Posts by FayeDunaway

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Schoolyard bully mentality

by FusionTheism in

i'm not naming names, but i just want to encourage people on here or on reddit or twitter, and tell you that you do not have to tolerate people who act like schoolyard bullies in the way they speak to you online.

i think anonymity is a big part of it.

they feel like there is zero accountability so they can be a bully all they want.. i recommend just ignoring or blocking anyone who is verbally abusive or treats you like schoolyard bullies treated you.. life is way too short to spend any time dealing with those kinds of people..

FayeDunaway

I don't like getting involved in bickering here, but I agree with Millie. This place is best when it is a place of comfort for people who have been through hell or are very confused and hurting...ok, and also when making fun of or discussing the religion we know so well.

Havent we been attacked enough, all of us? Why when someone offers the way they feel about a certain belief are they lambasted, belittled, called names. We had no freedom of speech in our past. Well we haven't gotten too far away from that have we. honestly I've often not expressed how I feel here because of the judgmentalism. It's unfortunately a familiar feeling, I grew up with it.

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i'm stupid, right?

by embarrassed in

i am on here as another member, but even with a username and not revealing my identity, i am still too embarrassed to use it.

had to make up a new one.

that being said.... my boyfriend is watching pornography, and it seriously hurts my feelings.

FayeDunaway

Totally dump him and dump him for good. There are like 20 things here that you mentioned that are wrong, terribly wrong with this guy. I can't imagine anything redeeming about him, maybe he's got nice hair? Seriously, move on. You deserve a caring, affectionate boyfriend. And if you are single for a good while until you find one, that is certainly better than being with this guy.

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My Story of Waking Up - in retrospect

by cappytan in

so, many of y'all know bits and pieces of my story of waking up, but i thought it might be nice to have it all in one place.. i was baptized at 11, auxiliary pioneered every summer, regular pioneer at 17, ministerial servant by 19, then went to bethel for a year.. i always had minor doubts from time to time, but nothing serious.

always dismissed doubts and decided to "just have faith.".

after leaving bethel, i was never really firing on all cylinders "spiritually speaking.

FayeDunaway

Cappy I remember your first post. I was pretty new here myself, but had been out of the org for some years. I remember you being so overwhelmed with what you were learning, barely functional at work, and also worried about your wife, tho she was showing some progress towards agreeing with you.

I am happy for you that you are leaning secular Buddhist and have found a lot more peace since those days. I know stuff with family and in-laws might still be messy but your wife has come along with you, holy cow how awesome is that?!?

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The monthly broadcast as an opportunity to wake up

by paradisebeauty in

i was thinking that maybe the monthly broadcasts are a occasion for some jw's to wake up.

before those broadcasts they probably imagined that the gobgoverning y members are some very special peopleand that you see in their behavior and words that they are "chosen".

but now all jw's can see them for who they really are: average men, some full of themselves, some ridiculous, some just normal men with nothing special.

FayeDunaway

I DO know that these ridiculous videos of the GB would have woken me up if I wasn't awake already.

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This is a topic I am going to kill with my opening post.Why haven`t the Major religions of Christendom exposed J.W.`s as the true Apostates

by smiddy in

i am initially thinking of the major religious institutions of christianity , catholic ,many branches , church of england , and the major protestant religions , too numerous to mention here.. after all their is 40,000 plus christian religions in the world today ?so obviously j.w.`s are not the only false religion .. so my real question is really , to do with the mainstream christian religions , why are`nt they more aggressive in their condemnation of the jehovah witness religion for their obvious failings ,flip backs ,contradictions ,prophecy`s that never eventuated , end of the world predictions ,re-inventing their past history , even distancing themselves from their past history , and their founding members , such as c.t.russell and j.f.rutherford whose policies they now reject... they need to get on board and bleed it for all it`s worth .. smiddy .

FayeDunaway

Jeremy look up the definition of 'mainline Protestant church,' you are misinterpreting what that means.

