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You have a bond with your cat and this is a hurtful thing. She's been your companion with unconditional love for so many years- of course it hurts- nothing weak about that at all.
I'm so sorry.
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Life sucks
by joannadandy inall right- all those out there who own pets, or have owned pets will hopefully see my point of view and understand.
the rest of you can point and laugh at my weakness.... my cat is dying.
she is 119 in people years, i guess it's to be expected that she go sometime, but still it sucks!
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There was this spider....
by Mimilly in.... that would easily cover a quarter on my wall.
now, i don't mind the arachnid critters outside, but when they cross that boundary into my home, they're fair game.
if they are camped out on my window sill outside, i'll even name them - but not in my bedroom.
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Hate spiders. I know- I'm bigger than they are. Have allergic reactions to their bites- swell up big time. Have arachniphobia big time. What the heck Mim- you supposed to capture him and let him out so that he can come back into your house to taunt you further.
I hate when you are trying to get one and they fall behind the couch or something. I kill them myself now but I remember when I used to demand to see "a body" when I'd send the guy in my life after one. Cuz guys will go after a spider for you half-heartedly and it falls behind the couch for them too and they just walk away-job done. LOL- no that spider is still in the house!
Sorry, but I don't like spiders. Snakes are pretty cool though. I'm not afraid of them. Was on the golf course yesterday morning and there was a baby snake on the green and I had to go pick it up and play with it.
I remember years ago a friend of mine had a taurantula (sp?) as a pet. He brought this girl home with him for the night and figured out in the middle of the night that the spider had gotten loose cuz her fingernails were embedded in his back and she was shrieking at the top of her lungs. Funny, he kept the spider and ditched her. Hmmmm.
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Excited, surprised and thrilled
by Lady Lee inyesterday i was at the book store and picked up a book titled recovering from sexual abuse, addictions, and compulsive behaviors.
i thought it would be great for my job.
i was sitting in the tub earlier reading the preface, acknowledgemetns and introduction (yes i read those).
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Hey there Lady Lee!!!
I have the latest Writers Market and it is comprehensive as always. Another one I would suggest for you is: "Online Markets for Writers" How to Make Money by Selling Your Writing on the Internet, by Anthony Tedesco and Paul Tedesco. I got mine at Barnes & Noble - didn't check amazon.com to see if they have it. There's a lot of really good information in that one as well.
Again- CONGRATULATIONS!!!!! You RAWK!!
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Wow WT-- those EYES- You both definetly have the same pair!!!
Great picture!!!!!! I'm glad you are enjoying this football experience with him.
Where are the smiles?
Thanks for sharing this!!!
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Excited, surprised and thrilled
by Lady Lee inyesterday i was at the book store and picked up a book titled recovering from sexual abuse, addictions, and compulsive behaviors.
i thought it would be great for my job.
i was sitting in the tub earlier reading the preface, acknowledgemetns and introduction (yes i read those).
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AWESOME LEE!!!!!!!
YOU RAWK! CONGRATS!!
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In Memory of a diff.kind of Silentlamb -Pics
by LyinEyes inmost of you know about my mother, she passed away from this world 17 yrs ago tomorrow, sept. 15, 1985. her passing was very hard on my sister and me , because it was a suicide.
she had been a witness for 16 years and even almost died standing up for the blood issue in 1983, due to a stomach ulcer, and too many asprins.
her blood count went down to 2 and she had to be put in a lear jet to get to houston, tx.
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My thoughts are with you hun!!! Thank you for sharing this with us. I wish there were something I could do to take some of the pain away.
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Thoughts on the Columbine Tragedy
by SYN inhope the word "columbine" is spelled right in this post .
today i read an article on rense.com (an excellent website for all conspiracy theorists) where a parent was moaning about mtv, and the influence it was having on american children and other children.
apparently, mtv is bad for your morals or something.
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YAY Scooter!!
Momma's watching!!! Good for you girl!!! My own 14 year old daughter knows "momma's watching" all the time.
She has never had Play Station or any of the other video games. My brother has them at his house and she is able to play there but she is not really that interested. Is that lack of interest due to my restricting her access in her earlier years? Perhaps. Do I feel badly about that? Nope. Her lack of exposure to this hasn't adversaly affected her in the least. She did/does however have games on her computer like "Civilization" & the "Sim" series. When she was younger it was "Where in the World is Carmen SanDiego". She still had fun with those games. This was my choice and parents have to make their own personal choices for their own kids. And I think the big thing is supervision.
I compared this to my own upbringing and we were building tree-forts and playing football in the front yard or playing kick-the-can etc. Nowadays, a kid can sit in a chair and they have a computer with which to communicate, play games, listen to music etc. Turn the chair a few degrees and there is the television with all it offers and add the games and they don't really need to leave that realm at all. Very sad state of affairs.
