Posts by Tesha

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Why going 'door to door' this week felt so good!

by nicolaou in

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yes that's right, i actually went door to door this week!!.

well okay, not trolling for new dubs but as a collector for the national kidney research fund.. earlier this year i'd done the same thing for marie curie cancer research.. let me share a few things i've learned.. most people were genuinely pleased to see me at their doorstep - can you imagine how alien that felt?.

they were pleasant, willing to chat and, with few exceptions, donated to what they could see were worthwhile causes.. i would return home after collecting with a feeling that i had actually accomplished something.. someone, somewhere at some point in time might actually benefit from the time that i, and many other volunteers, put into this charitable work.

Tesha

Nicolaou,

I had a similar experience! I was DF'd a year ago and to tell you the truth, my life felt completely empty. I did some research into local organisations that need volunteers, hoping it would take my mind off my family etc. IT WORKED! I contacted an organisation called Interact Rehabilitation Home Services. They provide attendant carers for people with Acquired Brain Injuries. Previously healthy people like you or I, who have been in car accidents or work related accidents. I started to visit their homes as a carer, assisting them with cleaning, shopping or just a friend when they needed one.

In all my years growing up in the truth and going into field service every weekend, I have NEVER experienced such a reward from visiting people’s homes. People who really need help. Actually, to be honest, it was they who helped me. They helped me to appreciate what is important and to really value life. They helped me to get past my negative attitude and look at the positives. I really love these people.

Nicolaou, you seem to be a very humble person and you certainly did not come across as though you were self-promoting. Rather you gave an extremely good suggestion to others.

Take good care.

Kind regards,

Tesha

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Anyone's kids being raised in the borg?

by alamb in

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i have custody of my kids but my ex is still a witness.

he takes them to meetings and field service on his visitation time.

he has told lies about me to all my old friends for moral support and i can't defend myself.

Tesha

Dear alamb,

I really feel for you, it must be an extremely difficult and heartbreaking situation. I cannot begin to understand how it must feel to have precious children involved; however, I was raised in the truth, so maybe I can help you from that angle.

Both of my parents are JW and my entire life I was taught that this was the only way of life. It wasn't until I was 19, that I realised I had the power to make my own decisions and question the organisation. Although you cannot stop your husband from feeding your children information and lies, what you can do is empower them with the freedom of choice. Make sure they understand that they are their own people, with their own minds and opinions. Maybe talk to them about what your beliefs are so that they can see both sides.

I constantly call my little sister, and with out undermining my parents, remind her that eventually she can make a choice about what she believes is right. I do know that if I had this knowledge from a younger age, things might have turned out a lot different. I hope this is of some help to you.

I am thinking of you.

Kind regards,

Tesha

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ARENT WE ALL A BIT BITTER?

by josephus in

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i cant help but think some of you guys are just tooooo angry for your past hurts.. weve all got terrible stories which can make us cry, but whats the motivation for such bitterness ?.

some people search out pervets, seemingly to lay these scumbags and their faults at the societys door.. others try to use thier bad times as an excuse to rubbish the entire religion.. i am not saying that jws are great, or that the society is perfect or undeserving of punishment.. but why are we not trying to even up the good points of the religion.. no smoking, no drugs, no abortion, on and on, and on.. and then try to remember the good times you all had at the meetings.

the laughs and the help you gave, and received.

Tesha

Josephus,

Because of this religion, I haven’t seen my little brothers and sister for the past three years.

So yes to answer your question, I am bitter.

THANKS FOR FECKING NOTHING I SAY!

Good day.

Tesha

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Urban Myth?!

by Tesha in

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howdee all!.

i have only recently been df'd, so i struggle with what i believe regarding god and the bible.

as you all would know, its a long process reprogramming our minds from all the lies and shit we were taught by the organisation.

Tesha

Howdee all!

I have only recently been DF'd, so I struggle with what I believe regarding god and the bible. As you all would know, it’s a long process reprogramming our minds from all the lies and shit we were taught by the organisation. The fear of Armageddon was shoved down my throat every time I “sinned” or decided to stay home from field service on a Saturday morning. I don’t want to give them the satisfaction of still having control over my thoughts, so I guess I am wondering what other people beliefs are about Armageddon.

Thanks in advance for your comments

Tesha

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Please Respond To Survey! 25 more needed please.

by Big Jim in

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it seems like to me the majority of people who are in the truth, are were in the truth was a result of either a family member are a friend witnessing to them and not many seem to have been found in the door to door work.. from my years of associating with the borg i cannot recall many coming in the truth from the door to door work.. how were you sucked in?

for me it was my aunt who has now even though i am not disfellowshipped decided to write me out of her will to the tune of about $150,000.00 (maybe i should hang around a couple more years)dont think i will.. please respond .

thanks.

Tesha

My dad had a void to fill. The witnesses came to his door, gave him a personality, an opinion and a position of "power" in the congregation. My mother being the weak woman she is, would follow my dad to hell and back if it meant he would give her attention. They were baptised on the same day. I was four.

Tesha

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HELLO? HELLO? "ALL" SIGN IN???????

by waiting in

simon did away with the sex forum - so i must take the tradional route and post under "make new friends.

" how mundane!.

fyi ---- for all of us, please take the time to write a sentence or two about yourselves, and encourage new ones to do the same.

