It is all about control. The more you are instructed to do what they tell you, the less time you will have free thought and define yourself. The more that you believe you have to follow this closed routine, the more you will be socially conditioned to their way of doing things. It interjects control, fear, and guilt...all tactics of cult teaching.
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It Was Never Enough
by Bangalore infound this on another site a few years back.. .
it was never enough.. i remember the first time as a kid i comprehended that i could never do enough for the organization.. a circuit overseer was giving a talk and said,:.
sunday is meeting, and since you are dressed up you might as well do some field service after the meeting.. monday you should spend an hour or so in the evening preparing for the book study on tuesday.. tuesday is book study.. wednesday should be time for your family study, personal study, or preparation for all three.
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Disfellowshipped!
by Las Malvinas son Argentinas inlibertad!
though my story is a bit more complicated than that.
i live in argentina.
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exjehovah
This is a very interesting topic. I think someone considering doing this is a pretty interesting thing. The only reason you want to go back is because you want to maintain contact with some of your family. That's a shame, but for some people that's the only way. I always maintain that this cult breaks up families.
I know the area you are moving very well, OP. I don't get on here much but if you PM today, I may be able to help with your transition.
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I think a lot of older (maybe younger ones) JW's are going to attempt/commit suicide....(READ)
by Joliette ini've been in lurkmode lately, but with the news that i heard about don cornelius dying, it had me thinking...as this world goes on, and people are coping with this world...i think a lot jw's are going to realize that the end of the world isnt coming...there gonna become more despert, the realities of having to work, pay off debts, etc.
a lot of jw's are going to realize that no magical sky daddy is come and 'take away there problems' and i think the more that they start to realize this, they get older, and there gonna start hating the reality that they have to face.
i had a good friend who's father-in- law (who was a ministrial servant) who had bipolar disorder, killed himself in his car back in 2007. it was sad.
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exjehovah
I can understand where the OP is coming from. I have been really busy with work this last week, so I am playing "catch up" on the forum.
I have always had this feeling that at some point the JW religion and their Armageddon prophecy was going to force the organization to do something drastic. I have surmized that they would try to get a sector of them to live on a certain plot of land and get "ready for it" like Noah and the Arc. I also see them doing something even more drastic or even a small segment creating a suicide pact or mission within. I can definitely see it happening. I foresee a huge falling off in the next decade.
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Former JW associated with WT writing department.. speaks up on Dialogue.
by koolaid-man intoday sat.
feb.4, 2012, 7 pm.
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exjehovah
Does anyone have a transcript of the call? Anything transpire significant? Revelations? I'm just curious.
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Can you be in Love with two persons? My Dilemma...
by Intel infirst, don't laugh.
i'm not some adolescent teen that is confused about his relationship.
what i am going to relate here has become a maior hard ship and is really gnawing at me.
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exjehovah
Personally, I would force the hand of your ex-wife before even attempting to get involved with her again. This religion can such a huge hurdle in a relationship, I would not do anything until she left the cult/borg and then tried to start a life. I definitely wouldn't rush into anything. I also think you should level with your current girlfriend and tell her you need some time to figure things out, but don't do it before you have a conclusive game plan for where you are living, etc
It is something you will have to weigh and figure out on your own, but maybe it is best to spend some time away from both women and then figure it out for yourself. No one can tell you the right thing to do because only you know, but try to stay away from the religious component as much as possible and just focus on what you want in your future.
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exjehovah
Dear Elders:
Why did you allow a known pedophile to work with children in field service?
Why have you allowed men that have committed adultery get off without even a public admonishing and yet others disfellowshipped without a thorough investigation?
Why are women attacked for being raped by brothers, but the brothers embraced?
Do you know that your children are psychotic and dangerous?
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exjehovah
Welcome. Pull up a chair and vent and share your experiences. You are amongst friends...
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Letter to FB JWs after I found out I was DF'd
by Momma-Tossed-Me inso i said that i would post this letter that i sent out to fb jws who were still my friends on fb at the time.. a little background might be in order here.
i was called to meet with two elders in the hall because i had filed to run for political office.
i knew that sooner or later i would have to agree to do so.
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Everytime I read this I am just inspired by how well thought out it was. A lot of times when they DF or DA you without notice, you just get very angry. Especially when they randomly do it without any real reason or rationale of a supposed violation. This is why I think it is so much like a cult; you give a very logical reasonable fact filled response to what was done to you. You did absolutely NOTHING WRONG. You decided to run for political office; so what. You didn't do anything actively against this religion, but because this imperfect men decided that by splitting hairs on guidance that they misinterpreted, they BAN YOU and all of your friends and possibly family in that religion are told to shun you. How can anyone in their right mind agree with this? There are so many people that have stories just like yours where they were DF'd not for an offense, but just because of the illogical actions of this group.
Each and every time I have brought up these type of things to my JW family (and it has been a few years for me), they make every excuse in the book for these type of offense. "I know the religion is not perfect" or "I don't agree with everything, but I think overall it is 'the truth" or my personal favorite "wait on jehovah to reveal all".
Thank you for sharing your story. If I lived near you, you would certainly have my vote!
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Gave 5 JW's Something to Think About at a Starbucks Today
by flipper ini was having coffee at a starbucks located in a supermarket chain in one of the towns i work in my business .
while sitting there doing paperwork , what looked like 3 elders on their field service break sat at a table no more than 4 feet from me .
after eavesdropping it was obvious they were elders as they were talking about the c.o.
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exjehovah
It is funny someone saying that if they could get away with stoning someone, they would. It's a great analogy because the behavior of shunning is so archaic. They only thing it does it cause families to break apart. Forcing someone to belong to a group they really don't want to be a part of is ridiculous. It's so manipulative.
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Does Jehovah Still Call Black People the "No-No" Word?
by arko_n9ne ini feel the title is an attention-grabber, but in no means am i looking to start racial tension on jwn.. i know in the past, at least to the 50's from what i've read, the watchtower society has been very demeaning toward people of a less alabaster pigment.
in one instance saying white people were superior and god blessed them that way for good reason.. however, i have not been able to find an official statement from them in any of their printed works that either clears up or apologizes and further corrects that bold standing.. so, to those much wiser than me, is there an official statement from the watchtower identifying people of different race as equal?
and if not, to the ex/current brothers and sisters who are of an "ethnic" background, what are your feelings on the society's derrogatory statements being left unchanged 60-100 years later?.
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exjehovah
They are some of the most covertly racist religious groups around, but try to pretend they are not. I still remember being taught that black people descended from Noah's son who tried to have sex with him; thereby they are from cursed people. You would be surprised how many people in that religion believe that nonsense.