Posts by Roamingfeline

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It Really Was A Numbers Game!

by Englishman in

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did you know that a decline in meeting attendances was once taken as a sign that wrongdoing had taken place in the congregation?

see what you make of this:.

in the early 60s, when i was but a callow youth and still living at home with my parents, a very anxious jw mum came a-banging on our door.

Roamingfeline

Good post, Englishman. It seems to have gotten lost in the crowd, here.

I remember the same. We were told that same sorry excuse for lack of meeting attenders and field service hours several years ago. Shortly after that, we had a big turnover in elders. Some were removed and others brought in from surrounding areas to "build the congregation back up". Basically, our elders had gotten a big head, and were "beating the flock" until morale improved.

Seems Jah's spirit must be lacking today, also, hmmmmm? lol Maybe that's why the witch hunts are beginning again!

This religions SUCKS.

RCat

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Does anyone know about ADD in adults?

by Mulan in

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friends

i really need some help guys.

my youngest son is getting married in 3 weeks to a really annoying .

young woman, 22. she has add and talks all the time!!

Roamingfeline

Aha! Now I see what you're talking about. The girl is smart, but SOCIALLY IGNORANT. This is the sort of "thick-headedness" that is most difficult to deal with. Not knowing what social boundaries are.
It wasn't learned in childhood. That is what my daughter does. And believe me, we have to work at it every day to teach her that there are things you just do not do. Like interrupt when adults are speaking unless it's a real emergency. Like not hitting your friend just because she's playing with the doll that you want to play with. Like not going to someone's house and asking them if you can eat their food or take something home that belongs to them because you would like to have it. Social skills. Common sense. Things that ADD people seem to not have picked up by osmosis.

Okay folks, I'll give you some advice here based on experience, for what it's worth. With these type of people you have to be VERY DIRECT. You must draw your boundary lines with no uncertainties left for her to bulldoze over them. If you do this consistantly, she'll get the message.

For instance, Mulan, if she starts to read over your shoulder? Minimize the screen, turn your chair around, look her directly in the eye, and ask, "Were you never taught that it is ill-mannered to read someone else's private letters?" Wait for her answer, and go from there. Don't let her cross your boundaries, and be consistant. She needs re-training. She obviously was not taught social skills in early childhood. OUt of love, you and your family can do this for her. She will thank you for it someday.

Once again, Good luck!
RCat

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Does anyone know about ADD in adults?

by Mulan in

jw
friends

i really need some help guys.

my youngest son is getting married in 3 weeks to a really annoying .

young woman, 22. she has add and talks all the time!!

Roamingfeline

Mulan,

My youngest daughter displays these symptoms. Her father was like that also. The main problem with this disease is IMPULSIVENESS. They start doing these things (interrupting, chattering, bossing, etc) without thinking about it first. Ridiculing them only makes it worse, because it hurts their self-esteem. Which is probably what has happened to her as she was growing up.

It's not easy to live with, believe me! My little one is five years old, and let me tell you, she talks a blue streak when people are around. Tells everything, and I do mean EVERYTHING she knows. My hubby once in awhile will just plain get tired of hearing her voice, and tells her, "I don't want to hear your voice for the next 15 mins!"
because you can't hold a conversation without her joining in with her .02! I realize she's slightly hyperactive, but that's the least of her problem. Impulsiveness is where it begins. No brakes. No sense to know when to stop. And she is the most curious human being I've ever known. Listens to everything and absorbs like a sponge! Highly intelligent, but waaaaaay too impulsive. Interrupting people and being extremely impatient are her hallmarks. We have to constantly remind her and repeat to her to control these behaviors.

On the more positive side, she's very sunny in her usual disposition, very joyful, loves nature, and is very loving. She's just talkative and opinionated! lol

My suggestion is to either you or your son have a chat with her, and let her know that certain behaviors are highly annoying and will not endear her to people.

What I have found that helps with my little one is constant repetition. She is so impulsive that she moves before she thinks. It can tire a person out just trying to be one step ahead of her! lol She has a very controlling personality. Her father was one to throw tantrums like a child and demand his way all the time. She'll use the same expressions and has the same attitude, and I know it can be very difficult to deal with on a daily basis!

Good luck, and I hope things get better!
RCat

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Funny story about VeniceIT

by Mulan in

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friends

by popular demand, i am yielding to pressure, to tell a story about our very own veniceit.. in march, venice and her parents were visiting us here in washington state, and we all had dinner at our daughter's home one evening.

(my daughter posts here as princess) princess's son, 4 years old, was quite taken with venice and was showing her around the house.

he was going up the stairs ahead of her, and turned around, face first at her rather, ummm, er, ample?

