Posts by waytodawn

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A Jehovah's Witness in a relationship with a non-Jehovah's Witness

by KShelton in

my name is kevin shelton.

my wife is a jehovah's witness.

my two children are jehovah's witnesses.

waytodawn

Hi Kevin,
it's been a while since your post here.

I was basically raised as a JW and felt to young for any romantic relationship when I was 17...
not because I liked to... I was totally into a girl which was 3 year younger than me.
But my JW education told me to wait and keep calm until we both were in a age to be married.

This is ridiculous.

The young one need to be able and free to explore their feelings. A 13 year old might be to young to marry... yes... but he or she needs to understand the own feelings... its difficult during puperty, yes... but why not let them explore it?

And the next thing is: yes... the other part of this relationship is not a Jehovas Witness... it is not a official requirement to marry only Jws. But you wont get any support if you do not marry within the organization. You wont get any privileges (because as a brother you cannot be a good head of the family, when the wife is a non JW).

Leave them be... let them make their own experience, just help them stay true to moral principals and the law if necessary.

I wish you guys luck...

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Depression & Isolation

by TxNVSue2023 in

i've been recently reinstated & am very happy about it.

i do love righteous (love & justice) and i do hate wickedness ( selfishness & sin).

i do love jehovah and the bible truths & wisdom.

waytodawn

Why would you go back?
You noticed by yourself: Talking to them about your issues will isolate you even more.

Jehovahs witness consider them as happy people. Basically you might have done something wrong.... "do you not believe enough?"

I had some issues when I was a teenager. Basically I lost myself... I did not know who I was. But I knew I was not to tell anyone within "the truth" about my truth, because I didn't want to be labeled as "spiritual weak" (or a similar english expression) ...
Do you really think you need this pressure?

You need to surround yourself with people who like you for the person you are.

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My parents did not really shun me when I left but I am now breaking their hearts…

by sinboi in

if they have shunned me and chase me out of the house when i leave the cult, i would not give a damn.

i can still feel their love and concern for me even now.. though i have moved out voluntarily when i joined the army, i am afraid that the life i am living now will break their hearts.

i am now a bartender in a bar and am cohabiting with a woman.

waytodawn

Wait... you joined the army and they approved?
And you are afraid they won't approve you living with a woman?

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Fading is better then completely leaving...comments?

by Witness 007 in

i got the internet in my house and realised it's all lies....but as a pioneer/ministerial servant i chose to fade.

see i had family and friends who were fully strict witnesses.

so i played the poor lost soul brother who is not sure what's happening.

waytodawn

Fading can work, but it doesn't have to, due to many circumstances like family, friends who will try to involve you when they see any changes in your behaviour.
Your have to figure it out by yourself.

I had a pretty tough time between 2001 and 2003, where I lost myself and tried very hard to find it between the watchtowers. Nobody suspected anything - even myself - when the big change came around 2003, when I was finally able to locate my problems and do something about it, when I disassociated myself from the congegration. In this time I did stuff, everyone would warn you (went to clubs... got some friends from "the world" and many more). But it was never with the intention to fade. I tried to do my best in the congegration, without loosing my freedom and do what I like.
But in 2003 I knew exactly what needed to be done, when I got a worldly girlfriend and I finally got someone to back me up... to support me.

Fading might help you keeping your contacts... but it might also mean to slowly die from within without you noticing. You need to feel comfortable.

In Germany we have a phrase:
"Lieber ein Ende mit Schrecken, als ein Schrecken ohne Ende"...