I used to hear that a lot "move on" but that was usually from people still at the hall,its a bit like fallen into a barrel of oil and there are no handles and someone keeps saying "for godsake get out " not very helpful! I have just written to my daughter to say that for the first time in four years I feel am "moving on" and it is entirely due to the people on this forum taking the time to listen to me again and again and again. I am so glad I found this place and the people on it who dropped whatever they were doing and rushed over to give me a hand out of this filthy pit I have been drowning in for four years. I have made a realy lovely facebook friend here too. I wish I had had the courage to come here years ago. My daughter by the way is the director of counselling at a university here in Britain and lovely as she is as skilled as she is she couldnt hepl me. So try not to judge us please, just let us take the comfort where we can.
franticfran
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How do I as a future "Therapist" help ex-jws that won't move on from the WT?
by booker-t ini am halfway through my master's program in psychology/sociology and plan on being a therapist/sounselor.
i left jw's in 1988 and i have never looked back.
i enjoy my life so much after getting my aa degree, then my ba degree, and now i will soon get my ma degree.
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why do I write?
by Separation of Powers ini must admit, i feel rather like winston smith from orwell's 1984. i sit here in front of the image of a blank piece of paper on my computer screen.
i am alone in my study, alone, but like winston, i am hesitant to write on this blank piece of paper, fearful that i am under the watchful eye of the telescreen.
it is a form of paranoia, i guess, a paranoia that is synonymous with being in the organization; an organization that worries more about perception than substance.
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No reason required! "separation of powers". Enjoyed reading/seeing your thoughts. Thats what I love about this place,its like being able to drop in, stay for awhile,or not, I love the way I can listen in, add my tuppenceworth,or I can just stay quiet and learn,and whether I visit or not,whether I talk or not,nobody makes me feel bad about being me. Now theres a rare feeling eh?
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Tears
by LouBelle ini was checking some old threads and messages and came across people's messages and threads that have passed on ((dansk)) ((oompa)) two guys that i liked and shared some laughs / thoughts / hopes / encouraging words with.
pulled at my heart strings.. you're still remembered.
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and will flipper please explain to me YET again how I start a new conversation!! I always look so rude butting in on things like wot I have just done!!
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Tears
by LouBelle ini was checking some old threads and messages and came across people's messages and threads that have passed on ((dansk)) ((oompa)) two guys that i liked and shared some laughs / thoughts / hopes / encouraging words with.
pulled at my heart strings.. you're still remembered.
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Cant believe what I have just agreed to.. an old friend has asked me to put her and her family up for the local district assembly, and despite the fact that she and her husband know we no longer attend she still wants to come and I agreed because I didnt want to upset her and for old time sake! I am so annoyed with myself,I should have made some excuse because I dont like lying and thats what I will be doing. In the begining I didnt go to meetings because of what happened to us,but now I have real doubts about this "organisation" and I realy would never go back to ANY meeting not just this congregation. When she rings I say all the "right" things but as she is talking to me, in my head I am thinking.."God your such a stupid woman" thats terrible! Just want OUT!!! Its too late now. Its not fair because their quite nice little people but all I have in common with them is a shared past. Very sad. How did I get here??
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STAY AWAY FROM MY KINDGOM HALL," LORD'S EVENING MEAL" INVITATIONS REVOKED!!!!!
by AuntConnie ini am very angry, pent-up rage call it!
so you will understand why and with great ease this subject is able to flow off my tongue onto the keyboard, because this time of the year is worse than your christmas time jitters!
anxiety, stress, compulsive babbling nuts are invading our service groups!
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Thats the best laugh Ive had in ages,why werent there more AuntConnie,s when I was in??? I might not have left
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Are we all bitter?
by LouBelle ini posted a link on fb that lead to a topic here.
i then had one of my 'friends' start having a go about how bitter everyone is here....fact he said.
(he used to be a jw elder but left a while back, not sure why he left or if he has even researched the faith since leaving) the more i tried to reason with him that actually it is a support forum, the more he lashed out that everyone here bad mouths the jw's and only attack the jw's.
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franticfran
Bitter?? thats what they say we are too,but its not true,its more anger at injustice and terrible disappointment and the awful realisation that it was all a lie! Try telling the abused that their just "bitter"!
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franticfran
Would love to have done Edinburgh but sadly the garden calls!
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I think I will look rather fetching in a long frock and that darling gold hat will give me much needed height
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franticfran
Is it me?? am I the new pope?? Oh no I cant be Im a girl. mm
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How many former Jehovah's Witnesses bury their head in the sand when it comes to reasoning about the NGO "conspiracy"?
by Change Name inhi all - sure sure, you can call me a troll or brainwashed cult member.
i am totally interested in how your answers to these questions.. .
do you find yourself ignoring anything that jehovah's witnesses bring out in regards to their former status as an ngo?.
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OOH my head hurts