Tesha

My name is Leticia and I am twenty-one. I was disfellowshipped one year today, which I think calls for a celebration. Heres to my release from hell on earth! Cheers.

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One year tomorrow

by Tesha in

i have been disfellowshipped for one year tomorrow.

i have been alone through out this time and completely lost.

recently i decided to look up jw sites on the internet and found a moving story of a lady who had been through a similar experience to mine.

Tesha

I have been disfellowshipped for one year tomorrow. I have been alone through out this time and completely lost. Recently I decided to look up JW sites on the Internet and found a moving story of a lady who had been through a similar experience to mine. I was shocked! For some bizarre reason, I thought I was alone and that nobody could possibly comprehend how I felt. I emailed her and she directed me towards this site. I have spent the entire day reading people's stories and posts. Thank you for sharing, it is enough to know that I am not alone.

My story is a common and simple one. I was raised in an extremely strict JW household. My father is an elder and my mother a pioneer. My father is a very hard, controlling man who robbed us of any form of identity and self worth. The organisation sheltered and nurtured these tendencies, labeling it “the subjection arrangement”. I questioned the organisation my entire life, but as expected I was baptised at the young age of 17. Feeling completely suffocated and disillusioned at home, I moved interstate at the age of 19. Away from the mind games, the brain washing and the unrealistic expectations, I discovered that I had my own mind, opinions and soul. I finally realised that I was a good person and, that I didn't have to pummel my body and lead it as a slave everytime I sinned.

The only escape I could see was through disfellowshipping, which unfortunately resulted in harming myself. I formed a physical relationship with a "brother" in the congregation. It ended badly when I woke up one day in extreme pain. I rushed myself to the hospital and found out that I was two months pregnant and had miscarried during the night. I was disfellowshipped two weeks later and haven't looked back since. The freedom is invigorating - my life is only just beginning.

As the old cliche goes, everything comes with a price. For my freedom I have had to sacrifice my family. My father disowned me and forbid me to have contact with my two little brothers and little sister. My heart was broken. He has softened and I am now allowed to speak with them on the phone now. I worry about my brothers and sis .. Sometimes I feel like I have deserted them. My only hope is that they too find strength like myself to fight for their souls.

I’m not sure if this has made sense. It’s the first time I have spoken about my past.

Thanks for listening ..

Tesha
Australia

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Subtle Propaganda at DC -but Noticeable To Us

by Had Enough in

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as ive mentioned in other posts, i felt obligated to go to the dc (in hamilton) this weekend to help my family with my aging mom, who in my opinion just goes for the social outing because she is physically not able to stay awake for more that 1/5 th of the whole sessions except intermissions.. i know others have posted their observations of the dc they attended but id like to make an addition from things that just jumped right out at me and made me go argggghhhhh!.

and btw....i felt some of the comments made seemed to be as though they were answering their justification of some of the things being brought out on the internet, including here.. on friday, even in talks that were not about higher education, they managed to slip in their subtle propaganda, as in:.

- bob alton, said peter and john were outspoken about gods word and were unlettered and ordinary men they didnt need higher education to speak wondrous things of god.

Tesha

You're right, the internet is a good medium to reach all of the uninformed "sheep" out there. It has not only lifted the fog from my head, but it has made me realise that I am not the only one out there who questions this organisation. For a while I did wonder.

Tesha
Australia

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Subtle Propaganda at DC -but Noticeable To Us

by Had Enough in

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friends

as ive mentioned in other posts, i felt obligated to go to the dc (in hamilton) this weekend to help my family with my aging mom, who in my opinion just goes for the social outing because she is physically not able to stay awake for more that 1/5 th of the whole sessions except intermissions.. i know others have posted their observations of the dc they attended but id like to make an addition from things that just jumped right out at me and made me go argggghhhhh!.

and btw....i felt some of the comments made seemed to be as though they were answering their justification of some of the things being brought out on the internet, including here.. on friday, even in talks that were not about higher education, they managed to slip in their subtle propaganda, as in:.

- bob alton, said peter and john were outspoken about gods word and were unlettered and ordinary men they didnt need higher education to speak wondrous things of god.

Tesha

Had enough, excuse my ignorance if this comment seems naive. Although I am a junior member to this sight, i have been an ex-JW for long enough to form an opinion. I can appreciate and understand everything you wrote. Yes, it is twisted. All of it, the teachings and beliefs, the old men who control the minds and the pathetic suckers who lap it up. My question to you is why you go back for more? Why do you go to the DC? Why waste precious thinking time analysing what we already know. That it is one big justification of a weak, sick way of life.

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The "Theocratic" View

by Jigrigger in

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how many of you ex-jws can recall a particular instance during your life as a jw when you or someone you know had a mini crisis of conscience over what you now, upon reflection, consider to be the most trivial or petty in nature?.

i've got a good one for you.

i remember my mom and one of my aunts engaged in a very serious debate about whether they should feed a freshly caught mouse to the cat because it hadn't been properly bled!!!.

Tesha

Being raised in an insanely strict JW family, we were not allowed to watch television or listen to the radio. I can still recall the one hour lecture I received from mum because I knew the words to a "worldly" song. What can I say? I was an evil child begging satan to enter my heart.