Sosoconfused- I think I have the same type of conversation coming up soon with my parents so I appreciate reading your experience. It sounds awful, but also that it ended with some hope, that at least your dad won't shun you. If I have to confront my parents, I don't plan on getting into any back and forth discussion- it's a no win situation. Anyhow, hope you're doing ok- at least it's behind you now.
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I just informed the parents about me and the TTATT... heart wrenching
by sosoconfused inwell first i want to thank everyone here for the good points etc... i have received over the last few months.
you guys have really been helpful!.
so the other day my mother wrote me a 3 page letter telling me how she was so scared for me because she could tell my love for the truth was gone etc.. so i decided i wanted to totally rip the band-aid off and get this matter over and done with.
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Family is drawing the line in the sand
by dissonance_resolved inso my family has obviously been noticing over the past several months that i've been missing meetings and fs.
i've had excuses sometimes, but not others, so my parents are definitely getting that this is more than a long bout of illnesses or fatigue.
i just received an email invitation to join them in service this weekend.
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Their intentions are good- its not that they're treating me badly. They are only trying to encourage and support me in staying in the truth. What they don't realize is that instead of encouraging me, it's basically a guilt trip. Thanks to everyone for your help and advice. I have a lot to think about.
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Family is drawing the line in the sand
by dissonance_resolved inso my family has obviously been noticing over the past several months that i've been missing meetings and fs.
i've had excuses sometimes, but not others, so my parents are definitely getting that this is more than a long bout of illnesses or fatigue.
i just received an email invitation to join them in service this weekend.
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I'm an adult and self-sufficient- it's the emotional blackmail that gets me.
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Family is drawing the line in the sand
by dissonance_resolved inso my family has obviously been noticing over the past several months that i've been missing meetings and fs.
i've had excuses sometimes, but not others, so my parents are definitely getting that this is more than a long bout of illnesses or fatigue.
i just received an email invitation to join them in service this weekend.
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I can't play the sick card really because I have an active lifestyle and it's hard to explain how I can be so active and yet be too sick to go to the meeting. I think I will reply back, say thank you for thinking of me, and invite them to do something else fun with us the same weekend- that puts the ball in their court and sidesteps the issue, right? Hubby is no help at all at this point- since I've been scaling back, he's been stepping up, much to my chagrin.
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Halloween is like celebrating bunnies who aren't important
by dissonance_resolved infrom my young daughter's notebook titled "things to remember about the truth.".
i see i've failed miserably as a jw parent- or maybe not?.
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I thought it was funny because she clearly doesn't understand why we don't celebrate Halloween, Easter or birthdays as it's all just a confused conglomeration. At the same time, at least she's not an uber-dub who can spout the many reasons why holidays are bad, pagan, self-centered, etc. I've got to get my kids out soon, but it seems an impossible task.
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Family is drawing the line in the sand
by dissonance_resolved inso my family has obviously been noticing over the past several months that i've been missing meetings and fs.
i've had excuses sometimes, but not others, so my parents are definitely getting that this is more than a long bout of illnesses or fatigue.
i just received an email invitation to join them in service this weekend.
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So my family has obviously been noticing over the past several months that I've been missing meetings and FS. I've had excuses sometimes, but not others, so my parents are definitely getting that this is more than a long bout of illnesses or fatigue. I just received an email invitation to join them in service this weekend. It's worded in such a way that I cannot feign being ill, tired, busy, working, home repairs, you name it, to get out of it. It's like a line in the sand- are you coming or are you not? I'm obviously not, never, no way, no how, forget it- but what do I say? I'm heartbroken over this, seeing that it may be the beginning of the end of my time with my family. It's like having to choose the day I want my whole family to die because I'll never see them again as soon as I say what I need to say.
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Halloween is like celebrating bunnies who aren't important
by dissonance_resolved infrom my young daughter's notebook titled "things to remember about the truth.".
i see i've failed miserably as a jw parent- or maybe not?.
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From my young daughter's notebook titled "Things to Remember About the Truth.". I see I've failed miserably as a JW parent- or maybe not?
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Faders????
by Crazyguy inok so i have been actively fading but my question to all you faders with family.
if one just fades doesn't it just look like to your kids that you have just become spiritually weak?
i mean aren't they my kids just going to ask their mother why i'm not going in time, and that will give her a chance to explain things the way she wants?
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I've been having the same dilemma. One thing that helped me this week- I had prepared some questions on a certain topic for my husband to think about. He's my main focus right now because if we can be on the same page, everything else will fall into place. Unfortunately, he didn't respond as hoped- the thought-stopping set in and my painstakingly crafted logical arguments were tossed to the side in favor of blind aquiescence to an illogical faith. The next day I raised the same questions with my daughter and since she wasn't as brainwashed, the lightbulbs went off! Oh yeah, she said, that makes sense! Why would they ever teach that? Made me feel a little more sane and a little more confident that somehow, some way, some of us will make it out.
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Ugh... Have to learn to keep my mouth shut
by dissonance_resolved inso my mom was telling me that my aunt is going to be hosting a gb member and wife, cos and do for dinner after their dc this summer.
i immediately blurt out, "that sounds stressful.
" which is met with dead silence.
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Lol, totally- how did you know?
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Ugh... Have to learn to keep my mouth shut
by dissonance_resolved inso my mom was telling me that my aunt is going to be hosting a gb member and wife, cos and do for dinner after their dc this summer.
i immediately blurt out, "that sounds stressful.
" which is met with dead silence.
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So my mom was telling me that my aunt is going to be hosting a GB member and wife, COs and DO for dinner after their DC this summer.
I immediately blurt out, "That sounds stressful." Which is met with dead silence. "oh, I mean making sure dinner and the house are perfect, you know..."
Cringe. I guess I was supposed to say something about what an awesome, amazing privilege that would be. "Those that do to the least of these, my brothers" and all.
Seriously , though, can you think of anything more stressful as a JW than having a GB member over to your house?