Posts by siegswife

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Three of the most important question you will ever ask yourself:

by Chance in

at some point everyone asks these questions?

what is the meaning of life?

why has god let terrible things happen?

Did You Ever "Love" The Elders, The "Friends", The "Governing Body"?

by minimus in

jw
friends

please send your love to the governing body and pray for them!......

i love my elders!.....

i love the friends soooo much!.......were you a lover??

siegswife

Yes, I felt like I loved them in an abstract kind of way.

I loved the concept of them...the idealism of them. Even though I never fit in socially, I felt that I fit in with them spiritually. The dream that ~~was reality...~~ in reality was just a dream.

If nothing else, the JW's and WTS helped me realize that reality is alot better than a dream. I'd rather be happy with what is than miserable because of what isn't. There is no place to go that isn't reached from within yourself.

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Should I teach my kids about Santa Claus? (Lie vs. Harmless Fantasy)

by AlmostAtheist in

jw
friends

my wife and i got on a discussion about something i never would've guessed we'd need to.

she wants to teach our new baby about santa claus, easter bunny, & tooth fairy, but i don't.

of course, as witnesses we never would have taught that, and i have to acknowledge that i may only be reasoning using that old set of values.. i don't want to look into my kid's eyes and tell her something that i know for a fact isn't true.

siegswife

My 7 year old daughter believes in Santa. I don't think that her dad and I ever really started it (she heard about Santa from relatives, friends, TV etc.) but we've been playing along with it so far.

Ever since she started believing though, I've been saying stuff like "Daddy's Santa" or he has been making the claim that he's Santa. It's done in a joking way, and since we often joke around with her, she takes it as such. We've had some interesting occurences so far this year though.

First of all, some of her older cousins and her friends at school are no longer believers, and she's been hearing things. Two days ago, when she and her friend Tanya came home from school Tanya asked me if there really is a Santa. I just started whistling Christmas tunes and avoided the question. I did make the statement later that "I think daddy is Santa". That night I brought it up again to Rebekka by showing her a credit card receipt that Sig had signed that kinda sorta looked like it was signed "Santa". (His signature is really unreadable, but the way he had it written on the receipt ended up looking like it was a mixture of upper and lowercase letters that spelled Santa)

I told her that was proof that's who he is. That night I could tell that she was thinking about alot of this stuff while watching Rudolph the Rednosed Reindeer (which makes Santa and his elves look like a bunch of elitists IMO lol). I think she was recognizing how much fantasy is associated with the whole concept of the Santa story.

Yesterday we brought our suspicions to Tanya so now the girls have started a folder which contains documents outlining the similarities between Sig and Santa and plans on how to discover the truth of the matter. LOL

My point is that the Santa fantasy doesn't have to end up being about you lying to your kid. It's something you can use as a learning experience and have fun with at the same time. It's true that there is a level of disappointment when a child realizes that it isn't real...but that's part of growing up and learning.

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Poems anyone?

by Thunder Rider in

natures way .

crimson tears drift earthward on a cold wind from the north.

boughs and branches shed them with their movements back and forth.

siegswife

Simple Mind

I'm tired of you...

and your simple mind

that doesn't think

and requires long convoluted explanations

that defy all sense and reason...

and faith

You tire me...

with your long drawn out answers

that explain nothing

and create empty lifeless images

that defy reality and truth...

and faith

I hope you wake...

from your endless attempt

to simplify the simple

with exhausting mental gynastics

that defy love and life...

and faith.

Lfh

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Poems anyone?

by Thunder Rider in

natures way .

crimson tears drift earthward on a cold wind from the north.

boughs and branches shed them with their movements back and forth.

siegswife

Through The Family Photo Albumn

The little boy with golden hair
and an old man's haunted eyes
had no chance to be a child
and rarely, if ever cries.

He lost his mother at the age of eight
and because his father had to roam
was forced on various relatives
and left without a home.

The young man with dark brown hair
and serious, studious eyes
joined the army at just fifteen
by telling many lies.

He became a medic in Korea
and helped heal many a friend
but he can't forget the horror felt
watching some suffer to the end

Oh my father with balding hair
and deep sadness in your eyes
do you ever recall the little boy
who forced himself not to cry?

Though you seem to have a heart of stone
you're more sensitive than you tell
and I wish I could have known you
before you went into your shell

Oh my father who rarely speaks
or reaches out his hand
I believe I now know why you are...
I believe I understand

Lfh

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I'm worried about our 8-year-old -- anybody got any ideas?

by cruzanheart in

jw
friends

our 8-year-old son, jackson, is exhibiting the following symptoms:.

* disorganized (unfortunately, this has kind of been since birth but more pronounced now).

* hard to concentrate.

siegswife

Nina, Hi there! I'm inclined to think that your son is just a normal eight year old. It's easy for little kids to get overstimulated and stressed out. I remember when I was young there were times when I had so many thoughts running through my head that I couldn't really get a grasp on any of them.

