Posts by SophieG

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Hey I'm going to be a great Granny

by mouthy in

to twins!!!!!!

melanie ( my daughter that passed away in 1999 that had twins,)tara & ashley .

( who posted on here years ago.

When You Were A Witness Did You Tattle? Snoop?

by OneStepOut93 in

were you one of the witnesses that tattled and tried to find people doing "wrong"?.

or did you ever tattle on someone and regretted it later?

would you take it back?.

i had a friend once who was about to confide in me and I stopped her because I did not want to know! To this day I still don't know. She and the guy she eventually married ended up on reporoof though. I think I'm a good confidant but I didn't feel it would be my place to tell the elders if she chickened out.

not one to meddle in folks business.

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Is Serena facing a JC?

by zed is dead in

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http://msn.foxsports.com/tennis/story/serena-williams-at-fault-for-comments-in-rolling-stone-about-steubenville-rape-case-062513.

zed.

SophieG

She's not baptized.

...she may(?) get a chit-chat??? A warning talk given in the hall her mom goes to?

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A VERY Few Good Men!

by SophieG in

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i know there are so many heartbreaking stories on here where people have suffered at the hands of tyrant elders.

i have my own stories too.

now looking back i realize that those type of elders probably had authentic assclown personality syndrome to begin with and being in a position of leadership just made it worse.. .

SophieG

Phizzy: Maybe the WTBS ia a personality killer?

mum: thanks, I WAS VERY LUCKY!

These are the kind that get more attention here because these are the men that caused the pain and damage to many people. Many of them sought out these Elders for HELP and got kicked while they were down.

I had ONE run in with the CoE and I learned really fast: Do not run to the elders to solve your problems. I know we were encouraged to turn to them in times of need, but I was SHOCKED at how to the COverseer spoke to me when I was the endangered spouse. I never aked them for help ever again. I got really quiet and solved my problems myself and that silence is what drew the kinder brothers out....because in my silence they SAW what I was really putting up with.

BTW that crazy COverseer apologized years later to me for being an ass.

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If ARMAGEDDON Came, Would YOU Repent?

by Cold Steel in

the day finally comes.

you get up one day with the nagging feeling that it's going to be different.

you get dressed, get in the car, then notice how dark the weather's getting.

SophieG

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ueAYUp4rHZI

I will be the kid!

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A VERY Few Good Men!

by SophieG in

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friends

i know there are so many heartbreaking stories on here where people have suffered at the hands of tyrant elders.

i have my own stories too.

now looking back i realize that those type of elders probably had authentic assclown personality syndrome to begin with and being in a position of leadership just made it worse.. .

SophieG

I know there are so many heartbreaking stories on here where people have suffered at the hands of tyrant elders. I have my own stories too. Now looking back I realize that those type of elders probably had “authentic assclown personality syndrome” to begin with and being in a position of leadership just made it worse.

But then there were a few good men who crossed my path, Big Brothers, whose genuine personalities were warm and caring. You all know the type: the one EVERYONE goes to when they have a problem. These were the ones who took did not side with my abusive ex and were brave enough to take him to town over how he was treating me. These are the ones who recognized my strength while dealing with abuse and encouraged me. They spoke to me as a “fleshly little sister” and a friend. I suspect these same big brothers are the reason why I have been able to fade. They don’t bother me…try to find me…they have left me alone and SO FAR honored my request to leave me alone and let me live my life. I think one of them in particular, IS AWAKE, but cannot leave because he may lose his family. Because of him, I am here. Things he said to me actually led me out. Weird isn’t it?

I stand back from a distance and look at the WTBS. It’s crazy! It’s just like any religion to me at this point. But inside there are good people who are only trying to do what they think is best. These are the people I hope wake up and join me in a life of freedom.

Just feeling it this morning…and wanted to share. Have a great day, you guys!

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Was the TM School really any good ?

by Phizzy in

many of us were members of the theocratic ministry school for many years.

some say it helped them with public speaking, and maybe it did for some.. but, when you look back at the quality of student it turned out, was it really any good ?.

most elders are crap public speakers, most r&f bros are crap at reading aloud, most jw's are crap at selling their religion at the door, most jw's have scant real knowledge of the bible.. there are reasons for this, quite often the tms overeer hasn't a clue how to teach a person to progress.

