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  ARE YOU AN ANGRY and BITTER APOSTATE?

  by Hummingbird001 in

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  i have noticed that there are different reactions to learning the "truth about the truth".

  some become quite bitter and angry and become very activist.

  others seem to just move on quite easily.. .

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  Hummingbird001

  I guess my attitude toward my JW past is along the lines of "Whew! Thank god that's over!"
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  ARE YOU AN ANGRY and BITTER APOSTATE?

  by Hummingbird001 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i have noticed that there are different reactions to learning the "truth about the truth".

  some become quite bitter and angry and become very activist.

  others seem to just move on quite easily.. .

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  NewYork44M, yes that's how I feel, too. I spoke frankly to my children about how I regretted raising them as JWs. They all say they felt they were raised well and we're happy growing up. We are all OUT now. So we make the most of holidays and birthdays now. We put the past in the past, don't dwell on it and just enjoy our lives. I am going back to school, as an older student. Scarey and exciting! My children are married into great non-JW families and I look forward to grandchildren one day (soon, I hope!) whom I will be able to share holidays, birthdays and lots of family time with! Family time NOT spent sitting in a chair listening to bad speakers lecture us on not doing enough.
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  ARE YOU AN ANGRY and BITTER APOSTATE?

  by Hummingbird001 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i have noticed that there are different reactions to learning the "truth about the truth".

  some become quite bitter and angry and become very activist.

  others seem to just move on quite easily.. .

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  Please understand that I am not judging others. I'm wondering how easy it is to get stuck in bitterness and anger. And how do you get out of it once you are stuck in the cycle.

  My friend, I fear is stuck in the cycle. I'm finding it hard to relate and help her out of it because I really never experienced that bitterness/anger/hatred. I'm seeing her resentment towards the WT lead her down other paths that are not healthy.

  Muddy Waters, I do have family still in the religion. And I have regrets that being part of the religion for so long affected my choices in life. As you said - choice of education, marriage mate, how I raised my children - all of that I regret.

  I just feel so good being free of it and finding real enjoyment in life, making new (real) friends....

  I feel sorry for ones like my friend who find it difficult to move on.
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  ARE YOU AN ANGRY and BITTER APOSTATE?

  by Hummingbird001 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i have noticed that there are different reactions to learning the "truth about the truth".

  some become quite bitter and angry and become very activist.

  others seem to just move on quite easily.. .

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  Hummingbird001

  I have noticed that there are different reactions to learning the "truth about the truth". Some become quite bitter and angry and become very activist. Others seem to just move on quite easily.

  When I first learned of the many scandals and cover-ups in the WT, it didnt make me angry. I just thought "Huh. Well at least now I know." I was also able to put any guilt and fear to rest, realizing I had been duped and no longer had to live in guilt and fear. It was a great feeling!

  i sort of understand why some get very angry and resentful about lost years. But I'm not sure how healthy it is to remain in that state. And while photographing youself giving a Kingdom Hall sign "the finger" might have some therapeutic value, it seems kind of juevenile. Some go from believing everything the WT says, to believing everything apostates say. And frankly, its not all believable. On the internet facebook group, someone said that WT marriages were now required to provide proof of virginity. It turned that the person was not telling the truth, but it was disappointing how many believed it and said, "I heard that, too!"

  at what point do you move on from the bitterness and anger? When does it become unhealthy and counterproductive?
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  Do You Give A Sh*t About "Duck Dynasty"?

  by minimus in

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  2. entertainment

  when i see them on chia pets, i'm thinking--- has the world gone mad?.

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  I didn't give a Shit about it until someone on Facebook posted a picture of the dude, saying "Like and share if you agree with this guy that gays should go to hell."

  I unfriended the person for the same reasons I'm not friends with the Westboro Baptist Church.
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  How bad is the nepotism really with the appointments of elders?

  by toto555 in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i've seen brothers related or who are friends of elders who get appointed after only 6-12 months as an m.s.

  while they were other brothers slaving away for years.

  elders also who promote their sons and basically say to other young brothers "to heck with everyone else".

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  It always seemed to be just a "good ol' boys club" to me.

  Where I'm from, there were always about 8 congregations in the city. There were very few new elders appointed in over 35 years. New elders appointed were usually ones who moved in and we're already elders, or children of elders were appointed to positions.
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  I regret my disassociation.

  by Zoos in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  if i knew then what i know now, i might never have disassociated myself.

  i realize all i can do is speculate on what could have been.

  however, when i consider the number of people i might have been able to help by dropping little thought-provoking seeds, i really regret having jumped to the decision to disassociate so quickly.. ive read the accounts of several people on this forum telling of how stressful it is to be in the position that i just described above.

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  Many people who are doubting the religion, are showing up here. You could be a lot of help to them right here, Zoos.
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  Fallacies about Faith

  by tec in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  peace to you!.

  this thread is about false things (some) atheists think theists believe.

  this is not a thread about false things that atheists think about theists.

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  There is perception. And there is judgement.

  When you perceive your message, why do certain believers judge it as God's?
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  Have you ever had a hallucination? What was it like?

  by Nathan Natas in

  1. watchtower
  2. medical

  i have almost never had a visual hallucination and i was wondering what they're like.

  how "real" do they seem?

  is there any kind of a hint you get that tells you they are not real?

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  I have had one sleep paralysis event in my life. I was fortunate to already know about sleep paralysis when it happened, or else it would have been terrifying.

  And even though I know what I experienced was sleep paralysis, what I saw and felt....was very real.
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  WHAT JW TYPES DO YOU REMEMBER IN YOUR CONG???

  by ADJUSTMENTS in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  it seems in most congregations there is always the same personality types of brothers and sisters in each congregation.

  self righteous ones.

  holier than thou, exemplary, with dc/ca parts every year family.

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  The depressed sister that everyone pitied.....Actually there was always a few of those in every cong.