I am in a mainline Protestant church and have scores of friends from other mainline protestant churches and I can tell you you are wrong about this.

I do agree there are other even more harmful cults than jw's.

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Example of shunning

by enigma1863 in

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eueuwshs1cg&feature=youtu.be

FayeDunaway

Creepy. This guy didn't even have a sandwich board or a picket sign. He was missing an 'Imitate Jesus' badge tho. That bare lapel...the mark of the wild beast, apparently.

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This is a topic I am going to kill with my opening post.Why haven`t the Major religions of Christendom exposed J.W.`s as the true Apostates

by smiddy in

i am initially thinking of the major religious institutions of christianity , catholic ,many branches , church of england , and the major protestant religions , too numerous to mention here.. after all their is 40,000 plus christian religions in the world today ?so obviously j.w.`s are not the only false religion .. so my real question is really , to do with the mainstream christian religions , why are`nt they more aggressive in their condemnation of the jehovah witness religion for their obvious failings ,flip backs ,contradictions ,prophecy`s that never eventuated , end of the world predictions ,re-inventing their past history , even distancing themselves from their past history , and their founding members , such as c.t.russell and j.f.rutherford whose policies they now reject... they need to get on board and bleed it for all it`s worth .. smiddy .

FayeDunaway

I'm with punk on this one. The jw's are a mere fringe religion, only important in their own minds, barely thought about in everyone else's minds. Maybe if one of them ran for president, they would finally get attention, as the Mormons did recently. But it's unlikely that will happen isn't it :P.

These days only radical evangelicals are interested in arguing with witnesses. They're the last ones fighting gays too, and any diversity they consider unbiblical.

My church, when I tell someone I used to be a witness, they will say 'that was quite a change, wasn't it?' But as Carla said, they don't understand the trauma of having been a witness. Most churches these days like to accept diversity and not judge other people for being different. Heck, we almost hired a Mormon choir director at my church!! Which I was not happy about and got them to reconsider! At a women's retreat I was asked to speak about my experience growing up as a witness. It was the first time people understood. Many years later they still tell me they were so surprised what it was like, and they are very happy for me that I got out of it.

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Now Even JW Men Are Going To Die At The Big A

by OneFingerSalute in

so this weekend there was a part about not following jesus at a distance.

the speaker made a big point of stating that any baptized jw male who was not either appointed ms/elder, or at the very least "reaching out" actively, was in fact following jesus at a distance.

he said that the only way to live through the big a was to follow jesus closely.

FayeDunaway

Death,....that's all they've got to threaten people with? Instant destruction?

How about a precarious life of never knowing if or when I might lose my children due to a disfellowshipping? How about a life of being forced to do stuff I don't want to do, and having to do it CONSTANTLY, RELENTLESSLY? How about a life where I can't speak my thoughts and opinions for fear of being 'turned in'? How about a life where myself and my children are supposed to follow one infinitesimally defined path, unable to freely express our individualities, having to stick to someone else's definition of 'proper' OR ELSE?

Oh, you can't threaten you will do this to me, because that is what you ARE, that is what living with you IS ACTUALLY LIKE. Well, that's worse than instant destruction. And you will NEVER be in control of my life again. Your threats of death are nothing compared to what living under your control was like. And I'm out of it. So death is all you've got? Youve got nothing.

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shunning

by poopie in

jw
friends

hi

FayeDunaway

Hi!

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I need help with this one. What do you think I should do?

by Quarterback in

jw
friends

my wife is pleasant and easy to get along with.

she is also helpful to many.

lately, however, there is a jw sister who some are curious about has befreinded my wife.

FayeDunaway

I like searcher's mom's 'least said, soonest mended' adage. So change of seat is the best option.

Of course, it is not a social norm in witness world to let a woman sit on the aisle seat (so VERY silly, and also often impractical, since a mom gets up more often to nurse a baby, etc.). If giving her the aisle seat feels emasculating to you, have her sit by the wall, and you the second seat from the wall.