SophieG

Julia: And I'd fail until I gave them what they wanted... What the heck??? That’s crazy!

The TMS has had some benefit to some people. I have seen really bad speakers…even those who stammer, become great speakers. When I first signed up for the school, I liked it because it allowed me to be the actress the org squashed. My talks were fun or funny…I mean…me and the householder bouncing in the chairs to simulate witnessing on a bus!!! Now, where is my Oscar?

But towards the end, I grew to dislike it, ESPECIALLY that blasted assignment where all you had was a reference point and had to build on it. The SO always assigned it to me. I got to the point where I was just reading straight from some publication…with me doing most of the talking and the HH reading a scripture and nodding.

My last memory of the TMS was having a quiet riot with the SO who was like a big brother to me. He was trying to hand me a slip and I refused to take it…him begging me to fill the assignment…me saying: “I want off the school…”. I felt bad that I was letting him down, because up till then I always filled my assignments, but my brain was mush and I just could not do it anymore.

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Former COs that Become Inactive

by Bob_NC in

some long years ago a circuit overseer told me that the area he was from had several former cos that had "left the road" as they call it and were just sitting on their laurels.

he said that they don't pioneer and some were irregular publishers.

a different co made a remark to the effect of "you think that servants or pioneers live a restricted life, cos are under the supervision of the service dept.

SophieG

James Jackson:

What about John Graeff? He left Alabama for Texas, then disapeared.

Was he a young tall single CO? If we are talking about the same guy...HE DID disappear! Wow!

*edit* I recall thinking: "why is this young dude who seems fairly intelligent and one of the funnier COs, SINGLE?"

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Funeral this Saturday, looking for suggestions

by Tameria2001 in

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my husband will be going (unless he has to work) to his jw aunt's funeral this coming saturday (6-29-13).

he will be riding up with one of his other aunts (not a witness).

i refuse to go because i just hate those people that much, that if it were my mom's funeral i still would not go.

SophieG

Personally, I think a lot of how things go down is because of your attitude. You are entitled to show respect for the person who passed away and show support by your presence. It’s about dignity. Those ‘people’ cannot take that away, unless you give it to them. You have every right to be there just as they do. They want to shun/ignore you: let them. Be a bigger person in their house. The ones that approach you, thank them profusely.

The last funeral I went to no one shunned me because I walked in acting like I belonged there. I did, I had every right to offer my sympathies and condolences, regardless if I had not set foot in a KH in 3 years. I walked up, hugged and spoke to the grieving family. I grew up with these people. I spoke to everyone else like it was no big deal. The most radical thing you can do, is MAKE THE FIRST MOVE. Then they have no choice but to acknowledge you, especially if you are a greiving family member.
The the best part of being there, was the PO of the congregation where my crazy ex goes to, came across the aisle and gave me a firm handshake.

I am a fader. If I were DF’d, I’d still do the same.

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Falling asleep whilst praying..

by punkofnice in

when i believed in jehovah(tm), i'd pray to him at night.

i'd doze off.. i remember admonition from the podium that it was disrespectful to doze off during our personal prayers to imaginary sky god jehovah(tm).. i'd wake up.

say sorry to jehovah(tm) then either carry on grovelling or just end it.. one thing's for sure, asleep or awake, pray or not it makes no difference........no one's listening!.

SophieG

I always thought that admonition made Jehovah look like a tyrant. It's disrespectful to fall asleep while praying to him. Really?

I thought he was a loving God, all knowing and understanding, who can hear my unuttered pleadings. He must already KNOW my butt is tired from trying to keep up with a busy spiritual/secular schedule, I am sure he understands if I trail off and fall asleep. But then I guess the WTBS would equate that to: "Would you nod off during a conversation with a King?" Which is so confusing, why would you compare the highest being in the Universe to a mere human king who is imperfect and may lop my head off just because he can...? I thought Jehovah was better than that...circular reasoning back to being a loving God.

But I digress.

I saw it as another way the WTBS wanted to control ALL aspects of our lives. HOW DARE they interefere with something this personal and try to guilt me about my prayers!

*edited* to LOLOLOLOL@ Terry! Touche!