Posts by peaceloveharmony

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When should you Disassociate yourself?

by happytobefree in

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i have been having discussion with my sister (relative), who is an active witness, about writing a letter of disassociation.

the reason being is that i have not attended the meetings in over a year and it's been 4 years since i have went out in the jw ministry.. i going to try to sum this topic up.

my sister think that i should not da myself because i have not done any immoral act in her thinking.

peaceloveharmony

free-

i wouldn't write the letter. i did write a letter to disassociate when i was 17 and now i have a sister and a brother who shun me. although for me at the time--since i was young--the letter served as a way for me to let my parents know that i was making my own decisions and they couldn't tell me what to do. Sometimes i wish i'd have just waited until i left for college so i could fade out of the org. but i have to live with what i did. you could write a letter in a journal or something and never give it to the elders but at least you might feel some closure by writing it down. the choice is yours, just think about your sister and what it would be like to not have her in your life(it sucks!).

good luck!
harmony

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Confessing

by STRUGGLE in

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hello, i was reading judical com.

was really suprise to find out how some of jw's feel.

some have, like the single mom, have such a negative experience with them.

peaceloveharmony

Hi Stuggle-

my name is harmony and i'm 25 years old. i've been reading all these posts with great interest. i'm sorry life has been a struggle for you lately. i just wanted to make an observation. for one reason or another, your elder's meeting keeps getting postponed. maybe that is a sign or something from god telling you that you don't need to meet with the elders, that god forgives you and knows what is in your heart and loves you.

i also want you to know that you are a wonderful person and you shouldn't beat yourself up over perfectly natural feelings(love). i think you've shown all of us and god that you are truly repentant regarding your "sin" (fornication). you've stopped "sinning" and remember it is not a sin to fall in love. heck-you can't control who you love--you just fall in love!

hope all goes well!

love harmony

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Do you still attend meetings?

by Sassenach in

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i'm wondering if you still attend meetings?

do you hold out hope for the watchtower organization?

if you've left entirely, have you found another form of worship?

peaceloveharmony

i don't regularly attend meetings. i've gone to the memorial a few times in the last 8 years and attended a couple of assembly talks. i only go the the memorial because my mom wants me to.

i've also attended mass at a catholic church for christmas, easter and mother's day. i like the ceremony of the catholic church but could never get into the religion. i've been to catholic and luthern weddings before. when i first left the jw's i was somewhat frightened of being in another church but since i wasn't struck down for sinning, i lost that fear!

now i'm looking into wicca. i also like eastern religious beliefs. i think the most improtant thing is to find a religion or a belief system that works with you. some people need lots of rules and regulations and ceremony with precise forms of worship, others like more a broader approach to worship and the freedom to choose how to worship the diety(ies) themselves.

just my two cents!

love harmony

Edited by - peaceloveharmony on 9 January 2001 11:53:11

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What my trial would have been like?

by Venice in

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an apostate!

we've got an apostate!

peaceloveharmony

ROFLMAS!

i just watched that movie on new years!

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Christmas Greeting!

by RR in

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a few years ago i met a women, former jw from queens, ny, she had left the society for various reasons, one of course, was the 'lack of love' within the congregation.. she started her own greetings card company for xjws, called great crowd greetings.. in going through my stuff, [the never ending, some day i'll get this basement cleaned up] i came across a card she sent me during christmas 1996.. on the cover it reads:.

"i bring you glad tidings ...".

on the inside it reads:.

peaceloveharmony

i wanted to wish everyone a merry christmas too! and happy yule!

love harmony

66

Serious Question

by Prisca in

as we all know the society has very strict guidelines regarding conduct between the sexes.

in the cong i grew up in, it was so small-minded that if you were single, and seen talking to a member of the opposite sex, you were presumed to be in some sort of relationship with him/her.. sex before marriage is out of the question, with heavy petting also looked down upon.

dating is a serious affair, with all onlookers expecting engagement/marriage to be the outcome.

peaceloveharmony

prisca-

good questions!!

i will fill you in a little on my sex life. i lost my virginity to a man who i hardly new because i just wanted to see what sex was all about! because of the society's super strict dating do's and don'ts, i kind of went overboard! but i've grown out of that behavior and have for the last 4 years been sleeping with only one man-my boyfriend. we've lived together for 3.5 years. i think growing up, i was over curious about sex because it was so taboo. and then when i started having sex--i was like what's the big deal?? it feels good and if you are not being abused then no harm right?

i understand the fear of pregnency but if you educate your kids they can avoid pregnency. i have. i don't really have any intimacies issues. my boyfriend is great.

i think most kids in america grow up with some wierd sex issues because this country has wierd sex issues (those damn puritans!) and jws and other strict religions just enforce these already exsisting sex issues.

i have a brother and sister both married to jw's. their spouses were their second boy/girlfriends of their lives and both got married when they were about 21. i hope and pray that they were lucky and picked good mates but how can you know if you never are alone with them, never make out with them or sleep with them, if you are compatable until after "til death do us part" it's a little too late then! for me, it will be interesting to see how "happy" we each are with our lives in 15-25 years. this may be gross but when i my brother got married i was really worried about his wife. i was hoping that he would take to the time to learn from his wife what is pleasing to her because i can't imagine being married to someone who does nothing for you in the bedroom. since my sister is older then me by 6 years-i never really thought about her marriage and happiness until recently. i hope she is happy! i would feel so terrible if she never knew the joy and wonderful feelings a great lover can bring you.

i don't know if i really answered your questions--i think i'm just rambling away here.

peacelove&harmony

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A lost witnetter

by MoodyBlue in

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i'm new here, having come after the shut down of witnet... i've been a "lurker" for a while, and figured i should introduce myself.

(and path has been bugging me to post, lol) hopefully i'll be able to add something to conversation.

it's nice to find a site where free speech is cool.... looking forward to meeting all of u:)

peaceloveharmony

welcome moodyblue-

i'm new here too! hope you enjoy!

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fun exercise

by peaceloveharmony in

i just wanted to share with everyone a fun way to get fit.. i discovered the joys of boxing!!

there is a boxing gym not to far from where i live so i joined up one day about 3 months ago and let me tell you-i've never had so much fun working out.

it is a great way to release built up anger or frustrations and to get into shape.

peaceloveharmony

hi-

i just wanted to share with everyone a fun way to get fit.

i discovered the joys of boxing!! there is a boxing gym not to far from where i live so i joined up one day about 3 months ago and let me tell you-i've never had so much fun working out. it is a great way to release built up anger or frustrations and to get into shape. also, i love learning how to throw a punch. one with a lot of force behind it. i'm not a very big person and i never learned how to fight when i was young so this has been a good learning experience for me. anyone else boxed before?

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hi-newbie here

by peaceloveharmony in

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hi all-this is my first post.

i've been reading some of the other posts here and i just want to say how much i enjoy the freedom of speech i find on this db.

what a relief and a breath of fresh air.

peaceloveharmony

HI-Thanks for the warm welcome!!

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hi-newbie here

by peaceloveharmony in

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hi all-this is my first post.

i've been reading some of the other posts here and i just want to say how much i enjoy the freedom of speech i find on this db.

what a relief and a breath of fresh air.

peaceloveharmony

Hi all-this is my first post. i've been reading some of the other posts here and i just want to say how much i enjoy the freedom of speech i find on this db. what a relief and a breath of fresh air. maybe later i will tell more about myself. for now--a big hello and smile to you all!