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  Will you attend the Memorial this year? Why? Why not?

  by Open mind in

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  Absolutely not. I haven't been to one since 2001. Even if I did believe in the sentiment, I would never subject myself to or support the JW perversion of it. The memorial is the cherry on their sick little sundae.They track the attendance and try to make themselves feel like a bigger ORG than they actually are.

  Although growing up I liked it because I always got a new dress. Also, sometimes it would land on a regular meeting night and that would be canceled. If it landed on a Wednesday we had 3 nights straight though. Ugh.
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  Is anyone here hooked on Downton Abbey?

  by exwhyzee in

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  my wife got me started watching this show last year.

  we've downloaded the previous seasons on netflix and have found it to be really well done.

  the story line, scenery,costumes,old cars and compelling characters have us hooked.

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  love it!
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  At what point do the individuals in the ORG need to take responsibility for their actions?

  by vajeni82 in

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  so, i'm sitting here, being pissed about my family.

  both of my parents and my only sister are jws.

  i haven't had a relationship with them since they i left in 2002.

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  Thanks for making me feel like less of a jerk. You'd think after 11 years, I'd be over it. I will say, I have accepted it, but until recently, I've chosen to ignore it. It's only recently I've started to process my feelings. I never even made contact with another ex-JW until about a year ago. Now that I'm done keeping secrets, I have a lot to deal with. Now that I'm a mom, I find this whole situation even more repulsive.

  Mr. Flipper - I'm sorry to hear about your daughters' behavior. My daughter is only 17 months, and honestly I have to agree that there is no amount of wrong she could do to me that I would never be able to forgive. As a parent, it's my duty to love her unconditionally. I think that's part of the reason why I am so upset with my own parents. There are people on death row who have parents that love them. All I did was stick up for myself. I guess I have a double standard on the issue. In my mind, I assume they'd never leave the JWs. They'd only try to be in contact with me if it were allowed by the GB. In that sense, I think I'd rather just not deal with it. "New Light" is not going to sweep their actions under the rug for me. If my sister ever reached out to me, I'd be more responsive. If she were still in the JWs, it would be very difficult for me though.

  Hortensia, Gopher & Chaserious - Thanks for sharing your experiences. Just knowing I'm not alone makes a big difference. It's so sad to see how this BS has impacted so many families. It needs to stop.
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  At what point do the individuals in the ORG need to take responsibility for their actions?

  by vajeni82 in

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  so, i'm sitting here, being pissed about my family.

  both of my parents and my only sister are jws.

  i haven't had a relationship with them since they i left in 2002.

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  So, I'm sitting here, being pissed about my family. Both of my parents and my only sister are JWs. I haven't had a relationship with them since they I left in 2002.(Abusive husband, no legal grounds for leaving etc etc. You can read the whole story in my intro post.)

  I'm wondering: Am I wrong to be personally pissed at them for the choices they have made? It's so easy to blame the JW ORG for making them shun me. But really, WTF? Everyone has free will. They have CHOSEN to stay and follow this BS. They choose to shun me. They decided to follow this path.I don't buy the whole "they made me do it" philosophy. In fact, if the ORG decided to change their shunning policy & they tried to contact me, I think I'd tell them to stick it up their asses. As long as they are part of this cruel organization, I don't want them around. They have wronged me in so many ways.

  Tell me the truth... Am I just a jerk? Is anybody else pissed like me?
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  the other side of disfellowshipping

  by nowwhat? in

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  personally i hate it when you come face to face with someone disfellowshiped and you can't do a simple acknowledgement or greeting.

  they are obviously making an effort to be there to be reinstated.

  as i recall back in the 1970's they did allow this but what is always the case some took advantage of this provision and in engaged in full blown conversations.

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  Why do the naughty kids get the good seats?
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  The huge impact the JWs have out in their door knocking --- May 15, 2013

  by RayPublisher in

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  the may 15, 2013 washtowel has a cute little piece of artwork about what an impact they make out in serve-us.

  i thought some captions might help make it clearer!.

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  So, basically they are saying: "We know door knocking is an antiquated and ineffective way to spread our message, but keep doing it." If anything, I think the thought of having to go do the door-to-door keeps otherwise interested people away. I think they just need a way to keep people busy so they don't start thinkinig for themselves.
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  What are the things you dislike most about JW's?

  by Chariklo in

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  top of my list has to be hypocrisy.

  it runs right through, from elders downwards.

  the literature and the gb are bad enough, but the bit that touches ordinary people, householders, students and ordinary rank and file is the false goodness that they put on like a raincoat.

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  2 words: CONDITIONAL LOVE. It's the only thing they know. Even between parents and children. I grew up knowing I would only be loved if I follow the rules It's very sad.
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  Who have you lost?

  by Strawberryfieldsforever in

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  i was just thinking the other day how small our family is now that we aren't jw's.

  we are thankful that we at least have our children!

  my husband lost his mom and dad and only sister and her husband and all their children.

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  The short answer is: both of my parents and my only sister and some friends.

  The true answer is: a bunch of people who never cared about me anyway.
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  Whacky comments! What the craziest comment you've ever heard?

  by toweragent in

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  last week a sister in my new hall made the following comment,.

  "a brother once told me that it is better to be wrong with the organization, than to be right and be on your own without the organization.".

  wow.

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  @ShirleyW- She got pretty far if I recall. I can't remember which song she went with, but I do remember trying as hard as I could not to laugh. I was in middle school at the time. She was a pretty cooky lady. She always gave out that hard candy with the wrapper that looks like a strawberry to the kids. It would be all nasty from being in tthe bottom of her purse. She has since passed away, but while she was around, she sure made things a little less dull.
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  birthdays and baby showers

  by wizardca in

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  my dad is turning a milestone number this month and decided he needed to celebrate a bit so the wife and i are putting together a birthday party for him.

  two of my siblings are jws and 1 is not; nor is dad.

  invited everyone to the celebration and of course got the "we don't celebrate birthdays" rsvp.

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  We always had baby showers fot the pregnant ladies. We treated it more like a housewarming party I guess. Though when you say it, it does seem like kind of the same thing.