I try very hard not to come across as a bad dad and I truly believe I am successful. They are too young to have heart to heart discussions with. I don't prevent them from going to meetings and I don't mention anything to them about what they are being taught. We go to the park, go swimming, play candyland, go to plays etc. There's no doubt in my mind that they'll have very happy memories. I am just so scared that the indoctrination will be too deep by the time they are old enough to be reached.
I wouldn't worry about your wife's welfare at this point. She is an adult. You've tried what you could. You can't change her. Only she can. I wouldn't wait for her to do her part(such as research, use common sense, ampathetic, etc) any longer in cost of your children.
What would you do if your family is drowning? Would you just passively standing and watching in hoping some miracle to happen? I would jump right in and first save my children. Before you realize, your oldest one will talking about getting baptized.
I am still attending all the meetings. Believe it or not one of my reasons for attending meeting is to keep my husband in line. I've been working so hard to help him learning TTATT. I truly believed he was cult free now and using critical thinking fianlly. I was wrong! Watchtower 2 Sunday ago campagning Armageddon propaganda big time. My husband's 'what if' kicked in all over again.
I would not let my children attend Charlie Menson's session twice a week with their Menson follower mother. I will do anything to stop them from going. Take them to Park, children's place, hiking..... If Nothing works out I would go to the meeting with them to aware what's going on at the meeting. I will reason with my children and wife whether what's being said make any sense or not. It takes a lot of work and patience but what's more important to you? Your children having happy normal lives or grow up to be zambie cult members?