I feel like a Scooby Snack....
WROOTT-WROOWW!
enabling has been defined as "taking responsibility for the destructive behavior of other people so that they do not have to deal with the consequences of their own.
it is also enabling to pretend that the destructive behavior is not occurring.
such enablers often deny and minimize.
I feel like a Scooby Snack....
WROOTT-WROOWW!
he passed away last friday.
i never thought i'd ever enter a kingdom hall but we did it.
it wasn't a pleasant experience.
I am very sorry for your loss. Please accept my condolences.
Tina
in my life i have noticed that there are some people who's lives seem to be filled with nothing but misery.
constantly loosing low skill low pay jobs, one after another
frequent run-ins with the law
Yes, I know two people, just like this.
All you can do is shake your head and wonder at why....I have no answers, however, other than the illnesses, their misfortune was brought upon by themselves.
is it really good for the soul?
does it make us clean and pure again?.
or is it the easy way out, a way of shrugging off our misdoings and leaving us free to behave badly again, for example by visiting a confessional box each week?.
Ah, screw it. I don't want to be in the new system anyway.....Living like the guy in Castaway.....picking berries and eating wild ****** things.
I'd rather party now, drink while I can and see the world....
is it really good for the soul?
does it make us clean and pure again?.
or is it the easy way out, a way of shrugging off our misdoings and leaving us free to behave badly again, for example by visiting a confessional box each week?.
Bless me Father, er, Mother, for I have Sinned...it has been 19 years since my last Memorial....
I feel so Freaking Free!! Yeah. Oh, sorry, Father, er, Mother, I just am so happy not to be going to meetings and out in service any more...how can that be bad? How can Jehovah be unhappy with me? Please, Father, er, Mother, tell me, will I make it to the new system?!
is it really good for the soul?
does it make us clean and pure again?.
or is it the easy way out, a way of shrugging off our misdoings and leaving us free to behave badly again, for example by visiting a confessional box each week?.
SP, I stepped on your toes, I am sorry. I read more into it than was there.
Forgive me?
is it really good for the soul?
does it make us clean and pure again?.
or is it the easy way out, a way of shrugging off our misdoings and leaving us free to behave badly again, for example by visiting a confessional box each week?.
The "penance" given by the priest isn't punishment, nor a magical wand that expiates the offense by the deed. The penance is about changing our hearts. Good priests generally give challenging penance that affects our hearts.As a child, I once stole something...I wasn't given the penance of "rubbing my rosary x number of times" rather, I had to PERSONALLY return the item and apologize
Finally, the Catholic Church has never said ANY individual (human) is in hell or going to hell. We reserve that judgement to God.
That makes more sense. Especially the returning the item and apologizing.
My whole point is:
If you live a decent life, why do you need to go to confession? Besides literally stepping on someone's toes, why would someone do that? (Hopefully if you have stepped on someone's toe, you immediately apologized and were forgiven by them)
Why not adopt my system or Scully's? I am all for talking things out with friends, family etc. I think that is much healthier than telling a virtual stranger (priest, elder) you *sinned*.
And who decides what needs to be confessed? How do you know when you have crossed the line?
is it really good for the soul?
does it make us clean and pure again?.
or is it the easy way out, a way of shrugging off our misdoings and leaving us free to behave badly again, for example by visiting a confessional box each week?.
Wow. I am surprised. I would want to know. Disease is involved. . another girl's feelings. . .possible pregnancy. . .other's finding out. . humiliation.But I guess I'm just weird.
I also think murderers should confess and child molesters; but I suppose if they resolve to never do it again, that's enough for you.
Murder and child molestation are not in the same category as cheating on your spouse or not going to the meetings 5 times a week. What a silly statement. Especially from you.
Confession of daily sins in life is what we were talking about. Not murder and child molestation. If you want to go that direction, fine. I am not talking about that. I am talking about daily transgression against others.
As for my personal feelings and my *confession* to you and this board on how I feel on something like a cheating spouse....your response is enough to give me pause in the future.
is it really good for the soul?
does it make us clean and pure again?.
or is it the easy way out, a way of shrugging off our misdoings and leaving us free to behave badly again, for example by visiting a confessional box each week?.
I need to add:
I trust my husband. I have reason to think or believe he would or has cheated on me.
As for religious stuff, as E-man noted, I was taught the same thing about confession and armageddon. That is why my mother confessed to me and then to the elders. She said she would not make it to the new system unless she confessed. I told her she was repentant and Jehovah would understand and read her heart; she did not need to tell the elders. She insisted. She got DFd.
The confession system of the Catholics to me, seems similar. Just not as harsh. You confess to a priest, or God won't forgive you and you won't make it to heaven. Same story.
is it really good for the soul?
does it make us clean and pure again?.
or is it the easy way out, a way of shrugging off our misdoings and leaving us free to behave badly again, for example by visiting a confessional box each week?.
If your husband cheated on you, wouldn't you want him to confess? Or would it be okay if he just secretly resolved not to do it again?
If I didn't know, I would be fine with it if he secretly resolved to not do it again. However, he is Catholic, so he might go to church on Sunday and confess. He goes every Sunday so I don't know that he already hasn't.
are you looking for the religious answer, the one I use to explain confession to my protestant friends, or the psychological one??
The religious one. The picture of priests is that they sit in a booth and people come in, semi-private and tell their secrets. The preist decides at that moment how bad the *sin* is and tells the person to rub their rosary X # of times to be absolved of sin in God's eyes.
That seems like the easiest way out of wrong doing. I almost want to become a Catholic just to have easy out cards like confession.