its been a while that i came here due to so many ups and downs emotionally.. :(.
crazy that the family is so divided now that we cannot sit and talk (even though we pretend while attending meetings).
all i can think is this line from hotel california - "you can check out anytime you like, but you can never leave"... love the family so much that dont feel like hurting them.. this is killing me.. regards, miss confused!.
I'm sure there are many families who put on a happy act for the meetings and don't get on outside them. It doesn't make sense to me, I'm the person who points out the elephant in the room, but it doesn't always mean everyone else wants to.
Be true to yourself, and be aware of the consequences.
many, after leaving or being cast out of 'the society,' have felt so strongly so as to write a book.
some well thought out and good reading.. my questions are the following:.
if you were to write such a book what title would you give it ?.
Wolves in sheep's clothing
Or
The happiest people were tricked.
My book would be biographical, perhaps each chapter dedicated to a different person.
here's my story.
i'm 24 years old and i live in brazil.
i'm a 3rd gen born-in jw and all close relatives in the borg (parents, grandparents, uncles, wife, inlaws) except my little sister (she's 16 and didnt buy jw doctrine).
Welcome, some great advice above I can only reiterate. If you want to save her it will take time. If you think she is better with her family around her, it could be time to move on if there are no children involved .
if i wrote a letter of da to the congregation that only said i was da'ing with absolute zero reason.
how do you think theyd respond?
obviously an anouncement but im sure rumours would then start.
Hi Jon, I get what you are saying and yes you do not have to give a reason. I DA'd as i had been a "high profile" JW and no longer wanted any dealings with them, no interaction at all, fading worked for a couple of years but then they still wanted to poke their noses into my business and it seems enjoyed spying from a distance.
anything that you notice that would make you say, " yup, that's a jw"?
?.
Give them an easter egg, now they are no longer unspotted from the world
anything that you notice that would make you say, " yup, that's a jw"?
?.
2 women in skirts walking very slowly down the street, occasionally looking at the next house.
when asked about his religion & belief, he would tell people that his family are jws, and he used to be one.
but still he is very much against christmas and birthdays.
he seems to have no issue with new year.
I agree with smiddy. I've spoken to many ex JWs in my area and most will say that the JWs "have something" but they couldn't live up to it. When I point of they don't and it's all lies some have expressed relief others have backed off and not wanted to discuss it. Perhaps the thought of holding onto a belief system however flawed helps some, I'm not sure why myself but everyone's different.
hi all, i haven't posted here in quite some time.. just as an update, about two years ago, my wife and i moved to a big city about 500 miles away from the town in which we grew up.
we made this move in part to expedite the fading process, which was successful.
when we moved, as i described in an earlier post, we formally transferred from our home cong (where our families are) to a local cong in our new city, and then transferred twice more so as to get lost in the shuffle.
JWs love to gossip, if your names are announced they will say, "who was that?" and start digging. Through 6 degrees of separation it'll happen, I'm waiting to see it happen in my case. Just about everyone in the country I'm in that last came into contact with the last 20 years know about my announcement. My family live in a different country but I've not doubt news will get through to them.
joined this website in july 2010 and havent looked back...so happy to be watchtower free!!!!
(i was born feb 16th 1983).. i'll be 31 years old tomorrow and i feel indifferent about it.
as usually my mom said your gonna be 31 but she didnt say happy birthday.
Happy Birthday, you are entering the best years of your life. You still have your youth and a bit more wisdom. Have fun.
i will write my story soon... .
You have taken away any power and smugness they have over you, enjoy your freedom.
