does looks really matter in love?
would you go out with someone who was not physically attractive if he/she had a big heart on the inside, a great personality, lot's of things in common with, etc...i guess i'm asking what's more important to you the person on the exterior or who he/she really is underneath?.
lara
Very interesting information, Wick. Thanks for posting it.
Personal observation...I've noticed that posters who have attractive pictures on their profile seem to be more popular on this discussion board. (Even when it turns out it isn't their real picture..the perception has been made)Indeed, I take great delight in using a goofy-looking pic. I can only imagine what perception this puts in people's minds, but whatever it is, I don't care.
does looks really matter in love?
would you go out with someone who was not physically attractive if he/she had a big heart on the inside, a great personality, lot's of things in common with, etc...i guess i'm asking what's more important to you the person on the exterior or who he/she really is underneath?.
lara
April,
That was a beautiful post, one of the most beautiful I have read here. Down to your "Grow old along with me..." quote and your J'accuse reference. That's the way to my heart, all the things you just said in the way you said it.
And I'm quite sorry to hear of your ordeal, and glad to see how you seem to have resolved it.
Thanks for making my day with that post!
it is indeed strange, yet understandable to observe the "kneejerk" reactions you get when you point out possible .
flaw's with the mighty us of a, "god's own country".
even from people who should have learned not to have that .
Kent,
I reiterate what puppylove said: You have either made an incorrect assumption or have been given bad information. The U.S. is inundated with Olympic news, and is also doing very well in the games. I'm surprised you would think the U.S. wouldn't care. After all, what better forum is there to sell products? Naturally the U.S. gets involved, because the corporations push it heavily.
it is indeed strange, yet understandable to observe the "kneejerk" reactions you get when you point out possible .
flaw's with the mighty us of a, "god's own country".
even from people who should have learned not to have that .
ROFL, you are so right! My mistake. When you said it "stands out" from the rest of the world, and then proceeded to describe nationalism, I read it as if you were desciribing nationalism in the rest of the world in contrast to America.
Sorry about that. No wonder what you wrote fit America so well! [:)}
it is indeed strange, yet understandable to observe the "kneejerk" reactions you get when you point out possible .
flaw's with the mighty us of a, "god's own country".
even from people who should have learned not to have that .
path,
I'm not trying to be argumentative, but did you re-read this section of your post?:
American nationalism stands out from the normal love of country that many have around the world. It seems to almost be a religion indoctrinated from childhood that they are better than the rest of the world.You say America is not this way, yet your description fits America perfectly. Americans are taught that they are better than people elsewhere, by means of propaganda, their role in the world is exaggerated, their knowledge of other cultures is weak, we are emotionally controlled through nationalism into doing the government's bidding, making decisions based more on emotion than rational thought, so as to cheer when our sons go off to the war on terror.To me this indoctrination seems to have come from everywhere and is like propaganda. Their role in the world and throughout history has been exagerated. Their knowlege of other cultures is weak.
Nationalism is a tool governments use to control the people. It causes people to do the government's bidding, making decisions based more on emotion than rational thought. What better way to get mother's to give up their sons to go to war?
Seriously, this fits America perfectly.
does looks really matter in love?
would you go out with someone who was not physically attractive if he/she had a big heart on the inside, a great personality, lot's of things in common with, etc...i guess i'm asking what's more important to you the person on the exterior or who he/she really is underneath?.
lara
Don't want to sound shallow, but looks do matter to me, a guy might have a great personality, be kind, warm, and gentle, but if I'm gonna wake up next to him, I'm gonna like what I see...Guys are just the same, they want big breasts, nice ass, a pretty face, and any guy who says not is a liar.
I don't want big breasts in a woman. I'll accept her anyway, but that would be one strike against her.
How nice it is when you get the whole package, looks and personality. But if I have to choose, I take personality every time. When you wake up next to her, you don't see her less-than-perfect looks, you see the person you love.
the norwegian newspaper vg, reports: iraqi general nizar al-khazraji was the man behind the butchering of 180,000 iraqi kurds in 1988. he was one of saddam's faithful generals.
he later had to flee iraq and is living on a secret address in denmark.
he is under investigation by the danish police.. ---------------------------------------------------.
I agree, but since the people who make the laws have been bought by the very people we would like to see banned, I doubt it will happen.
the norwegian newspaper vg, reports: iraqi general nizar al-khazraji was the man behind the butchering of 180,000 iraqi kurds in 1988. he was one of saddam's faithful generals.
he later had to flee iraq and is living on a secret address in denmark.
he is under investigation by the danish police.. ---------------------------------------------------.
IW,
I wish I could think of some, but so far I haven't. Still working on it, but it's a real puzzle. When the power brokers control the propaganda, how do you get the message out without being marginalized and labeled a crank or a kook?
I do know that on a one-to-one basis you can help them see the reality of the situation. Once seen, a person never forgets. A grassroots effort of this nature might eventually help. But even here, the conundrum is that if anyone gets successful enough to cause a problem, the power brokers buy them off. The Sierra Club, for instance, the environmental cause, got infiltrated by the PR industry so as to defang their accusations against industry. We've seen how medical watchdogs get bought off by the pharmaceutical industry.
So the condundrum is: how do you find a way that is effective enough to bring about real change, while realizing that any group sufficiently effective will automatically become the target of those in power who wish to remain there? I haven't figured this one out yet.
self esteem.
now i have seen people write about the fact that they have low self esteem, as an xjw.
now, this not unique.
What you say is true. Alas, were it so simple!
Yes, self-esteem problems stem from childhood. The really serious ones do, anyway. An adult becoming a JW could develop self-esteem issues, but the really deep feelings come from childhood. And though it can help to be aware of the sources of this trauma, and telling yourself a mantra about your self worth can help, those who suffer deeply from this issue need therapy.
The subsconsious mind works on us so thoroughly and so deceptively, we hardly realize why we act the way we do.
first off i'd like to say how exstatic i am about finding this site.. finally i can get this off my chest, and to people who might understand.
well here goes.. my name is aaron and i am 25 years old.
i was born in and raised in san diego.
Welcome, Aaron! These "boring long rants" aren't boring to those of us who have lived through or witnessed similar things. We know how it was, and we understand.
Glad to have you here, and glad to see you posting. May your healing process continue.
