I'm glad the elders don't hassle you, it would be a lot tougher if they constantly belittled you and highlighted your failings when it comes to being a 'good publisher'. How sad for your mom too to have lost 2 of her children, I understand why you want to stay for her, and am glad you can do it on your terms.
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Short Introduction and Reply to Lazarus
by Fading Begins inhi lazarus - i'm new here, and i'm a little disturbed by some of the judgmental comments i have read here concerning your situataion.
isn't that what the borg has done to all of us?
each individuals situation can only be judged if that person walks in your shoes.
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Is the grass greener on the other side?
by What Now? inhi all.... so my mom phoned me up this morning and said she needed to talk to me about something.
she asked me whether or not our (worldly) family thought that my husband and i were witnesses anymore.
one, someone in my family said to her, "i didn't know you guys wear short dresses like that" - commenting on a slightly above the knee dress i had worn to a family event.
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happy@last
Hi What Now, it is always tough when you are at the crossroads, when the path you need to take is one you've never taken before, it's always easier to go for the one we think we know.
The path you know however is not reality, it is a veneer, it is superficial. The people you believe you can trust are not who you think they are. Could you trust them with any doubts you may have about the Watchtower society for instance, or would they tell you to see an elder about it?
As to instilling morals in your son, that's your job, not any religion or school, there are people all over the world who are not JWs with high moral standards, and there are many self help books for bringing up kids if you need a bit of guidance. You will never find a perfect society of people anywhere, but please for the sake of your sanity and your son live life for you, and not because someone else is telling you what to do and living in fear because you're not doing it according to their rules.
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Personal Updates
by Hortensia ini am not particularly interested in the wtbts and their current doings.
or doctrine, or debates about god/evolution.
i am more interested in people, especially ex-jws like me.
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I'm sitting in my office watching the snow falling, the drive in this morning was beautiful seeing the snow on the trees, when I went to bed last night there was no snow to be seen, it's lovely when it is fresh.
I am going into a police station tomorrow for a full day to give a statement about my JW abuser to do with events that took place many years ago, so I can hopefully get closure. I live no where near the area now, so have my bag packed and will fly out this afternoon (snow permitting).
I am normally quite a positive person, not so much today though.
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Okay kids!!I need prayers, karma, or good thoughts
by mouthy ini went to shut my door ( it has ice in the ledge) i shoved it with my side ugh!!!.
if i laugh or cough i near die with pain.i went to the hospital for xrays.
it is a torn muscle.
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happy@last
Sorry to hear this - wishing you a speedy recovery. Keep those hot water bottles topped up
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Anyone still "in" that is feeling physically sick??
by lostinnj83 ini really think that staying "in" just for family and friends is doing a number on my health.
i am currently in therapy for the mental part of all of this but i am phsyically sick every time i have to get ready to go to the meeting or service.
i get heart palpitations as well.
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happy@last
This is your nervous system making you feel this way. Read Self Help for Your Nerves by Dr Claire Weekes
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4 more sleeps till we fly to Australia !
by Hairyhegoat injust to update you all that we finally fly out to australia from the uk on the 13th.
me and sleeping beauty are getting out of the sinking ship that is the uk!.
will land in sydney on the 15th so will update you all once we get settled in.
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happy@last
Superb, fantastic, live life, bet you won't sleep the 4 nights because of excitement!
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Jehovah's Witnesses and restaurant bills
by usualusername indid you ever have the experience of going to a restaurant with witnesses and spending 30mins sorting out the restaurant bill?.
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thats something i miss since leaving... .
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happy@last
And I thought it was just Scottish JWs and my step father.
I've lost count the number of times I've paid 2 or 3 times the price of my families meal just to stop the embarrassment. I've never been in that position since leaving.
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happy@last
Welcome here, you're not alone in your thinking as you've discovered. Glad you realise you need to save your kids. All the best in your journey.
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Hello??
by franticfran ini have just joined this website and just wanted to say hello to anyone out there.
i am so nervous,after thirty odd years in the "truth" i feel as though my husband and i have just walked into a room full of smiling strangers and we are just standing here hoping to god someone will come up and speak to us.
scared and excited and hoping to wake up one morning and not wonder what we do now???
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Welcome, it's lovely to 'see' you here.
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If you had a JC and spilled your "Personal Beans" did you really think it stayed confidential?
by LoisLane looking for Superman inwe all "know" jc's are suppose to be private....so that the uniniated, innocent, can speak freely.
i say, uninitiated, because once you spill your guts and the elders use your embarassing, heart wrenching story as a lead off at their next get together/party, for a laugh, you have been initiated into your local brothers hall of fame.. so, are those jc's, really private?.
can you really talk privately, about your love of violent video games, masterbation, oral sex, shop lifting, doing drugs, or "doing" anything or anybody, and expect total confidentiality in the watch tower society elder world?.
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openmind - On the whole, the elders I served with over the more than 10 years I was one, maintained confidentiality. With a couple very shocking, irritating exceptions.
punkofnice - Yes. This was my experience. Whereas I kept my mouth shut, it was surprising which elder's wife had the 'goss'. Truly disgusting
Ditto - exactly the same here too