i know this topic has been touched upon from time to time.
i haven't been on here regularly in many years, but i know what it is like for many; or those that are on their way of exiting the organization.. what songs do you recall or remember during your exodus from the wtbts ??.
i left mentally in the late autumn of 1983; apparently (i don't know officially...but does it really matter?
It's my life. It's now or never. I ain't gonna live forever. I just wanna live while I'm alive!
Gopher beat me to it. I think I busted an eardrum blasting that one!
"You better stand tall
When they're calling you out
Don't bend, don't break
Baby, don't back down
It's my life
It's now or never
'Cause I ain't gonna live forever
I just wanna live while I'm alive"
this is for my fellow faders...just checking to see how it is going for ya'll?.
i know it can be tough...my fade has been going well thus far...hopefully it remains the same!.
people may think of you differently...as being distracted...no longer loving jehovah...giving in to the world ect.... now i couldn't care less what any of them think of me...i went into town a few days go where some jw's were doing street work at the local market and i walked by them like they never even existed .
I think my fade is going okay.
I stopped meetings late spring of last year and never looked back. I told an close elder friend of mine to just leave me alone. I am happy, I am not bothering anyone and I just want to live in peace. So far no calls or visits from any elder in my hall. And I was pretty popular.
My family is "feeling it". I act like nothing has changed. They seem to be okay, so far.
Happy Fading!
the phone rang in the art gallery and i answered.. the voice was a young woman's.. one of her two parrots had died rather suddenly.. she wanted a colorful frame for the memorial portrait.
could we accomodate her?.
the remaining bird was sulking.. i suggested parrots without partners.. i don't where my tasteless jokes come from.
Him, driving down the street super excited about me being with him. He says: Kiss me, bring those lips over here now!
Both of us eyes closed, he's still driving! Sigh! I miss that man!
if creepy contact lenses, facial piercings and people who talk insanely fast (and over-use the word "legit") are not your thing, then don't watch this video!.
however, if those things don't bother you, and you're curious about the "nuclear" way to eject jehovah's witnesses from one's doorstep, this video explains how this can be done swiftly and effectively.. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xrvc1yoydby.
i can actually remember at least a couple of instances where someone revealed they were gay on the doorstep to my partner and i and this didn't get rid of us immediately, but it did force us onto the back foot.
Hilarious!
Great conversation stopper! LOLOLOL!
this year is not going so great.
lost my love, got forgotten on my birthday, car got hit the day before my birthday, car got hit yet again last weekend, and today i got a flat tire.
what the f did i do to karma to deserve this crap?
First AKA: Let me tell you this: It’s called LIFE. Sometimes it seems like a lot of crazy unfair stuff happens all at the same time and you do wonder what on earth is going on. But then don’t forget the times when you are in a happy state and things are just going awesome. I think the “universe” just turns and sometimes we get these jacked up moments, but in reality it’s also a moment to be grateful for all the awesome stuff we do have. You can fall in love again, your car will be fixed, and YOU ARE NOT ALONE. I don’t mean to sound like Lil Miss Positivity… I do believe in mini pity parties and then moving on.
Look at all the responses you have gotten…that should make you smile. So happy belated birthday and {{{HUGS}}}. It’s YOUR life, make it ROCK!
Aka…I apologize if I am hijacking your thread….
…but you me and Tater are living the same love-lost life!!!
Met the love of my life 25 years ago, kept crossing paths over the years, watched as ALL the obstacles were removed so we could be together, watched as the “universe” put us within walking distance of each other (he works in the same building I do)…spent a year trying to pick up where we left off…after all these years of trying to get at me when he could not, this man starts to blow hot/cold. I love this man from the bottom of my heart and he feels like THE ONE. You would have thought that when I was finally free he would be running me over. I gave this situation one year and from the beginning I knew if it did not work out, at the end, I knew I would walk away. Well I had to….AND HE LET ME! It was the hardest thing and still is, but I know that walking away is what I am supposed to do, because staying is NOT GOOD. Will it make him stop, think and come? I don’t know but I do believe that if I don’t keep moving forward I may miss something really wonderful if I wait around for him. *cue George Michael’s: FAITH* LOL!
As much as you love them, you have to remember that something is preventing it from happening, for it to fall into place. If you keep revisiting it, it will always hurt. I keep a journal and when I want to go off on him for what he did, I just write it down. That prevents me from sending a text, that he won’t respond to, which will send me spiraling into an emotional meltdown. I have cried enough tears, the last on January 1 st . NO MORE!
Sometimes love like that is all about timing OR it’s all about letting go so something you really need can come in.
I am sending both you guys lots of love and hopes for true love to come into your lives! Sophie
what has been your experience with people you knew that were reproved or disfellowshipped for adultery?
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i always felt that the brother was treated more mercifully and excused for it, but a sister was totally demonized..
Joyfulfader,
…. elitism is rife also. Don’t you dare commit a wrongdoing against any important/well-known elders. I know of a case where a well known overseer had the POWER to change the life of a someone who made a grievous mistake against him and straight up chose not to. That’s when I saw that LOVE FAILED. The DFd wrong doer paid for so many years in so many ways it was heartbreaking.
has anyone heard quiet rumblings of new light on the meaning of the 144,000?
to look for 144,000 congregations of jehovah's people as there are now almost 112,000 congregations?
has anyone heard this?.
Well if it was true and they are trying to make this "NEW LIGHT", let's see...they are about 32,000 congregations short.
God forbid the day they end up with 144,001. I guess then the congregations will start "overlapping"
*eye-roll*
what has been your experience with people you knew that were reproved or disfellowshipped for adultery?
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i always felt that the brother was treated more mercifully and excused for it, but a sister was totally demonized..
Personally, in general I feel anyone who gets Dfd gets a rough deal. But I do think brothers get away with more crap. My ex did. He was PRIVATELY reproved in every hall we attended for the same thing. I know of brothers who committed fornication, got appointed responsibilities then confessed and got deleted and private reproof. Whenever you hear a sister being disciplined the ONLY thing you hate to assume is it was for something sexual. But if it’s sexual for a guy it’s more quiet. However if you are a repeat offender then you get read out big time, male or female.
I know of sisters who have been dealt with treacherously by their mate. Mate gets DFd and sister spins out of control, no comfort or guidance from elder body and she gets read out. What gets me more are these loser JW husbands who mistreat their wives and the wife commits adultery to get out of the situation. Ok, fine. But never ever is the husband not talked to about how his lack of headship contributed to the madness in that household. Therefore, hubby gets to look like the good guy.
Oh and don’t believe what anyone tells you about if you’re repentant you won’t get DFd. It’s a LIE!
Just my observations.
FIRST ESCAPE: (late teens) I did a lot of stuff because I have a curious nature. I did almost every drug, except for the ones that you use syringes. I can still count on one hand how many sexual partners I’ve had, of both sexes. Partied like it was 1999 (it was)…and I eventually blew out.
SECOND ESCAPE: I am older now and way more mellower…I don’t do drugs. I don’t sleep around at all. Drink moderately. Life now is about enjoying it, and making great memories to supplement the 20 years I lost to the WTBS.
from this week's congregation bible study, the first 8 paragraphs of chapter 4 in the jeremiah book.
page 44 as follows.. in our case, we certainly do not think of ourselves as worshippers of idol gods.
however, under the heading of "god", one dictionary says: a person or thing of supreme value.
LOL@ Emery, I used to do that all the time! I was always saying in my head: SAYS WHO? REALLY? Why should I just take your word for it?
I am sure my face gave me away all the time. I think I always had this issue with GB telling people how to live their lives!!!
Please, don’t ask me how I stayed in there 20 years….