Roamingfeline

Rofl, Mulan, Ven won't speak to any of us if we keep this up! I'm starting to feel sorry for her! hehehehehohohohohahahahahaha...

RCat (okay, I'll take a breath now)

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To Amazing

by Bendrr in

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hi amazing.

i really appreciate your justice series posts.

it takes courage on your part to tell these tales, including your role in them even when you now regret what was done.

Roamingfeline

Yep, Amazing is simply.... amazing. Great job!

RCat

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WTS Deception on Alternative Military Service

by AlanF in

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until 1996 the watchtower society's official policy was that a young jw man who volunteered for alternative military service, rather than being imprisoned or letting a court sentence him to some kind of alternative civilian service, had violated christian neutrality and therefore was either to be disfellowshipped or declared to have voluntarily disassociated himself from the jw organization.

beginning in 1978, the governing body voted on changing this policy a number of times, and generally had a simple majority who voted for change, but because the gb had a policy that all changes needed a 2/3 majority, and that was never reached until 1996, the policy remained.. in 1996, it appears that jehovah changed his mind, and so via divine direction instructed the governing body to change its policy.

in the may 1, 1996 watchtower (pp.

Roamingfeline

Or what about all those older CO's and DO's who were imprisoned during WWII and bragged about being persecuted for Jehovah's name? I bet they're all feeling a bit silly now, don't you think? If memory serves me right, there was a CO named Seely who was imprisoned for this very thing. Wonder how he justifies that now, even to himself?

RCat

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SUMMER,MAKING TIME 4 FUN/RELAXATION

by Tina in

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friends

do we,can we,make time for ourselves?.

many of us exiting the wts were limited and restricted regarding our free time/vacation activities.most activities didn't meet with wts approval for various 'reasons'.

"worldly associations,is it 'wholesome'?

Roamingfeline

Hehe.. he says I gave him ALL his grey hairs..lolol Hey, we have sailing and beautiful beaches down here, too. You'll have to come see us on vacation sometime and go 4-wheeling on the sand dunes with us!

RCat

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SUMMER,MAKING TIME 4 FUN/RELAXATION

by Tina in

jw
friends

do we,can we,make time for ourselves?.

many of us exiting the wts were limited and restricted regarding our free time/vacation activities.most activities didn't meet with wts approval for various 'reasons'.

"worldly associations,is it 'wholesome'?

Roamingfeline

Hey Think,

I hear ya on the reading, sailing, going to movies, and especially the Sunday morning coffee and newspaper! One morning, we were sitting there, and hubby says, "What are we going to do today?" I said, "If we hurry, we can just about make it to Sunday meeting." He looked startled for a second, then burst out laughing when I winked. It feels so great not to have that cloud hanging over your head on Sundays!

Happy summer,
RCat

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SUMMER,MAKING TIME 4 FUN/RELAXATION

by Tina in

jw
friends

do we,can we,make time for ourselves?.

many of us exiting the wts were limited and restricted regarding our free time/vacation activities.most activities didn't meet with wts approval for various 'reasons'.

"worldly associations,is it 'wholesome'?

Roamingfeline

You mean, after all her bitching and shit-stirring, she had someone ELSE send you her email privately? ROFLMAO!!!!!!

Talk about the pot calling the kettle black! As I said, Passive-aggressive behavior at it's finest! Once again, I must raise my glass to Prisca, queen of the shit-stirrers! I can't hold a candle to that kind of nastiness! hehehehehohohohohohahahahahah (sides aching from laughing so much!)

RCat

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SUMMER,MAKING TIME 4 FUN/RELAXATION

by Tina in

jw
friends

do we,can we,make time for ourselves?.

many of us exiting the wts were limited and restricted regarding our free time/vacation activities.most activities didn't meet with wts approval for various 'reasons'.

"worldly associations,is it 'wholesome'?

Roamingfeline

So, you're thinking that coming into this perfectly nice thread, and causing a stink, is better than just stating your reply on the board?

Do you think it will shame Tina into unblocking her email so you can spew at her privately? I don't THINK so..

Besides, you've already ruined this nice thread, you might as well be hung for a sheep as a lamb, as they say. Go for it, spew away.

Anyone want some popcorn and drinks before the show starts? We might get to see a real old-fashioned cat fight! Maybe we could even have mud wrestling! Anyone got some dirt and water to throw in?

Oh, but maybe passive-aggressive Prisca is too well-bred for such a low class thing. She just runs into the thread, lights a LITTLE fire, blows on it to get it going, then runs out again! Bad form, tsk tsk tsk......

RCat