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  Blood Issue on Grey's Anatomy Tonight

  by jamiebowers in

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  at 9 pm on abc.

  previews in last two videos on this link:.

  http://www.wetpaint.com/greys-anatomy/articles/greys-anatomy-season-9-episode-13-spoilers-7-things-we-learned-from-the-sneak-peeks-video.

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  ndmom73

  Watching this right now on Hulu and about jumped out of my chair when they declared the kid a JW. Still watching, should be interesting. Will come back and comment when the episode is over.

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  Edited to add: Well it was a good episode although I am a biased Grey's Anatomy fan. :) Now that I think of it I am surprised this hasn't been covered in the many seasons prior. I think it was a fairly good portrayal, the family looked so conservative that I was surprised that the son was a long haired skater. lol That never would have happened in my home at least. But the statements did ring true also the way the wife subjegated to her husband to explain their beliefs was annoying.

  "Your blood wouldn't sustain his life, it would condemn it."
  "Living with it (blood) would be so much worse for him than dying without it."

  Both of those lines from this episode stood out for me especially because since in the storyline his best friend didn't even know he was a JW. Many of my school friends didn't know when I was growing up and that is mainly because #1 I didn't personally believe in the faith although of course my parents did & #2 it was embarrasing. The reason it would be worse for him to live with the blood is because his entire family and JW friends would turn against him.

  I have always wondered what would have happened if I had ever need a blood transfusion as a child. There were no parts of blood or other such things at the time. I know for a fact my mom would have let me die but I am pretty confident that my dad would have told the doctors to do whatever was needed to save my life. He was a JW for my mom but he wasn't devout and isn't one to care about rules especially concerning the life of his child. Thank goodness that wasn't ever an issue, but I feel so sad for the lives lost due to this backwards belief.

  Spoiler which someone already mentioned above is that the boy dies. I was relieved that they didn't go into the families reaction upon his death because it would have made me sick to my stomach to hear their words of "praise to Jehovah, it is his will", etc.
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  My Dad's story

  by coffee_black in

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  freedomlovers post about her dads letter got me thinking about my dad, in fact, it sounds like it could have been written by my dad.

  every once in a while it really hits me that he is no longer here to talk to.

  unlike most of you, i wouldnt have been afraid to approach him with questions or doubts.

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  ndmom73

  Thank you for bumping this up, I really enjoyed reading about your dad. What an amazing man. I am touched by his strong dedication to your education, what an amazing gift. Although it is hard to look back and feel as if we let our parents down by our youthful decisions, I am sure he would be the first to understand why you made your choices. His love is always with you and your love for him could be felt in every word I read. Thanks again for sharing. :)
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  Mrs Punk left the family!

  by punkofnice in

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  it's nearly 2 months now but mrs punk finally left myself (mentally diseased apostate tm) with my 2 non kingdum hell attending boys.. she left when my jw daughter moved out and they moved in together.

  i don't think it'll be long before my daughter gets sick of her mum but there you go!!.

  i received a call from mrs punk to say: 'i didn't leave you because of the religion!'.

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  ndmom73

  Punk: well I see I am a day late and a doller short in posting, still trying to figure out my way around here. lol

  Although my response is past the point of when all of this was going on, I hope that maybe something I wrote is helpful. As for your "roller-coaster" just remember that the loss of a marriage isn't too different from a death of a spouse. You will go through the steps of grief and it is normal to go from one extreme to the other. Use the outlets available to you, friends, this forum, family, when you need help ask for it. It will get better, maybe not as quickly as you would like but hang in there. Sending hugs your way. :)
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  Mrs Punk left the family!

  by punkofnice in

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  it's nearly 2 months now but mrs punk finally left myself (mentally diseased apostate tm) with my 2 non kingdum hell attending boys.. she left when my jw daughter moved out and they moved in together.

  i don't think it'll be long before my daughter gets sick of her mum but there you go!!.

  i received a call from mrs punk to say: 'i didn't leave you because of the religion!'.

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  ndmom73

  So sorry to hear this. As a teen I can completely sympathize with your boys, my mom walked out on us when I was a teenager. At the time it was because SHE was running away from the JW's and my dad who was abusive. Although at the time I hated her because she took most of her anger out on me, I couldn't help but feel abandoned. If my dad was as bad as she said, why would she just leave us with him? It was a very confusing, hurtful time.

  But even though I felt that way I was relieved to have her gone. No more waking up to shouting matches, no more tension, no more verbal abuse. My home finally felt peaceful and after several months when she wanted to come back my dad asked for my advice. Now why he asked me is a completely different trauma but I do remember whole-heartedly saying NO. I couldn't imagine going back to the way things were. And thankfully they divorced shortly after.

  Your boys are hurting right now and they have every right to hurt. Even a bad mother is better than no mother and although it sounds like they are done with the JW's the guilt feelings are still there. The feelings that you are a horrible person for leaving, even as a kid those messages creep into your mind after years of meetings that try to scare you into staying a JW. That their mother has mental health issues is of course a completely different issue and would be hurtful on its own. To combine the two has to be painful and again I am so sorry for all of you.

