All the reasons you list is why I no longer care for "waking" people up, but want to see reform happen.
I would rather the people I love that are still in the organization have a less oppressive environment than have them go through that emotionally turbulent crisis of faith.
Yes, it sucks that they believe lies.
But so does every religion that has magical thinking.
The things that make JWs unique is specifically the level of behavior and information control the org inflicts on the flock.
If they went down to church on the corner levels of control and brainwashing, I would see that as a huge victory.
As it stands, the religion I woke up from in 2014 is no longer the same religion. That Watchtower has crumbled. The Watchtower of Rutherford's time has crumbled.
What we're left with today is watered down.
For the sake of our loved ones still in it, lets hope it continues to be watered down even further.