Hi Sirona,
I'm not, nor have I ever been a JW, but I have a friend who is one..
I did alot of research on JW's because of him, and ultimatly found the "truth" about the "truth".. I've wrestled with your dilemna many times in recent months, as I wasn't sure if I should continue to show him things or not, as I believe he does have some "semblence" of happiness in his current state of what he believes is the "truth"..
My ultimate conclusion was to be his friend no matter what his choices are/were/will be. And, yes, it's very possible and probable that because I am a "worldly" person, that he will ultimatly break contact with me, especially now that he is engaged.. And if that is what he needs to do to be "happy", then that is a sacrifice this friend is willing to make..
He is well aware that I know alot about the religion, and in fact he knows that I have presented many questions to him that he cannot answer. (Two that his father, a respected elder could not answer either.. I can only assume of the ruckus that caused in the house <grin>)
So, deep inside I'm satisfied that he knows that I know "stuff" that may be detrimental to his belief system.. If nothing else, he knows beyond a shadow of a doubght that if he even brings up religion with me, that he ends up at the end of the conversation with more questions. I know that bothers him!!
But, being a friend to him means I don't push him.. He knows, and if he asks, I'll be here to tell him.. If he doesn't ask, then he knows I'll be here to help him in any other way I can...
Basically, I figure if his curiousity has become sooo strong that he needs to 'know' then he is ready to have the curtain lifted.. If he's not, then he won't ask.. And the only way I'll know if he is curious is if he asks...
And he has asked occasionally.. Nothing big, but you can tell he is thinking.. For instance, he know's that I have read both books by Ray Franz.. One night we were talking about the Governing Body, and why Ray left.. I told him that I know how he thinks the GB works (They think it's a 100% unanamous decision, and the entire body agrees with everything, when in fact, according to Ray, it's a 66.6% (2/3) vote).
I didn't tell him that he thought it was a 100% vote, but he asked how Ray said it worked... And I told him...
He has indeed 'walked' away on three seperate occasions from me, but usually within a month or so he finds some excuse to 'come back'..
And, like I said, I'll always be here if he needs me, as will I be for his fiancee...
Hope that helps..