  I would definitely look into counseling, they need to be able to work through it and as a teen who went through my own pain at that age, I can say that self-medicating with alchohol and sex is very easy to fall into, I am just thankful that drugs weren't an issue although I am sure I could have easily went there. Your being there for them is the most important thing, even though they are teenagers it is very easy to fall into child-like feelings during difficult times and knowing they have one steady, healthy, strong parent will no doubt bring them much comfort. Hug them often and take care of yourself as well.
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  I blew up tonight!!!

  by msconcerned in

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  watching "our whole association of brothers" for the meeting tonight, and we came to the part where the japanese brother lost his two kids and wife.

  he went on to relate that holy spirit helped him to cope with the loss.

  i came unglued!

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  ndmom73

  Ugg... I remember these stories. When I was a kid there was a horrible storm, what started as a tornado warning quickly turned into a flash flood. It just happened to be a Thursday which was our meeting night. We didn't go because my mom was sick and my dad was working late. Although my sister was there with one of her friends. Anyway, the worst of the storm was at a main intersection near the KH. According to my sister, they wouldn't let anyone leave when the tornado sirens started, our KH didn't have a basement so they all just stayed in the main meeting area. No windows at least. lol

  As the flash flood hit some were trapped in cars and I remember the story of a police officer trying to rescue a child and they both died. I don't much remember anyone talking about how sad the loss of lifes were, what I do remember was them going on and on about how fortunate all of the witnesses were that they had went to the KH that night. That Jehovah kept them all safe. At the time I remember thinking how horrible it was, and honestly based on their reasoning shouldn't I have been dead since I wasn't at the KH that night? Not to mention, how many able bodied "brothers" were there that could have lent a helping hand to those outside the KH but didn't? <insert big eye roll here>

  There is no way to understand such distorted thinking and fortunately I gave up on trying a long time ago. :)
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  What is the most valuable thing your mother taught you?

  by usualusername in

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  what is the most valuable thing your mother taught you?.

  as an aside was she a witness or not at the time?.

  uun .

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  ndmom73

  How NOT to parent and how NOT to discipline. I have amazing kids and my mom is now a proud grandma (in her own detached way) but she is the first to admit that her parenting especially as a JW left much to be desired.
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  Not sure what to do next

  by magotan in

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  i'm 19, and i'm still currently a jw.

  i guess i'm a born-in, or whatever you guys call it.

  i've had some serious issues with the faith at the moment, and sexuality is a huge part.

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  ndmom73

  I thought I posted here but I guess I didn't? Crazy week so I am easily distracted. :)

  From what I have read, you have been given some amazing advice already and hopefully you have felt the strength of the support that is being sent your way. There is NOTHING wrong with you, the problem goes to those who choose to judge you on something that is only one small part of who you are as a person. Being gay shouldn't have any more bearing than being straight, I don't have to tell you that it is ignorance that makes people think otherwise.

  Best wishes to you and know that you are not alone.
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  Love Thy Neighbor? Not my JW neighbors.

  by jws in

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  i live next to jw neighbors.

  i was a jw 1000 miles away over 20 years ago, never here.

  as far as i know, nobody here knows i once was, including the neighbors.. so there wouldn't be any reason for them to shun me.

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  ndmom73

  This topic reminded me of growing up with an odd neighbor. She was a larger woman and was a bit flamboyant. She would happily mow her lawn in an itty bitty bikini. My JW mom was disgusted to say the least. She would make rude comments and was outright nasty while peering through the front window. Her words were embarrassing as were the silly comments my dad would make to get a rise out of my mom. Anyway, one summer we had a tornado heading our way. As we lived in a trailer we had nowhere to go and my dad was at work. The neighbor stopped over to see if we had somewhere to go and took us to her mom's house close by to find safety in her basement. I remember feeling embarrassed because I know there was no way my JW mom would have taken this worldy woman into shelter with us.

  I am so thankful today for all of my "worldy" neighbors who were there for me when my husband passed away, who drive my kids to school when the weather is bad, who snowplow my sidewalk, dispose of dead birds, share margaritas, scold my kids if they are doing something dangerous, bring their puppies over for a visit, in fact they have even brought up my empty garbage cans so that they don't blow away. It is amazing to think that there are "worldly" people all over the world who are loving, caring, giving, generous people. Not because they have to be but because they don't have a governing body warning them about the "evils" of those who just happen to be different from them.
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  (For our non-JW guests) How to get rid of a JW using only two words.

  by cedars in

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  if creepy contact lenses, facial piercings and people who talk insanely fast (and over-use the word "legit") are not your thing, then don't watch this video!.

  however, if those things don't bother you, and you're curious about the "nuclear" way to eject jehovah's witnesses from one's doorstep, this video explains how this can be done swiftly and effectively.. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xrvc1yoydby.

  i can actually remember at least a couple of instances where someone revealed they were gay on the doorstep to my partner and i and this didn't get rid of us immediately, but it did force us onto the back foot.

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  ndmom73

  Ha! This was too funny. Although those contact lenses would have thrown me off more than anything else! lol
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  Book of Mormon the musical

  by Tiktaalik in

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  i went and saw the book of mormon when i was in nyc last week.

  it was superb.

  so many great songs and so, so funny.

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  ndmom73

  I have always wanted to see this! Never would have thought of a JW version but what a great idea. :)

  Although I doubt if the JW's would buy advertising space in the playbill as LDS's did for The Book of Mormon. lol

  http://universe.byu.edu/beta/2012/09/18/lds-church-joins-with-book-of-mormon-musical/