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  Finally Free!!!

  by ADJUSTMENTS in

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  my wife and i are finally free of this horrible cult we will be leaving the south east for the north western part of the us to start anew!!!

  our friends and family have no idea of our new beliefs and feelings on the cult so it should be a nice clean break!

  hope to connect with some in that area pm me if you'd like.. .

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  happy@last

  Excellent news, wishing you all the best in the new chapter of your lives.
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  I Was Asked To Perform A Marriage Ceremony But Don't Know I'm Qualified

  by minimus in

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  my girlfriend's daughter and her fiancee asked me to marry them last night.

  they live in connecticut and will be married in new york.

  i felt honored that i was asked but i don't think i can do it because i am not a clergyman or minister and my u derstanding is that only clergy or judges and lawyers and justice of the peace can perform a wedding ceremony and marry a couple.. does anyone have any information on this subject?

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  happy@last

  "I married my brother" I actually gave the talk and did the vows but it always gets some concerned looks if I say that in a crowded room.
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  Has growing up as a JW affected my ability to forgive ?

  by troubled mind in

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  i really don't understand the concept of forgiveness .

  lately in my life several people have thrown that term around so easily ,and i am confused .

  is it because we were taught to cut people off so easily as jws that i find it hard to forgive ?.

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  happy@last

  JWs have a strange view of forgiveness, whereby a pedo can be forgiven but someone who doesn't believe in the teaching of 1914 cannot be forgiven!

  People do make mistakes and do so often, minor issues can normally be forgiven. If there is a pattern of the same mistake/indescretion then this becomes another problem entirely, you cannot forget and therefore forgive. Or you might make an exception if it is a minor issue but not forget, you can learn from it.

  If someone has lifelong difficulties due to another persons actions, as in the example you gave, then nobody has the right to tell them to forgive the perpetrator. Anyone who does something to deliberately upset or cause harm to another person cannot expect forgiveness. A person needs to work hard to be respected and not assume forgiveness.Of course there are also some very serious actions that people choose to make that simply cannot be forgiven, and I would put pedos into that category as well as others.

  In answer to your question, I hope growing up a JW has not affected your ability to forgive, I hope that morality and reason affects your abilities.
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  what does jehovah eat ?

  by bigmac in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  yeah yeah---i know--spiritual food.. .

  or maybe---beans ( human beans ).

  for those on here who still believe in a god---how do you perceive him / her / it ?.

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  happy@last

  ^^ I too found this quite a funny question coming from someone called Big Mac!
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  Leaving the JWs, experiencing Christianity and finding freedom! (But it took awhile)

  by im_free in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  this is my first post here.. i was raised in "the truth", and am an ex-bethelite who worked in brooklyn for several years back in the 90's.

  a few years after i left bethel, i started to become disillusioned after doing research about the society and reading crisis of conscience (i know..i wasn't supposed to do that lol).

  i eventually stopped attending meetings and going out in service.

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  happy@last

  Welcome im_free, so glad you've found a place for yourself. I for one cannot comprehend how a loving almighty entity would allow so much suffering for so long, being so unjust in punishing those who have disobeyed or not even had the opportunity to know them.
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  jehovahswitnessesexperts website

  by love2Bworldly in

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  are most people aware of this website?

  they have a video that is pretty interesting.

  it was too long though and i didn't have time to listen to the whole thing.

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  is it possible to raise good kids with out religious morals?

  by Princess Ashe in

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  making up my mind on how to teach my son values in life seems to be an on going struggle of what is right and wrong.

  being raised in a sheltered jw life until after leaving high school seems like going from one extreme to another of being over restrictive or under.

  trying to find that balance.

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  happy@last

  Religious morals are restrictedcto the religion, if they can be called moral! Of course good morals can be taught without any religious slant, without fear of eternal torment or loss of gods approval. You can still guide a child through life's situations pointing out the rights and wrongs.
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  Lurker no more

  by DaleRivers in

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  hi folks:.

  i've been lurking here all summer and i finally decided to take the plunge and join you all.. i'm a single, 53 y/o black woman living in the nyc metro area (usa).

  i was brought up around jws:mom's mom, mom and my favorite auntie were all in.

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  happy@last

  Welcome
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  my first post! (long read sorry in advance)

  by Letts Party in

  1. watchtower
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  long time lurker, first time poster here finally looking to get some things off my chest.

  i've always been a very curious person with tons of questions about everything, and i also care deeply particularly about societal issues like social injustice, racism, and homophobia.

  that, coupled with how boneheaded all the elders in my congregation are (except for one), led me to ask even more questions that led me to find ttatt.. .

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  happy@last

  Welcome here, it makes me so happy to know another person once mentally trapped is thinking freely. Be the best husband you can be, i wish you all the best on your journey. it may be a little bumpy but is so worth it.
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  Blown away-- where to go from here

  by All for show in

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  i stumbled upon this website a few weeks ago due to the jw.org ridiculousness, since then i haven't been able to pull myself away.

  the thoughts, feelings, and concerns i have had the past few years aren't just mine.

  it's global.

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  happy@last

  Welcome here AFS. It can be quite daunting realising its all nonsense. Don't worry though, and put your children first. You can instill good morals into them without anyone else's help. I walked out if an assembly as soon as they spoke of living in a spiritual paradise, it made me feel physically sick knowing first hand how most are treated if you don't fit into the clique.

  Take your time, enjoy the journey.