Posts by scratchme1010

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Witnesses really hate it when you appear to leave.

by schnell in

i have a certain customer, whom we will call sally.

i know sally only by face and only through work.

i am a truck driver on a local dedicated route, and i often deliver to her work.

scratchme1010

What gets me is that Witnesses really really hate it when they see someone leave. I understand, having been in, but this awkward frustration is so artificial and unnecessary. It's a free country, you're free to leave a religion, and their own website CLAIMS that people can leave at any time.
I mean, it's not a cult, now, is it?

I think that there are different emotions lingering around her when she sees you. My guesses are:

Perplexed; you are not supposed to look happy and well balanced
Cautious; if you still look happy and well balanced, that's supposed to change; she may be expecting for you to show your "true evil, son of Satan side", or she may be expecting you to try to convince her of joining you in "the world".
Afraid; as a JW, did she get to see you preaching, or in a meeting, or a convention? She may not know the degree of involvement you had in your congregation. She may think that you were disfellowshipped and she's supposed to treat you certain way if you were, as opposed to the way a non-baptized person who leaves is supposed to be treated
Angry at you - if she's a zealous JW, for you leaving her Jehovah
Angry at herself - if she's not a zealous JW, for her not leaving her stupid Jehovah
Confused - She may have limited information about you and she may not know what to make of your behavior

Either way, the effect of the cult is perfectly evident and present. If you notice, all her feelings are severely influenced by the WT.

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my letter to my molestor

by jehovahismyshepard in

i wrote the following in my therapy sessions to treat my sexual abuse as an adult.

i thought that you should know that i recently discovered the reason i am weird and at times react strange there is a part of me that will never go away .... no matter how hard i try to control or hide it everyday it will always show it will always stay .. i. thought that you should know this indescribable grueling act of what you did ., that inside my adult mind and body you locked up and left for ever a trapped kid...do you know how hard it must be to accept that ?

do you even care ?do you ever feel bad when you look in the mirror who do you see when you stare?

scratchme1010

Thank you for sharing this. I feel for you.

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Why so few XJWs online?

by StephaneLaliberte in

not too long ago, i posted a topic where i pointed out that there are about 1 million xjws alive right now.

that number only represented the disfellowshipped ones... didn't account for those who had become publishers and left or anyone else who got hurt by that group by proxy.

so, why are there so few of them online?

scratchme1010

I respectfully disagree that there are few ex-jws online.

Though I don't blame people for moving on with their lives, when I look at the damages that the watchtower actually causes in people's life, I do feel that there is a social responsibility that should not be ignored.

There are many, many different ways of being socially responsible without being a loud activist or having high visibility. Besides, I think that many of us had it with saving the world from something. I am respectful of any way in which every single ex-jw chooses to live afterwards. I provide support and my thoughts, but I am not on a mission to convince or save anyone. I share my thoughts and opinions, but I am in no way interested in showing anyone the light.

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A little stock-taking on the JW org. 2017

by Half banana in

the governing body of jws claim without any justification that they alone are holders of a sacred key to divine knowledge and that their history indicates appointment by the almighty creator with the job of giving the world of their privileged information, especially on the time of the biblical “last days.” .

ok they use bible illustrations to explain this with the idea that the “master” has “domestics” who are fed by them but this is always a matter in contention.

they think the illustration is important but can never get a handle on who is who and when it is.

scratchme1010

I hope we will see more evidence in the near future of the GB putting on their life-jackets and looking for the lifeboats. And for those still trapped inside, what can you do: stop contributing in any way and feel more free to share your dissatisfaction with your JW friends. Introduce them to critical thinking.

Love your ending, but I hate to tell you that the WT is far from being a sinking ship. Again, they have a real estate business. They are thriving in it, and they aren't going anywhere.

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Does the Jehovah's Witnesses religoius cult create people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder ?

by Finkelstein in

the american psychiatry association lists nine symptoms – if someone ticks five of these, they could have narcissistic personality disorder.

the nine points of narcissism.

has a grandiose sense of self-importance.. is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love.. believes that he or she is ‘special’ and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people.. requires excessive admiration.. has a sense of entitlement.. is inter-personally exploitative (takes advantage of others to achieve his or her own ends).. lacks empathy: is unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others.. is often envious of others or believes that others are envious of him or her.. shows arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes.. .

scratchme1010

Absolutely. In my opinion, and based on what I have learned reading and meeting professionals in the matter of cults, yes. There are two types of people in cults, especially the ones born in: They grow to become blind followers or a narcissistic personality disorder case, pompous, self-righteous, emotionally abusive a-hole (or bitch).

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What finally helped you to peek behind the curtain

by UnshackleTheChains in

i'm interested in finding out what it was that finally enabled you to open your eyes to the real truth of watchtower.

what started me thinking, was the societys very own book...' 'revelation..it's grand climax at hand'.

i found that book farcicle.

scratchme1010

Their irresponsible behavior around people who need professional help. The last congregation I belonged to was full of people with all kinds of issues, waiting for magic Jehovah to make them all go away, while getting horrible advice and guidance from the elders.

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What have been some of the funniest local needs talks that you have heard?

by DaPriest in

i remember once in berlin south germany there was a local needs part for the men only, and how they should use the toilet.

in all seriousness for ten minutes a retarded nigerian was going on about how men need to sit down when using the toilet.

no mention of anything else.. it transpired that some little kraut boy from an "interested" family would aim for the side of the toilet and leave a great big puddle for others to clean up.

scratchme1010

No poop related stories, but the elders in my congregation were using that time to attack their own children. The local needs talk were about everything that the youth were supposed to be and do, and they were all related of exactly what was happening in the household of the elder giving the talk. Disgusting.

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Trinity...cross...Does it matter?

by NikL in

jw
friends

i've been thinking about this for a while.. did jesus diee on a cross?

does it really matter?

it doesn't change anything that i can see.. is god a trinity?

scratchme1010

Trinity...cross...Does it matter?

No.

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Don't Feel Like I Have Much In Common With Anyone I Know

by JW_Rogue in

went out with my family and all they talked about was how terrible trump is and how he'll surely bring the great tribulation.

then they started going on about people supporting trump showing that america is becoming racist.

i don't consider myself a trump supporter but i disagreed that that was the reason why he won.

scratchme1010

Regardless of any political view I have, JW_Rogue, it is true that many JWs claim that they aren't part of the world and not involved in politics, but many do have opinions and feel happy when candidates they believe in (and many that I know do believe in candidates) win. Same thing with many other things that are supposed to be "wordly".

The not having things in common with them, I think, may be a larger issue (just my opinion).

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This Is Why We Call It the Borg, And Why You Can Still Find Your Voice

by AllTimeJeff in

jw
friends

one voice can be stronger than a thousand voices.

your mind is independent now.

with its own unique identity.

scratchme1010

Still feels weird expressing it

As awkward as it may feel, keep doing it.