Posts by wonderwoman77

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what I am thinking......

by wonderwoman77 in

i do not know if you have read any of my posts under the dating forum, but i have been having some issues with my current relationship.

for the last month, i feel like i am pushing her away, and i was not sure why.

well finally this weekend i put my finger on it.

I do not know if you have read any of my posts under the dating forum, but I have been having some issues with my current relationship. For the last month, I feel like I am pushing her away, and I was not sure why. Well finally this weekend I put my finger on it. It was because of my past with my mom and her borderline personality. She was dependent on me for 11 years to be her emotional support. It was very stressful, yet I came to rely on this. I finally broke free of it. My mom stopped needing me, but at first I did not know how to stop needing her needing me. I still thought she needed me because she was and still is with an abusive guy. Anyhow, this is my first relationship since getting out of the cycle with my mom. About 3 weeks into it, I started pushing her away. I did not know why, well recently I realized I was afraid of her becoming emotionally dependent on me and causing another cycle. Well then I thought I have to break up with her because she is going to start this all over with me, but then I realized, what if she was never becoming emotionally dependent, what if I was just projecting all my fears onto her. So I know it may be more me. I may not be completely ready for a relationship, but I like her and I am willing to give it another go. If I feel this pressure or anything again...then I am going to end it, but this is what I am thinking....Sorry this post is so long...Just wanted to share my rambling thoughts in my mind. Thanks for listening....

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tougher than I thought....

by wonderwoman77 in

in my etiology and occupations class, we are talking about mental health and occupational therapy.

each group is to present a case and discuss it and how ot can be used.

well one group was doing borderline personality disorder.

wonderwoman77

Thank you outnfree. I appreciate you welcoming me and replying to my post. Borderline is a very tough disease to deal with. You might want to read Stop walking on eggshells to understand how to help your nieces daughter and your niece. It is a great book. There is one called Understanding the Borderline Mother, it is good too...:)

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7th Heaven the American TV Show?

by D wiltshire in

jw
friends

how do you think the actor for the rev.

erik camden does the part of a true christian?

not only the actor but the part he playes.. .

wonderwoman77

I use to enjoy this show. It is not bad. By the wasy yardif, it is not called 7th heaven because they think there are 7 heavens, it is based on they had 7 in there family when it began.

The funny thing is that the actor who plays eric camden, also plays many other roles, like most actors....he played a babysitter killer on time...

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to be or not to be????

by wonderwoman77 in

hey all...i am in a bit of a dilemma over the situation with my girlfriend.

let me give you a bit of background info first.

when i was 12 my dad left my mom, he came back for my 13 birthday and then when he went to leave again, my mom tried to commit suicide.

wonderwoman77

SS,

I was in one on one counseling with a psychologist at my college. She was the greatest! I think the fact we had a great working relationship helped matters greatly...

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tougher than I thought....

by wonderwoman77 in

in my etiology and occupations class, we are talking about mental health and occupational therapy.

each group is to present a case and discuss it and how ot can be used.

well one group was doing borderline personality disorder.

wonderwoman77

In my etiology and occupations class, we are talking about mental health and occupational therapy. Each group is to present a case and discuss it and how OT can be used. Well one group was doing borderline personality disorder. So I told them I would give them the account of my mom. Sometimes it is therapuetic for me to talk about it. So I told them about it, gave them examples of how she meet all nine of the criteria, etc. The hard part was listening to my own story today as they presented. It was tough to hear some of the things. No one but them knew it was me in class, but still, it was tough to hear about how she tried to kill herself. It was tough to hear about how she devalues me one minute and puts me on high the next. It was weird to hear it back....

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Harry Potter Movie

by Abaddon in

i saw this on saturday and.... now i am a servant of the dark lord bwa-ha-ha-ha-ha!.

... it was very cool.. visually very faithful to the books; eerything looks as it 'should', which is really hard.

the screenplay was an acceptable compromise between the brevity neccesary in converting a book to a film, although one part (the dursley's leaving privett drive to escape the letters and being hunted down by hagrid) was done very badly.. the actors were excellent, and (thank god, nothing against american's, but i object to english stories being americanised for no reason other than american cultural imperialism) an excellent cast of top-quality 'supporting' english, or i should say british (as robbie coltraine is great as hagrid (and big!

wonderwoman77

I saw the movie saturday. It was excellent. very good, and a great representation of the book. I loved it. :)

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confession

by Mulan in

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i haven't told this to very many people, so here goes.. when i was a child, my parents became jw's (i was almost 5), so i had celebrated christmas a few times, but have few memories of it, other than the bubble lights, and a huge tree and my grandparent's house.

when we stopped celebrating it, i didn't really "get it", and i still believed in santa claus.

i just thought he didn't come to our house anymore.

wonderwoman77

I was not a JW until I was 13, so I had to whole experience of santa claus. My parents even made up that I got presents from Ms. Claus, the reindeers and frosty. My parents use to make christmas magical for me when I was very little. Things fell apart when I was older, but I still have good memories. I was very angry at them when I first found out there was no santa, because they lied to me, I was 7 when I found out. The reason I was mad, was because I asked them when I was 5 and they lied then. But by the time I was 9, I realized how great the fantasy was, and was very happy my parents let me believe....

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Sleep, the Dreamer and Death

by msil in

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wonderwoman77

Msil, You may be insane, but so were most of the great poets, doesn't mean just because your poetry comes from that part of you that it cannot be posted on art, lit, etc. I was just curious how you found it relevant to this forum. Not that it really matters. By the way if you are insane, what is your diagnosis?

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i have been to other boards, but i thought i would grace you all with my prescence as well.

i know i just met some of you in the chat room.

wonderwoman77

thanks prisca...:)