@ Judgerusellford
Do well to get us a recording of your conversation with them. It might be of use or one to listen to.
Regarding DA
It all boils down to personal decision as it suits the circumstances and situation.
Were you a slave when you were called? Don't let it trouble you--although if you can gain your freedom, do so.(even by DA).
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For he who was a slave when he was called by the Lord is the Lord's freedman; similarly, he who was a free man when he was called is Christ's slave.
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You were bought at a price; do not become slaves of men.(even by DA)
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Brothers, each man, as responsible to God, should remain in the situation God called him to.(even by DA)
Since they see DA and DF as same I rather let them remain in their judgemental mindset of grouping DA as those who they states in their manuals.......
"Of course, contact should not be made with active apostates, with those who are trying to lead others into sin, or with those who have made it known that they want nothing to do with the Christian congregation."
After all...... Whoever exercises faith in him is not to be judged. Whoever does not exercise faith has been judged already, because he has not exercised faith in the name of the only-begotten Son of God.
What right do they have to call others
1. Those who lead others to sin?
2. Apostates?
3. Those who have nothing to do with the Christian congregation?