our OLD WBTS IDENTITY?

by Fernando in

at one time most of us here identified as jws who follow the wbts gb/fds who claim to follow the bible etc.

some of us are journeying to a new identity, others may feel they already have a new identity.. although we likely have gone in many different directions, we share a common past which only ex-members can really understand and explain.

please could we each respectfully share and celebrate our unique perspectives of where we have come from, and where we each are now at on this journey?.

besunny

Old: never doing enough,always feeling guilty and depressed

New: mind is free and open to new things,,life has more purpose and quaility

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Do You Agree That Being A JW=Never Growing To Your Full Potential?

by minimus in

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soooo many witnesses that i knew of had great potential to be somebody, to do something in their lives and instead, they simply existed in a way of life that never really ever gave them back anything in return.

so sad, when you think of the waste!.

besunny

totally agree

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Give us your vote on the Watch Tower's approach to domestic abuse!!

by cedars in

as you may be aware, the feb 15th watchtower features an experience depicting a 'fairytale' scenario of a violent husband beating his wife, and then mending his ways once she starts to apply bible principles.

to my knowledge, this is the nineteenth experience of its kind to be published since 1958, and it betrays a disturbing track record of negligence on the part of the watch tower society in failing to properly and consistently deal with such a sensitive and life-or-death issue, which effects untold thousands of women.. the experience, page 29, paragraph 12, reads as follows:.

selma recalls a lesson she learned from the witness who studied with her.

besunny

Dear Cedars , I voted and tried to post a comment but couldn't so I will put it on here,,,I want to thank you for your work on this subject :

Comments like these combined with being raised in the truth and the elders not taking much action about these complaints (even blaming me for the violence and emotional abuse),,kept me in a 20 yr. abuse cycle,,which profoundly effected my oldest child,,it shows a lack of education on this subject and a lack of love for sister's to even suggest to remain in this type of situation,,I'm not the only one I know several other sister's that I have endured this situation,,,,in fact I used to always worry about stumbling people in the truth,,well I find this line of thinking very stumbling,,,,,this along with the mind set you are not free to marry another after profound abuse (only adultry)and if you do you will be disfellowshipped ,,is the reason why I am currently inactive and have no plans to return