Good thread. I can totally relate.
I never thought I would be considering that it would be a relief losing contact with my family. For me family has always been everything. I had a long conversation with my Mum and my sister when I went home several weeks ago to do some odd jobs that needed doing at my mum's house - I told them I was no longer going to the meetings.
Since then I had one text from each of them. I decided to bite the bullet and call them this evening. My sister was not quite as chatty as usual and kept the conversation short before handing me over to my mum. My mum proceeded to talk at length,gushing about a gift a sister in her cong had given her which was a recording and notes of the AGM (my mum despite being a regular pioneer for many years and a regular auxilary - she can't now due to ill health - was the only one of the family except me not invited) and how her cong had been chosen to be hosts for the international assembly next year and what a wonderful privilege it was. It all sounded very much like she was making a point. Asked me a couple of quick questions about what I was up to. Without any follow up questions from her I realised I had nothing else to say to her so said I had better let her get on. They are both so involved in "the truth" that they are not really interested in conversation about anything else. With both of them, despite doing their best to be chatty I could sense pain in their voices. Does it really have to be so hard?
With my lifestyle as it is (a boyfriend who I dare not mention and socialising with "worldy" friends), there's not really much I can offer anymore. And I realised that it would be easier if they did just bite the bullet and shun me. I totally get what you mean when you say it's like trying to reason with the Taliban. Mine aren't quite that fanatical but they are totally consumed with JW life. They have nothing else. I hope they don't find out the real truth about the truth, for their own sake. It would destroy them. On the other hand I don't want to live with a constant feeling of disapproval in my life. Very sad.