How has this shaped your attituted towards women now? Would you/could you be supervised by a woman now? Do you now think of your wife as your equal? Do you still harbor thoughts that the dubs had it right; that women are weaker/more emotional/unable to make a decision?
As far as how it shaped my attitudes, it doesn't apply imo since I was in for such a short time.
A woman supervisor. Hoo boy have you opened a can of worms with that one! For the most part, it's been OK until the job I had before this one.
I had worked in a "Christian" nursing home--first in Laundry, then in Housekeeping. There were two women there in Laundry, one a supervisor who knew she was attractive and who later quit because she was both a sexual harasser and a harasee, and a co-worker who let us all know she'd had sex in a closet.
BUT the prize-takers were in Housekeeping. I'll use initials though I doubt any of them will ever read this. I was the only guy in a crew of five. "D" was the boss; "N" the second-in-command; "S" and "C" co-peons with moi. And was this an eye-opening experience.
All the others hated "C," or cooperated in making her life miserable. Her past there, in the next paragraph, was common knowledge. I found out they ostracized her my first night at lunch when she wasn't there. I asked why and you could feel a slight chill in the air, along with the silence and "N's" smirk, as though to say, "You would ask about that."
Later I mentioned to "C" that she hadn't been there, and she looked away, hesitated a second, and said "I like to be alone." OK, I knew she was BS'ing me and I understood why as time went on. Keep in mind (1) I was on my last chance as an employee--if I didn't cut it in HK I was outta there, (2) I was eating meals with the others, and (3) what might I do in terms of butt-kissing to help my chances? What would you expect "C" to do? "C" was married, yet had had at least a one-night stand with a guy in Maintenance, and had left the nursing home "under a cloud" because she and he (apparently) had been caught in a janitor's closet (where much of our mops, buckets, etc., were stored), and was surprised to be rehired later. The maintenance guy was married with three kids, btw. Anyway, I learned the consequences for her and me of going against "The Group" of D, N, and S. A lot of crap was done to me too. I blame it for my first heart attack. And guys, if you've never seen cattiness in action among women, all I'll say is the level of visciousness really surprised me.
My wife does a job at the nursing home I couldn't. I can work more hours in a week than she can. Intellectually we're miles apart. So, equal? More like ahead in some areas and behind in others.
I haven't seen all women since then as weaker, unable to make a decision, etc., though I have seen some. The former day shift crew leader on the line I work at now wanted to do as little as possible, shove her tits in a guy's face, flirt, make him think he stood a chance, and talked about her sex life and where she'd been pierced. I can say I've had a greater amount of hostility toward some women in the years since the nursing home job. And having a female boss now affects my blood pressure. I can feel myself tense up.
The dubs based their theology on Scripture as Francois noted, and back then women were chattel. Recall the Council of Ghent in 1432 (if I remember right). 32 Catholics and 31 theologians of other religions hotly debated the topic, "Are women human?" They are, by a one-vote margin. [Isn't it a relief to know that, ladies?] Allen Sherman tells about this in The Rape of the A*P*E*.
Do you share decision making with your wife or expect that your opinion is the most important?We both do it, but she defers to me on many things because of my Accounting degree or greater computer knowledge, for example.