MIND CONTROL 101 -- this is their best method, it may make a person want to come back to family more so than an organization.
at 1 Cor 5:11 ask is this wicked person categorized as a sexually immoral person, greedy extoritoner or an idolater? Unrepentant.
to intimidate people or pressure them to a teaching that is contrary to scripture is a form of spiritual blackmail.
what LB said is right " Jesus spoke to all" and exposed the wrongness of the rigidity typifing a legalisic approach to service of God