South pacific or virgin islands. One side of the world vs the other but islands. My preference. More beauty, fewer people. I cherish my privacy even now :)
joyfulfader
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If money were no object where would you live?
by usualusername inmy money is on tuscany, italy at the moment..
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Do You Ever Give Thought To A "Great Tribulation"?
by minimus inmy mother asked me if i was thinking about it and how bad it will be in the near future.
i said i didn't give it a thought.. is it something you ever think about, now?.
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joyfulfader
it hit me 2 yrs ago that it was a cult and i had wasted my life on a lie. i figure if there is a god that he will be like jesus and not mean and vengeful like that jehovah person and he will understand my circumstances. if there is no god it wont matter anyway. so no. not worried about the gt in the slightest. i am completely out :)
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Online Dating
by love_ever_wanting inwhat does everyone think, is dating avenues really that big of a deal?
i have been told by everyone on my congregation to not trust online dating.
especially if this is supposed to be the "truth".
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joyfulfader
I think u should avoid POF like the plague. i was inundated with contacts but there is no screening because it is free. i have a close friend who met her new lawyer husband on POF but not until she met some scary people. i tried christian mingle. still guys contacting based on looks only. Was overrwhelming. i then joined eharmony where there is screening and tons of compatibility questions. they send u a few matches per day. no browsing. i met a great guy. didnt work out because we were at surprisingly different levels in a very important area. and members have to be completely divorced or widowed which i like.
i was set up in an arranged marriage of sorts (jw) who after the wedding stole thousands from me and turned out to be a con man. i kicked him out within a yr of marriage (much later than my uber witness parents would have liked. they wanted him out a week after the wedding)
online dating has its perils and u have to be careful but i think it can be a useful tool. limiting oneself to jw's has a high chance of incompatibilities after the fact since u can spend virtually no time with them without someone standing over ur shoulder as a chaperone.
good luck. just be careful and patient. love is not sitting on every corner but i am sure it is out there.
you have options
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What song would you dedicate to the borg?
by krejames inzed's thread on powerful albums got me listening to darren hayes after ages and i decided i would like to dedicate this song to the borg.
http://youtu.be/nwvtdt9mntw.
step into the light.
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joyfulfader
Nine Inch Nails "Head Like a Hole"
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What were your favorite assembly foods?
by NoRegrets inso i'm young enough to not remember having hot prepared meals at assemblies, but heard all about it from my parents and the like.
but what i do remember were all of the cold sandwiches and institutional snacks and soda.
remember the food tickets we started to use?
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joyfulfader
My dad was the kitchen overseer at all the circuit assemblies when I was little. I helped make the egg and cheese breakfast sandwiches. I remember the huge griddle where the eggs were cracked and cooked....real eggs!!! The donuts came in and I got first pick because we had to be there at 5am to get it all ready in time. I had 2 friends with me and we got to roam the dark assembly hall in those early hours playing hide and seek. We made Salisbury steak and baked chicken. The semi frozen chocolate pudding was the best!! The only bad thing about being the overseers daughter was that I got dish duty every time. Cleaning the huge pans and sanitizing them and drying them. I couldn't wait to be 16 to work in refreshments in the secondary cafeteria but they did away with all that right before I turned 16.
That assembly hall has since been torn down and a new one built sans kitchen of course.
(I did feel special having kitchen access lol)
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Distrust and paranoia among faders
by cedars inhi guys.
i'm interested in knowing whether any other faders out there ever find themselves feeling a little paranoid about establishing contact with other faders or former jws, just in case the unthinkable happens and things turn sour.. personally, i'm now fairly comfortable with the idea that i will be disfellowshipped or disassociated within the next year or so.
i see it as inevitable, and an essential transition in order to do what i want to do with my life.
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joyfulfader
I think its always good to be careful when sharing any information with anyone. It is interesting that I dont care anymore what happens. I dont have the paranoia I thought I would. I have been establishing a jw-free life so what they do or dont do affects me very little. I am amazed how quickly learning the TTATT changed my whole perspective. What will be will be.
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How the new light on the domestics may backfire on the Watchtower Society
by yadda yadda 2 inthe new light is a bit of give and take by the gb.
they have taken upon themselves the title of the faithful and discreet slave, in exchange for pushing the 'appointment over all of his [christ's] belongings' out into the future, and also in exchange for allowing the earthly class to be counted as 'domestics'.
the gb can now totally lord it as kings over the flock in exchange for having "dignified" them by including them as domestics.
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joyfulfader
The average jw has no problem with the fds=gb because according to some its always been that way and this clarification makes perfect sense and is food at the proper time. Jw's do not question. period. Their minds cannot pull out of the gravitational pull of the wbts. i dont see much coming of this "new light". maybe some minor dissention that will be swiftly dealt with. and a few more members on this site.
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So Your Husband Is Thinking of Becoming A Jehovah's Witness
by LoisLane looking for Superman ini want to share with you, things your husband can demand from you, because, well he is the man and you are not.
i don't know if you have read about jw's sex lives and what is allowed and isn't.. no oral for anybody.
no masturbation for anybody.
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joyfulfader
Those rules are all good in jw theory. that is the ideal marriage. fortunately i am waaaay too headstrong to be in that type of relationship. even when i was in, most of those things were impossible and i would not put up with it. i was in an abusive relationship and the first time he attacked me and threw me against the wall and grabbed my neck, i called my parents from the locked bathroom. they told me NEVER call the police. my own parents!!! well that is one time i followed the rules and didnt call. the next time i did call the police. i am proud to be a strong woman. i plan on staying that way.
Many of the men i knew in the kh were not assertive though. sometimes giving in behind closed doors is easier to have a happy wife/life.
i know of one couple where those rules are probably posted on their fridge and the ceiling above their bed for reference at all times. they are intolerable. the husband is sure i am from the devil because i wont take his crap. fortunately i havent had to endure their company for over a year.
but in theory, male jw's would like those rules to be written in stone.
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My ex JW sister is an APOLOGIST!!!!!
by joyfulfader ini have had a few conversations with my sister who left the org several years ago and has been dating a non jw for several years now.
she celebrates the holidays and everything.
so the other day i brought up some of the things i have learned since leaving.
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joyfulfader
she left because she wasnt allowed to divorce her ex husband without as scriptural reason and she didnt want to be alone forever. she has a bf and does all the things a worldly person does. she doesnt claim to have ever been a witness to anyone. funny thing is she has escaped any JC stuff by moving around so much. they know she is doing what she doing but no one wants to address it so she has successfully made the transition out physically. mentally is obviously a different story.
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My ex JW sister is an APOLOGIST!!!!!
by joyfulfader ini have had a few conversations with my sister who left the org several years ago and has been dating a non jw for several years now.
she celebrates the holidays and everything.
so the other day i brought up some of the things i have learned since leaving.
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joyfulfader
i think its safer to keep my mouth shut for a while. she is extremely opinionated with no filter. i will bide my time and be here if she needs me. now i have to figure out what to do if she discusses my opinions with my parents. right now i feel as though if they are going to shun me, so be it. i love them terribly but if they have a double standard then i will learn to deal with it.