Very good thoughts Terry.
"Same brain in the skull": made me really think. I was a born-in, left after 35 years. Didn't have the smallest problem in the transition to atheism, AND YET, the brain that lead me to stay and practice a cult is STILL THERE. Made me think.
Actually we still show "cult thinking" long after we leave. I notice it - every day. And that is where the hard work starts. Working on yourself. Not a easy task.
I will say something that is "not politically correct" and will probably not get "thumbs up":
I do think that some kind of lying is part of human nature and even expected by others. I would say 90% of humans are never ready for the full blown hard truth in their faces. People like the "soft truth" (often a lie). A few examples that come to my mind:
"Sweetie, do you think I am fat?"
"Nope, dear, I love you as you are you should just take care and do some exercising."
versus
"Yes, I actually do think that very often. Matter of fact, sometimes I wake up and think you are a fat cow, but then I strike these thoughts out of my mind, because they are mean, but that is actually what I think of you. Eventhough I love you, you are fat."
Most people are not ready to TELL the truth or to HEAR the truth.
What is "truth" anyway??? Maybe today he thinks she is fat, tomorrow he sees someone that is even fattier and changes his mind and thinks his wife is in reality Olive Oyl. Truths change all the time. But that leads to another dilemma...you know what I mean.