Flipper had some great advice as have many here. I wish I had good advice to add, but it really does have so many variables that will affect the way things will turn out. I have not been posting here as much but my situation persists. I have been improving myself, learning, getting in better shape at the gym, cutting back dramatically on alcohol, eating less etc.
My wife has been getting on my case about not going in FS, not studying with my kids, and so on. My oldest girl is 5 so things are coming to a head. I have almost made full disclosure 2 or 3 times, but have always toned it down or relented at the last minute to keep the supposed peace, or because I couldnt handle the stress and open hostility I faced. However over the past year, my love for my wife has been mostly squelched. We dont have much in common, have the cult in the middle, and I see her deep down as an enemy trying to indoctrinate my kids gullible minds with harmful trash. I resent that I cannot stop it, and she resents that she feels like she is bringing them up in the "truth" by herself.
Every meeting I am faced with a delimma of either dont go and be stressed because she is stressed and pissy, or go and be miserable the rest of the day. While I am there I feel my chest get heavier the whole time. It used to be that when the meeting was over, I soon felt better but now it lingers. I know I am not the person I could be due to this influence. Most of the stress comes from seeing my daughter being taught lies, and my not knowing how to combat this when it comes to the "black and white" "good or evil" mind of a young child.
Before you spill all the beans, know that you are in for a rough ride. If you dont spill the beans, you are in for a rough ride anyways inside your heart and mind suffering silently inside. This situation sucks, but hey! At least we arent awakened Muslims with familes that would honor kill us!