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  Advice please...teenager stuff

  by Aussie Oz in

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  Scully

  Both my girls have used gauges in their ears. Both of them outgrew the desire for them on their own, without interference from me. What do you think might have happened if I'd made an issue of it??

  To answer your question though, prepare to have her move in with you. Clearly she does not want to abide by JW rules, and her mum and step-father want to shove those rules down her throat. Have a sit down with her prior to her moving in and make it abundantly clear that while you are far more liberal than her mum and step-father, you are concerned about her safety and, as jamiebowers said, will not tolerate drug or alcohol abuse, you expect her to be responsible for her overall well-being (eating disorders) and particularly so when she is sexually active (birth control) and she has to take school seriously. Set curfews for her, give her chores and an allowance, and once she's old enough to get a job, she should get one.
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  Anyone watch "Grimm" ?

  by Glander in

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  i have never seen an episode but my wife loves the show.

  we just heard today that our 18 yr. old granddaughter will be an extra in an episode filming now.

  guess i'll have to watch it.

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  Love it!
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  untitled

  by iknowall558 in

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  im an ex jw, out 3yrs after spending 24yrs of my life in the organisation.

  i spend most of my time on fb exposing the org and having conversations with active jws.

  i have recently agree to a 'bible study' with a woman, a grandmother, who is a regular pioneer and has only been a jw for 5yrs.

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  http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/shun

  Definition of SHUN

  : to avoid deliberately and especially habitually <shuns publicity>
  - shun·ner noun
  Examples of SHUN

  He shuns parties and social events.
  After his divorce he found himself being shunned by many of his former friends.
  Origin of SHUN

  Middle English shonen, shunnen, from Old English scunian
  First Known Use: before 12th centuryRelated to SHUN

  Synonyms: avoid, dodge, duck, elude, eschew, evade, finesse, get around, scape, shake, shirk, shuffle (out of), escape, weasel (out of)

  Related Words: miss; avert, deflect, divert, obviate, parry, prevent, ward (off); ban, bar, debar, eliminate, except, exclude, preclude, rule out; bypass, circumvent, skirt; foil, fox, frustrate, outfox, outsmart, outwit, overreach, thwart

  Near Antonyms: accept, court, embrace, pursue, seek, welcome; catch, contract, incur
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  I would like to try different kinds of flavored toothpicks.

  by Iamallcool in

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  there are so many different kinds of flavored toothpicks.

  what is your recommendation?

  thanks!

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  I should lock this thread on the principle that some people don't deserve attention and need to be slapped upside the head for asking dumb questions that don't belong here.
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  Cutting the emotional ties with family

  by feenx in

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  it's been quite a while since i posted here... so hello everyboday!.

  this time of year is always an interesting one for me emotionally.

  my parents anniversary, which we all know was the one thing anyone ever celebrated, is two days after my birthday.

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  I think what a lot of us are mourning when we lose our family to the JW mindset, is not so much the people they are, but the people we hoped they could be. Our idealized notion that "family" would mean more to them than ties to a belief system.

  We are not orphaned in a literal sense, but because of the JW belief system we find that we have to fend for ourselves, with a very important support system denied to us. We are, in a very real way, all alone in the world.

  It's okay for these reminders to haunt us. When a family member dies, the days on the calendar that mark important events become bittersweet because of the loss. We remember the good times with that loved one, and feel the sting that the person is no longer there. You can bet that the JW relatives feel that sting too, but they are the ones who chose the path of shunning over the path of love and acceptance and tolerance. They drew the line in the sand, and they must live with their choice just as we must live with it.

  It takes time, but it is important to cultivate new friendships and build a new "family" around us. They can help soften the sting of the past, of the family that rejects us in favour of their so-called faith. We don't have to settle for a life without community. It's something we can choose and embrace, when we find people who accept us for who we are, who don't base their opinions about us on the hours on a Field Service Report™. They can have interests similar to ours, or ones that open up a world of diversity for us and help us learn new things and have experiences that we never would have had otherwise.

  Most of the time, I don't give the JWs I used to know a second thought, I realized that I gave them far more of myself than they deserved and I really didn't get anything back for my care and compassion for them. But, like you, I have days when I think about my JW family members and wish how things could be different, and then I think about what having them back in my life would cost in terms of going back to the belief system. It isn't worth the price I'd have to pay to have them in my life. I could never relinquish my ability to think critically, to unsee what I've seen, to un-know the things I know. My freedom - mentally, emotionally, spiritually - is far too valuable.
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  I think I will take a break from JWN for few days

  by Iamallcool in

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  Scully

  How she chooses to spend her money is none of your business. I thought we covered that, Mr Gold-Digger.
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  How do deaf people think?

  by Iamallcool in

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  some of you know that i am deaf.

  http://www.todayifoundout.com/index.php/2010/07/how-deaf-people-think/.

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  We recently had a visit from some relatives, one of whom is completely deaf since the age of 5 years. He can speak - he re-learned how to speak by observing lip movement and feeling air movement as his teachers spoke.

  My knowledge of sign language is very limited - mostly to finger spelling and some common words. He really appreciated the effort.
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  Which apple do you like the most?

  by Iamallcool in

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  I like Golden Delicious to go with my breakfast and Cortland for baking because it doesn't turn brown too quickly.

  I guess it was more of a coffeebreak than a weekend getaway.
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  I'm Hungry & Want Some Ideas For This Weekend, Please

  by minimus in

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  any suggestions?.

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  PB&J not cutting it anymore?
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  Another Facepalm - "Higher Education Wastes Valuable Youth Years"

  by God_Delusion in

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  2. bible

  hi guys,.

  if you've been following my posts on here, you'll know that i've recently been fascinated by the april 15th 2008 study edition of the watchtower magazine - namely the 'repudiate valueless things' article.. here are my previous posts on this masterpiece of watchtower propaganda:.

  http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/watchtower/beliefs/230616/1/going-beyond-what-is-written-in-the-biblehttp://www.jehovahs-witness.net/watchtower/bible/230643/1/how-could-i-have-not-realise-i-was-in-a-cult-for-all-that-timeif there were awards for the most in-your-face brainwashing, this article must surely be up there.. anyway, in the 'repudiate valueless things' article, the watchtower society decided to add their bit on higher education.

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  What, though, of higher education, received in a college or a university? This is widely viewed as vital to success. Yet, many who pursue such education end up with their minds filled with harmful propaganda.

  Translation:

  We don't want anything interfering with our filling your minds with our own harmful propaganda.