I also restricted certain shows when she was younger as well (as I continue to monitor what she watches now) When she was younger, shows like Roseanne and Erkle (sp) were not seen on the television in our house. She wanted to know why. I explained to her with Roseanne that THAT is not a family. The whole premise of the show is a lack of respect. The kids don't respect their parents and the parents don't respect their kids and the whole show was who could mouth off the best or who was the most sarcastic with the other to make comedy. In the case of Erkle- she didn't get it. I told her- If you saw that guy on the street, he looks nothing like that- they dressed him in too short pants and gave him this squeeky voice etc., all so that they could make the show about making fun of someone like that. A bit harsh? Perhaps. Do I care? No. I don't think she missed a darn thing by not watching those shows.
One of the things that I noticed from the Columbine tragedy was there were several dynamics present. The parents were not aware of what was going on? There was a sawed-off shotgun on this kids dresser and the parents didn't see it? How is that? They were building bombs in the garage over a span of time and the parents didn't know what was going on?
I think one of the dangers is that so many folks were so bent on success and having it all that they enslaved themselves to it. They built these wonderful homes in ritzy sections of town and then had to work 60 hours a week in order to pay for them. Noone was home. The family unit was not solid.
The other thing I have seen is that some of the kids who have flipped out in this manner were bullied incessantly by others throughout their school years. And noone did anything about it. These kids can be absolutely brutal to one another and the internal damage that bullying does is projected outward. Very sad indeed.
Last year, in my daughter faced the crisis of one of her best friends attempting suicide. She came to me with it and wanted me to not say anything. Up to that point, the friends of this boy had been trying to help him and finally told him that if he didn't tell someone they would. This was an enormous burden on 13-14 year olds. And as things unfolded - I found out that there were several kids in her class having this crisis in their lives-wanting to commit suicide. I got ahold of the school counselor and initially they weren't going to do anything for all of the kids. I made a fuss (go figure eh) and they ended up bringing in a counselor to talk to all of the kids about suicide. Way too much responsibilty and pressure for 13-14 year old kids to deal with. My daughter and I talked about all of that for weeks- I needed to know she was okay with it.
My hats off to you scooter and other parents who keep the lines of communication open with their kids. I figure I have a job here- I have to get this child from birth to being a responsible, emotionally healthy, caring adult. Everything else is secondary. Yes, momma's watching.
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Do some people love trauma and tragedy?
by kenpodragon ini have never considered myself to be full of a bunch of trauma and tragedy.
at least when i compare it to some.. have you ever known the type of people though, that always have something new happening that is traumatic.
you know the type, if it isn't a sick child it is a argument.
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Yes Wedsnesday, this is common with Borderlines. The constant chaos. It is also a very classic trait of Narcissistic Personality Disorder as well- which in many instances is co-morbid with BPD as well.
This type of behavior is also visible in those who aren't necessarily suffering from a personality disorder at all- the Drama Kings and Queens. Many folks are so accustomed to being the center of attention that they are uncomfortable without it. So the moment that attention wanes in any way, they become uncomfortable and need a crisis with which to regain it.
I worked with someone like this too Kenpo. If there wasn't a real crisis or some chaos going on in her life, she'd create something. Like the woman you described, she missed work often. I don't know what her deal was- I don't really care- all I know is that her behavior and it's affect on others bugged the shit out of me and so many others in her realm. With this woman, I remember one guy who worked in our office telling me that I was being insensitive to her because I wouldn't react to every little thing that came up. I became numb to her constant problems and complaints. She brought a negativity into the air that I made my mission to erase. GRRRR. Eventually, like your ChaosQueen, ours was eliminated too. To us, it felt like someone had taken a piano off our backs.
And yes, you'll find lots of them on support boards as well.
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It's been a fun ride (Moving On)
by Reborn2002 into my friends, exjw's, and hypocritical watchtower-apologists,.
i promised on this website quite some time ago that should i ever leave jw.com, i would be honorable and not complain nor post some grandiose exit so as to garner unnecessary attention and bandwidth, and i will keep that promise.
i am not complaining, i love many people on this website, and can relate to their pain like few others can, because i experienced it myself.
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Good Luck Jason!!!!!!
Your insight is keen and I've always enjoyed chatting with you. Take good care of yourself!!!!
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(shamelessly) Its My Birthday!
by Sirona inits my birthday and i got some anais anais body mist, a buffy "watchers guide" book, and some angel innocence perfume and shower mousse.. my bf says he will buy me an outfit when i'm better, too,.
russell grant says this about people born on 14 september:.
at their best, people born on september 14 are tremendous party-givers and general planners of fun and great holidays.
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Happy Birthday Sirona!!!!!!!
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