Man - and I thought only Girl Scout Cookies were possessed!
pettygrudger
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Get behind me SATAN!!!!
by Elsewhere inthat is what i said to those evil krispy kreme donuts tonight at the grocery store.
they continued to beckon me.... eeeeeeeeat meeeee...... eeeeeeeeeat meeeeeeee .
they persisted in their call to me... relentless and soooo alluring.
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Obligations to Friends
by StinkyPantz inare there any?
to restate: when is comes to being friends with someone, are you "obligated" to do certain things?
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pettygrudger
The word "obligation" in the context of this discussion seems to be a negative. Of course there are obligations we have to our friends - that doesn't make it bad. There are things we come to expect to an extent from our friends - this in a way makes them "obliged" as well. Ergo the term "Happy to Oblige". The definition of "Obligate" is to "bind morally or legally". If we aren't bound to our friends in a moral way - what are they?
For instance, a friend gets stuck on the side of the road @ 2:00 AM. It's nasty out....do I *want* to go? Hell no - but I will, out of a sense of obligation to my friend - and most of my friends would do the same for me.
The key is to understand when our obligation to our friends, or them to us, is actually making the whole relationship a larger burden than either should have to bear.
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Decree of divorce?
by Brummie ini got a letter from the court last week telling me that a decree of our divorce will be read at the courts on the 8th of dec, does that mean thats it now?
or is there other decrees read out or something?
it stated that neither of us have to be at the court since we have no differences to settle.... .
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pettygrudger
(((Brummie)))
I'm so sorry - I didn't realize you were going through such a painful time. If the law can dictate a 2-year cooling period, and if you really don't want this divorce, perhaps you should persue it. Work on the problems to figure out why she isn't happy.
And, if *she's* the one that isn't happy - and you don't have a clue as to why - then it's not YOU - it's her. Giving yourself 100% responsibility is leaving her totally blameless - and it doesn't sound like it's like that.
Wishing I could take your pain away - divorce sucks! But, on the brighter side - usually when one door closes, others open, and usually for the better.
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Cute but very disturbing... Send your kid a letter from Santa...
by Elsewhere ini love to get into the whole christmas spirit thing, but i never take it to the point of lying to or deceiving children about it.
i try to teach kids that it is the spirit of christmas that matters... then i saw this thing.
parents are actively trying to deceive their kids by offering them "proof" that santa is real.
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pettygrudger
Santa is the symbol of the "Spirit of Christmas" - so therefore he exists in our hearts if we "Believe".
My son was extremely distrustful from the get go - he knew by 4 that there was no such thing as a true Santa. He was always just to damn analytical about everything. I explained that santa was the symbol, and that believing in him as a "little person" was the first step towards understanding the true nature of Christmas as a "bigger person". This worked good enough for him. His heart wasn't broken - he learned to move on to the "bigger kid" learnings of Christmas....and he never once tried to disuade others from believing.
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Why do you post?
by Xena inthreads, posts within threads...life events, doctrine, hopes, dreams, drama.....what causes you to post here?
what do you feel you get from it?
or give to others?.
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pettygrudger
(((Brummie))) This bitch has been well taken care of - thank you!
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Why do you post?
by Xena inthreads, posts within threads...life events, doctrine, hopes, dreams, drama.....what causes you to post here?
what do you feel you get from it?
or give to others?.
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pettygrudger
I'm with Badger - because there have been so many I have been honored to get to know, and now call friend.
Because there's interesting conversations, and it's as "immediate" as calling a few friends over for dinner. I'm admittedly not the most intelligent of the bunch, but I have learned so much by reading others. And to be honest, I've learned a thing or 2 about human dynamics as well. Evil as well as *good*.
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a quiet moment on the beach
by teejay inthere was a commercial on tv tonight during a football game... .
a couple with their backs to the camera were sitting on a beach facing a crystal blue sea.
soft, tropical breezes blew, seabirds called to one another, gentle waves crashed onto a pristine golden shore.
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pettygrudger
I agree w/most women wanting their men (and vice versa) to know that they're with someone who's attractive to the opposite sex. Both sexes I think thrive on "competition", whether conscious or sub-conscious.
But, if a casual look at a member of the opposite sex is enough to send a partner tripping - something's wrong. Either the person has self-esteem issues or the relationship has some security ones.
I think if it's a healthy/happy relationship - and the individuals in it are healthy/happy, there's not going to be an issue. Your partner will automatically know that with you they are #1 - and won't feel threatened by you noticing beauty in ANY form.
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Is It More Important to You to "Love" or Be "Loved"?
by pettygrudger inalthough both are important parts of human existence, they are not mutually inclusive.
is it more important to you to feel "love" for others or to know you're "loved" by others?
i think the answer to that question sometimes dictates our actions as human beings..
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pettygrudger
MarkfromCali - that's deeeeep! I am love - why does that thought give me the fuzzy tummy feeling?
So what would those be who "take" love, and then leave without giving some back?
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Is It More Important to You to "Love" or Be "Loved"?
by pettygrudger inalthough both are important parts of human existence, they are not mutually inclusive.
is it more important to you to feel "love" for others or to know you're "loved" by others?
i think the answer to that question sometimes dictates our actions as human beings..
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pettygrudger
However, I did not learn these things from my own parents. I don't think that a person has to experience being loved in order to know how to give and show it. I actually think maybe it's my lack of receiving love that makes me so much more willing and open to give it - because I know how it is to feel unloved.
I understand exactly what you mean. What I worry about are those that would give & give, and end up so cynical, angry & bitter because it wasn't reciprocated, or worse - taken advantage of. That has been my experience, but I'm finding the more I put out there, it no longer seems to matter how it's handled.
What's more important is that it makes me feel good about myself, and helps me to love myself. So now I'm wondering if maybe it's selfish to find it more important to love (for me).
Narkikoss - sounds like an excellent novel! And yep, I think humans are happier if they concentrate on loving others as opposed to being loved.!
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I keep finding more and more grey hairs in my beard. :S
by Elsewhere ina few years ago i started my little "collection" in a small container in my bathroom.
evertime i find a grey hair in my beard i pluck it out and put it in the container.
so far the collection has been quite "modest".. now it looks like they grey hairs in my beard are starting to gang up on me.
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pettygrudger
Personally - I'm with all the ladies that finds the salt/pepper look EXTREMELY sexy!
What are you going to do with the container once you fill it?