Xanthippe

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  The Way JW Females Act

  by LaurenM in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  the more i interact with non-jw men and women the more i notice that i still behave like a jw woman.

  when i interact with people (men especially) i find myself being super submissive and docile.

  acting like i don't have a brain and can't make decisions on my own.

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  Lauren you need to try standing up for yourself in small things that do not threaten your job and gradually it will sink into you subconscious that the sky will not fall when you do. When you feel safer you can go onto bigger steps.

  Give up now on having everyone like you. It's impossible, some people will like you, some won't, some will just not care. That's normal. Once you know this you will stop trying to get everyone's approval.

  If you are submissive to men you will attract domineering men. People who bully others should not be welcome in your life, whether they are male or female. I'm sorry to have to be straight with you but a lot of life is about deciding certain behaviours are just wrong and that you won't accept them. The sooner people know you feel this way the sooner you will attract the right kind of people. I was a JW woman by the way, just so you know.
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  Looking for Anton irons

  by Super ted in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  anybody know where he is now?.

  i have a friend who wants to get in touch..

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  Perhaps he went back to Billericay, Essex where his family is from.
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  Proof of any Dragons

  by pleaseresearch in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  does anybody have any proof of the existence of dragons?.

  we read in revelation about satan being the dragon, but aren't dragons mythological creatures?.

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  Another Komodo dragon, I think that's the fire he breathed in the background
  
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  Proof of any Dragons

  by pleaseresearch in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  does anybody have any proof of the existence of dragons?.

  we read in revelation about satan being the dragon, but aren't dragons mythological creatures?.

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  Komodo dragon.
  
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  JWs Do Not Know How To Think

  by xjwsrock in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i recall a conversation i had after an international convention.

  it was recently in the united states.

  the one where they played the jesus drama and all that.

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  Jesus sounds like a super hero. It sounds like a super hero's origin story.

  I love the way you think outside the box.

  They paused and picked up talking on a completely different topic

  Story of my life. People often do this when I say things
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  Just threw away...

  by stephanie61092 in

  1. watchtower
  2. medical

  so even though i don't drive much because public transit is so good where i live (and parking is a living nightmare), i always had a paper taped onto my glove box that said "no blood transfusions - jehovahs witness.

  see legal documentation in wallet.

  going through this "wake up" process as been a very crazy, emotional experience.

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  That's great Steph, you really want to live now don't you. A little while ago you weren't so sure. Welcome to the rest of your life.
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  Only a few days ago I was entirely lost and without hope the rug was pulled out from under me

  by elderess in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  only a few days ago i was walking around the house in a mindless wander thinking if i needed to seek professional help.

  then i got the courage to seek the comfort of complete strangers on the internet and found a world of support here on this website.

  thank you simon and whoever else has made this website possible.

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  That is such wonderful news! After your first thread you disappeared and I was really worried you'd just given up and gone back to the religion. I am so very thrilled for you and your husband. Please take it very, very slowly with your children. Get used to the idea yourselves first and then proceed with great caution so you can keep in touch with them and not lose them. Your plans for the future sound awesome! 🎄🎂🎈🎉🎁💜
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  Urging More Lurkers To Sign Up

  by freemindfade in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i have seen a lot of new posters intro stories on here, also updates from those who have been around for a while.

  i just want to take 1 post to beg those reading to speak up.

  it was a big turning point for me and one of the best decisions i made.

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  Freemindfade your topic is working, or something is. Every time I come on this forum several new people are introducing themselves. A great big welcome to you if you have just joined this site or have been reading quietly for some time.
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  Advice needed

  by Peony in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  can someone tell me the scriptural basis (according to jw's) for shunning disassociated ones.

  only asking because i don't remember (probably wasn't that interested) i'm sure the shunning in the scriptures was just applied to disfellowshipped.

  i've only been out 3 years but i seem to have forgotten any scriptures or reasoning!

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  Hi Peony I think they use this scripture but it's been a very long time for me too so I'm not sure.

  
  

  If anyone comes to you and does not bring this teaching, do not take them into your house or welcome them. 2 John 1 : 10 NIV

  
  

  I think in the NWT it replaces don't welcome them with do not say a greeting to them, hence the silent treatment.
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  Fading is never 100% successful is it?

  by nicolaou in

  1. social
  2. family

  mum phoned last night to see how we all are.

  after fifteen years away from meetings and my old jw life you'd think my fade could be called 'successful' and for the most part it is.

  .. my resentment at being lied to and having wasted over thirty years of my life has left me like a glass of water full to the brim, it only takes a tap to make a mess.

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  One thing I've realized though is that it's not unique to JW families and upbringing. Sure, there are JW specific elements to it but most families are messed up and dysfunctional in some way it seems but everyone pretends that everything is fine and puts on a good show for public consumption. - Simon

  I'm glad you said that Simon. I've tried to say this before and some get very angry on here with me. Yesterday in my work I was helping a lady well over 70 print out a map to go to her sister's funeral. She didn't know the way to her sister's house. I didn't say anything because it's none of my business of course, but this happens more than you think.