It really depends on how much political capital the elder has saved up in the bank. If the elder body does not like you, and your wife is a gossiping bitch who talks about other brothers with lots of watchtower "certificates of deposit", you will be removed!
We have a elder who tells everything to his wife, she is the first to call her family to inform them if a brother is going to be df'ed, her husband has been brought before the elders six times since I came to this Hall, nothing ever happend to gossiping Dave and Dana. Long-time elder and long-time pioneer allows priveledges others don't have!