Posts by Xanthippe

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Are You Raising An Introvert?

by darth frosty in

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its not easy being an introvert in an extrovert worldespecially when youre a kid.

it is even more difficult if none of the adults in the kids life recognize that the child is an introvert.

this doesnt happen only when the childs parents are extroverts, but also with introverted parents who have never understood their own introverted nature.. .

Xanthippe

Thanks for this darth frosty. Lots of cross overs with HSP or people who have Sensory Sensitivity

http://www.hsperson.com/

One of the most interesting reply posts is 3rdgen who says as an extrovert

if we withdraw we ARE hurt, angry, or don't like the person. WOW what an eye-opener this thread is!

I've been aware all my life that as an introvert, when I withdraw because I'm wiped out from being around people all day the extroverts react as if I am being stand-offish or I don't like them but there is nothing I can do, I'm too tired to talk any more. Thanks for that 3rdgen, hopefully we can begin to understand one another a little better with all the information that is out there.

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It's my 25th yr anniversary of freedom

by rebel8 in

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approximately 25 yrs ago today, i left the borg forever.. .

thank you jwn/jwd for helping me heal by listening to me.

there are not many greater gifts than freedom..

Xanthippe

rebel8 freedom is great isn't it? I always enjoy your posts, I like rebels. Twenty-five years for me too.

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just what am I supposed to believe now??

by purrpurr in

while i'm glad i found this site, it has also crumbled to bits everything i've believed in my whole life.

i feel like the certainty, magic and wonder has gone out of my life.

this has left a huge hole in my soul.

Xanthippe

Hi Purrpurr, I know it's hard but the magic and wonder is still there, you will find it again. What makes you happy? Try and just chill for a while and don't worry about what it is all about. Looking after yourself, filling your needs will make you emotionally stronger and you will be more able to cope. Really I promise :) It's just the opposite of what we were taught, find out what makes you happy and look after yourself first. Then you will be able to find a new direction and start reading and exploring ideas. As for certainty, that has gone for good I'm afraid, but you will learn to love not having all the answers and trying to answer questions instead. Take care

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I had a Tarot card reading

by LisaRose in

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so, i am in washinton state visiting my son and his family and we went to a concert that had a fortune tellers booth, actually a gypsy wagon.

i decided to do something no jw would ever do, have a tarot card reading.

i wasn't really expecting anything, as i don't believe they are connected with the satan, but i don't believe they can actually read your future either.

Xanthippe

I'm curious, Xanthippe, did you also visit any mediums who gave you incorrect information? How did you arrange to meet these mediums who were accurate (I'm wondering how much they knew about you in advance)? - Apog

Two were in local pubs. One was advertised on a board outside and the other was in the local paper. I just walked in on the night, no appointments. One was at a Quaker Meeting Hall in the city and I just walked in on the night.

Did any give me incorrect information? Yes at the Quaker place the medium told me about someone who was very significant in my childhood who had a built-up shoe. Although I remember people who had built-up shoes, mainly because they had polio as children, I couldn't remember anyone significant.

Years later after my mother had died I was taking my dad to the hospital for his glaucoma test when he told me he had been born with a club foot and had worn a built-up shoe as a child until the foot was corrected. It was the first I had heard about it, he was seventy-four.

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I had a Tarot card reading

by LisaRose in

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friends

so, i am in washinton state visiting my son and his family and we went to a concert that had a fortune tellers booth, actually a gypsy wagon.

i decided to do something no jw would ever do, have a tarot card reading.

i wasn't really expecting anything, as i don't believe they are connected with the satan, but i don't believe they can actually read your future either.

Xanthippe

LisaRose I had a tarot card reading but it was vague.

However when I was doing all my research into life after death and reading books on NDEs and OBEs I visited several mediums.

Among other things, they told me my mother's name;

My husbands's name;

My husband's exact height;

My daughter's name;

The fact that my husband had a birth defect in his hand;

My job;

Events in my childhood;

That there were religious disputes in my family with people not talking to one another!;

That we have friends in New Zealand;

There was nothing vague, they didn't ask any questions and they told me specific facts like names. It was very interesting research.

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Volunteering.

by Jeannette in

since i left the watchtower a couple of years ago, i started volunteering 3 hours a week at a wecare center.

it's like goodwill.

well, i've been there approximately 9 months, and yesterday i received a lovely thank you card from them.

Xanthippe

Xanthippe wrote, "All I got for pioneering for 10 years was a demand letter to give my discount literature back when I stopped! Charming."

You have got to be kidding, right? I understood that they were tight and greedy by that's extreme so.

Imminent1975, it's quite true. I remember opening the letter, realising it was from the society and scouring it for a single line of gratitude for my hard work. Not a word! I had to stop pioneering because I was so exhausted and ill so I remember needing some encouragement that I had done well, but I didn't get any. Never mind it was another nail in the coffin of my WTS beliefs. We left a couple of years after that.

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Hello

by lurkernomore in

i thought it was high time to introduce myself (without my name of course).

as my name would suggest i have been reading your intriguing post, thoughts and discussions for some time now.

around 3/4 months to be exact.. i guess to start with it would seem fitting to give a little background on my current situation.. i'm a born-in, but have over the last few years found that through a number of varying occurences, (some of which i may discuss in future posts) that my 'zeal' has gone from regular field service and meetings to no service in over a year and very sporadic meeting attendance.

Xanthippe

lurkernomore I am so glad your wife is with you that makes so much difference. Keep posting, keep reading

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Perfect Relationship, He Still Broke Up With Me

by tiff21390 in

last month, my best friend of four years and boyfriend of six months came home from a jehovah's witness convention.

he'd been acting strangely the entire weekend and i knew something was wrong.

i initiated a discussion and he said, "essentially our relationship is wrong and i'm not supposed to be with you.

Xanthippe

Tiff, welcome and we are here for you.

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Advice about going to Meetings...................oh why didn't I listen...LOL!!!!!

by KateWild in

i have been back to meetings for a month now.

prepared for them all except for when i went on holiday.. todays wt is about jehovah's organisation, it's clear loaded language and manipulation through fear.

i am not perturbed by it in the least.

Xanthippe

I don't know Kate why didn't you listen? xxxxxxx

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Just curious...how did you find Jehovah's Witness Net?

by cultBgone in

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the influx of new posters made me wonder if the push to view jw.org is helping curious ones find this support site?.

please post whether you found jwn during an internet search or if someone told you about it.. i myself was directed here by a df'd family member once i shared my doubts with that person..

Xanthippe

till cantleave stepped in and reassured everyone i really am a mentally diseased apostate - bigmac

Lol, I like your posts you make me laugh.