LovesDubs...
I had the same feeling as you have that his wife may be vindictive and is seeking some kind of revenge or a reason to re-marry.
DB...
On the matter of cyber-sex, I believe this is more serious than you think - it would fall under the category of lewd behavior with two "consenting" individuals. I realize that with cyber-sex there is no actual touching of the genitals involved, but the way it is performed is close to the real thing. It is the deliberate action involved where both parties talk to each other over the internet and/or by telephone while they masturbate. All the sounds, feelings and expressions are in conformity to reach a mutual climax very similar to actual intercourse without the contact of body parts.
Cyber-sex did not exist until fairly recently and I can imagine the complexity on the part of the elders in handling these cases. I know that masturbation is a private thing and is done secretly by one person and is an unclean habit (according to the Society), whereas cyber-sex has already the consent of two people who simultaneously engage in "distant" sex. I guess it may be a bit difficult to assess the seriousness, although it is not fornication or adultery in a legal sense, but perhaps the elders will probably find out how many times it's been done - did the person stop this alltogether -does he show repentance and not wanting to do it again etc..., then I personally think the elders will privately reprove him (or if this has become public knowledge, there will be reproof from the platform) and take away his responsibilities in the congregation.
Woooow, am I happy not to be part of the Borg anymore!!
Richie :*)