Let us strive for intellectual honesty.
Nobody here wants to remove the choice of family members to like each other or not, or to talk to each other or not. I am not sure it's credible to pretend to misunderstand that.
The 'whole point' is that watchtower does remove that choice, it mandates disfellowshipping and shunning for infractions both major and minor (such as exercising religious freedom), even arbitrary reasons, and keeps the reasons secret, and it does it to minors.
Comparing a kangaroo court with a Family Court of the real world is not sensible.