This week my 7 year old daughter was having a hard time doing some very basic math homework. I had no idea where she was getting some of the answers she was coming up with. I started to get frustrated, even thinking she was acting that way because she didn't want to do her homework. The next thing I know is she burst into tears because she had a math test that day and didn't finish all the problems in the 1 minute time frame. I put her on my lap, told her that everybody has bad days and that it might even be that she wasn't expected to finish all the problems in 1 minute. During our conversation I realized that she is one of those people who gets nervous about tests and ends up second guessing herself...which was the problem she was having with her homework. She wasn't confident (especially after the test) that she really knows the answers. Anyway, her dad and I gave her a pep talk, went over some math problems with her and proved to her that she really does know it.

I babysit for another 7 year old girl after school during the week. This girl takes ashma meds like your son and is very creative and intelligent. Her problem is that in school and at home she has a very hard time focusing. She had a very bad day yesterday as there was a note in her folder that she had been given one hour to complete three simple tasks and didn't do any of them. When she was at my house after school I caught her poking a pencil into my ottoman, quite unaware of what she was doing. It was one of those days where she just couldn't find focus. My personal feeling about it is that she's overstimulated, probably partly from the meds she takes. She's involved in alot of activities after school (actually after 6:30 pm when her mom picks her up) and I have to wonder about that. I can understand that her parents might be trying to give her an outlet for her energy, but I'm inclined to think that she would benefit from some sort of instruction on how to relax.

I can understand your concern for your son, but I wouldn't be too quick to assume that it's some sort of medical problem. Young kids have external issues that can affect them in a negative way just like we do. It's up to us to help them learn how to recognize and deal with the stress of life in a positive way.

Lea

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An idea to help Dansk

by Mulan in

jw
friends

hi everyone.............i have a very sweet niece, whose husband has almost the same kind of lymphoma that dansk does, and i have been showing her the board's discussion about him and his responses.

she had this idea that i told her i would present to everyone to see what you think.

(doesnt' have to be prayer in the sense we used to think of it, just positive thinking) she is a university of washington educated psychologist, and an ex jw (since she was a young teen) and leans towards buddhism now.. <<i have an idea for people to try that i read about in.

siegswife

This is a great idea. I'm there too.

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Anyone ever had "rolfing therapy"?

by scootergirl in

jw
friends

i know...when i first heard my doctor mention rolfing i thought he meant throwing up!

lol.

february 26 of 2002, i was rear ended while at a complete stop by a 3/4 ton truck going between 30-40 mph.

siegswife

Thanks sg. I hope the rolfing works to alleviate your pain.

I keep pretty active but I'm limited in what I can do. The weird thing is that it bothers me most when I'm trying to get comfortable after working all day rather than while I'm working. Is that true for you too?

I don't like that I can't be as playful with my daughter as I'd like to be. I'm afraid to go on some rides at an amusement park (or pier as the case may be) and I'm not as "rough and tumbly" as my nature tends to be or as I was when her brothers were little kids.

Oh well, I'm old and broken and she best grow up to be a doctor...

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Anyone ever had "rolfing therapy"?

by scootergirl in

jw
friends

i know...when i first heard my doctor mention rolfing i thought he meant throwing up!

lol.

february 26 of 2002, i was rear ended while at a complete stop by a 3/4 ton truck going between 30-40 mph.

siegswife

Scootergirl, I think you should go for it. I never had rolfing therapy but I wish I did.

I was in a head-on car accident in the mid 80's and received a whiplash injury that I wasn't aware of until I went to a chiropractor in 1994. I guess they were too worried about my severely split lip and broken nose to focus on any possible whiplash.

Anyway, to make a long story short, I've been in pain since then. My neck is seriously misaligned and I've already had my c6 disc herniate for no reason other than the fact that my freakin' neck is bent backward!!!...but I digress...If there is a treatment available that can prevent you from suffering do it! A little bit of pain now is better than suffering constantly for years to come.

The way I've just described myself I sound like a freak, huh? LOL

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AlanF, and other "tree falling makes a sound" realist

by jst2laws in

http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/12/73007/3.ashx

you seemed to agree with my objection that sound is a matter of perception of energy waves, and that it is only our perception that makes it "sound".

but then you went on to say we should "avoid useless definitions that really tell us nothing", and then said "it's existence is independent of whether anyone or anything receives "a particular auditory impression".

siegswife

The energy the tree produced, only a small portion of which is detectable by mammals, is interpreted by our brains as a "particular auditory impression" we call sound. Without an "auditory impression", there was no experience we humans call sound.

I think it makes a sound even if no one is there to experience it. If a deaf person sees a tree falling does the tree still make a sound? All of the energy exists even if an auditary impression doesn't.