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  Memorial Invites from Door to Door?

  by NeonMadman in

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  is this the first year that the jws have been out aggressively handing out memorial invitations from door to door?

  i've been out for about 12 years now, but as i recall, congregations used to receive a relatively limited number of memorial invitations, and they were pretty much reserved for bible studies, good rvs, inactive persons, and others who had some sort of connection to the organization.

  they were not just randomly handed out from house to house - that was what the "special talk" invitations were for.. it occurs to me that this might be an attempt by the wts to pump up the memorial attendance so as to maintain the illusion of continued growth.

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  Someone came with an invitation for me Saturday, and it had an invite to the special talk as we.. A two-for?
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  Hmmm...

  by mrsjones5 in

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  just got a call from my mother.

  a daughter of one of my mother's cousins just died due to complications of breast cancer surgery.

  the funneral will be this saturday.

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  While I realize I don't know your story, You will probably never regret going, but you may regret later on not going. Nothing says you have to stay more than a few minutes, just long enough to offer your sympathies. And they can't talk about your not showing up.
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  Just learned we are on the "skip that house list"

  by truthseekeriam in

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  i was just about to leave to pick up my daughter from school when i opened the garage door and came face to face with one of my favorite sisters from the kh we use to attend.

  she greated me with a big hug and we had chit chat about the kids and their activities...nothing jw related.

  this particular sister is not one of those all so perfect jws.

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  She sounds like a good woman! Hopefully one day she will be on here.
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  I Just Had A JW Come To My Work And Offer Me A Memorial Invitation And A Magazine!!!

  by minimus in

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  i responded in this`way: i already got an invitation so i'm all set.. she said, "would you like a magazine and i said, "no thank you"'..... and she just left.. it took no more than 15 seconds!.

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  I had a loud pounding on my door this morning! I was still in my jammies, but it sounded so urgent, that I answered. It was a woman from the old congregation with an invitation to the Memorial and 2 magazines. She's nice, but a little quirky. She told me how much she missed me (really, haven't seen you in like 5-6 years), and gave me the invite and newest mags. She was kind of pushing into my partially opened door, but I think that is just her way.She kept asking me if I was o.k., was I feeling ill? I just took them without saying anything, and she left. I am wondering if they got my DA letter, but don't think I will follow up on that. Don't care anymore.

  She was with her husband, who is now a witness! He wasn't really even going to the hall when I was still in. So they are still baptising new ones who are not kids of witnesses.
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  Why does my family still interact with me?

  by stillstuckcruz in

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  here was my story posted originally about 2 years ago.

  http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/watchtower/beliefs/205854/1/as-a-witness-what-view-of-the-world-did-you-have-heres-my-story.

  and my extended story on jwrecovery:.

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  ruderedhead

  I think some families are just not as hard core as others, and that goes for congregations as well. They understand more about the love Jesus spoke of than some others. This is just my opinion, but I think some congregations perhaps really don't follow everything the wt says hook, line and sinker. I agree, if it ain't broke, don't fix it!
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  Shepherding call

  by lostinthought in

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  so, on sunday i left the meeting and was sitting in my car putting my keys in the ignition, an elder pulled on my door handal and opened up.

  i rolled my eyes, this man is annoying...anyway he asked if i was going to be around wednesday.

  i told him i should be.

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  If you really don't want to meet with them, I would suggest calling him up and telling this elder that you are not comfortable having them call on you, as his wife has been talking about you, and you find it offensive and disturbing behavior from an elders wife. (Having no rv's? Who cares? Most rv's are people who take the rags just to get rid of them. She just wanted to gossip) And ask him to please NOT open your car door,it's rude. Knock on the window like a normal person with manners, and you will roll it down. Or meet with them to stay way under the radar,say nothing negative about the org., but I would still mention the above. It will divert their attention from you a bit.
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  Is a slow fade being selfish when you have kids?

  by dissonance_resolved in

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  so i got some great advice to take things very slowly with the husband and kids in order to be able to fade and still maintain contact with my parents and siblings.

  but today i got a call from my son's teacher that he was having a meltdown because he was worried about all his friends and teachers being destroyed at armageddon.... first i felt like such a schmuck for ever having allowed that thought to enter my son's head, then i thought, is it psychological torture for me not to immediately correct the situation?

  i had a long talk with him about how god is perfectly just and full of love and he didn't have to worry about that at all, but it still seemed lukewarm.

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  Your poor child had a meltdown at school worrying about others being destroyed at armageddon? That is absolutely heartwrenching, dis. Have you spoken to the teacher privately(and as briefly as possible) about the religion, and the fact that you are trying to exit? She needs some insight in order to be able to calm your child. YOU ARE NOT SELFISH!! You are trying to do what is right for everyone, without losing your family, and that alone is a daunting, unselfish task. You have a large weight on your shoulders. What does your husband say about the meltdown?

  How slowly do you want to fade? You said that your husband is not very regular at meetings. Could you leave this child at home with him for one of the days you have a meeting? That would immediately cut his exposure to the wt indoctrination. Then after a while (only you know the best way for you to proceed without setting off red flags), perhaps the one he goes to with you, you could leave half-way through? Sitting in the back on those days will help it be less noticable. Please keep talking to him about how God loves all His children, and that you think his friends love God as much as he does, so you think they will be just fine. And perhaps re-iterate that you believe armageddon is A LONG, LONG way off. Whatever it takes to ease his poor little mind. Is it possible for you to put him in an activity that will be a distraction for him? Playing an instrument, baseball, karate, anything at all that is available in your area? I'll say a prayer for you and your family. I hope this is a one time thing. Hugs to you.
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  I called the police.

  by LouBelle in

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  i stay at my grandmother's house and pay a little rent to her (r500) as it is all i can afford.

  i do however buy and take care of all my own food, washing etc.. this morning at 6 am, my bedroom door opend, slammed shut, heard the key turn a couple of times, open and slam shut again.

  i woke up with a fright as that has never happened....first thought is someone is in the house.

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  That sounds REALLY scary! Glad you are o.k. for now, hope all was well when you got home. Sounds like you handled yourself very well, which may have prevented things from escalating. I hope you can find a safe place to live soon. All the best to you. And please block the door with a chair tonight.
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  Hello

  by newdawnfades in

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  i am a long time lurker who has finally decided to post.

  i am still in along with my wife, kids and extended family.

  i am in my 40s and was raised in the org.

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  Welcome!
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  What do they want from me?

  by MrFreeze in

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  okay, so the jws (and my mom) would be so happy if i started going to meetings again.

  i've made it clear i don't believe what they say so why would they care if i went to meetings?

  do they want me to go meetings and be an open dissenter?

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  Mr.Freeze, are you serious, you never made donations?! Did you not feel guilty? I know that I felt guilty when they were talking about how they needed money. Wish I knew then what I know now! Makes me so angry when I think of some women I knew who didn't have a pot to pee in, but after an assembly or convention talk about the need to give, the example of the widow,etc. would put what they had in the donation (shake down) box. Good for you, MrFreeze!