as i do research, i come across other things said by the wts that makes me wonder why i didn't leave then:.
11/1/85 wt p 24. .
further, such a woman is humble-minded, not haughty; kind, not surly; tidy, not unkempt; sympathetic, not belligerent.
OMG
The rules don't apply to me. A woman who loves a woman does 'nt have to justify and be in subjection . Equal opportunity~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~.
I remember this subjection thing with my ex-husb. He would try to be romatic and quote the bible say womens breast were like pomergrants(sp).~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~.I wanted to throw up
Thank god I been there and done that~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
OCW
first of all, let me say that many, if not most, of my memories of abuse and early childhood were recovered.
some people feel that this diminishes my experience, or in some way denies what happened.
i suffered from major depression and was quite suicidal for 2 years before something happened to trigger my memories.
BIG TEX with A BIG HEART
I admire your strength and courage to stand up in sharing your story. I am sorry you were treated so badly. You did'nt deserve it. Makes me angry. They had no right to do such things to a little boy.
By your presences is allowing doors to be opened for others. I am proud of you!!!
That was a gift your wife asking you. It opened the door for you to begin your journey. Gifts are not always painless.
I've done extensive therapy with abuse issues. Just recently I seen relatives I have'nt seen for years. A relative wants to get together with me soon. I've always liked her. This gives me a opportunity to ask this question thats been nagging ever since I was a child and into adulthood. It's a little scarey and to allow myself to feel vulnerable with her. I need to take the risk. And maybe she does'nt know? It's one of few pieces left of my puzzle.
You are a asset here!!!
All the Best, OCW
sorry if this has been brought up before (and i'm sure it has) but what are your nicknames?
what people nickname you can be very telling about your personality and it's funny that they sometimes become more a part of you than your given name.. i have a long list of them..lol!.
when i was a kid: carrie canary (cause i walked around singing all the time).
Thanks Aztec
I like these less STRESS threads. It helps to bring some of the old memories that have been hidden for awhile. Don't have to deal with you are wrong or I am right thread. As a 50 some year old somehow its not important~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~after awhile.!!!!!!
When in grade school I would be called Hairy Kari. Kari was my maiden name. They thought it was so funny~~~~~~~~I personally did'nt see the humor in it.
In H.S was called Cuds. Because I chewed gum alot.
When I was married his name LeRoy Brown. When writing a check the clerks would laugh and start singing LeRoy Brown the meanst man in town!! Blah, Blah, Blah!!! I was internally grateful to have his name removed from checking.
At times I would be in group of people with several name Kathi's. I would be called KB.
When I worked as a Machinist in a sheet metal shop I would be called Brown cow kathi brown. Whatever!! Male dominated shop!!!
Now in the ER I am called KB, downtown kathi brown or ER Fairy!!!!!!
A women of many hats OCW
can people be single and happy?
the older i get the more i believe that being single is the way to go.there are so many advantages.just to name a few;.
you can finish that college degree, go to the neighborhood bar anytime, do charity work, join a night class, stay out all night, flirt with anybody you please.
Yeah I am single and happy. Back in time I had a hard time being with me. After coming out of dysfunction in my life it took alot of internal work and internal struggle to be at home with myself. And for a long time I ran as fast I could so I would"nt have to be me. That get's wearing and eventually run out of gas. And I probably would get into trouble with myself.
The other night I was talking to a good friend. She is single too. I said you know what I need is to have someone come behind me to let me know I left 2 smoothies out on the counter from grocery shopping the night before and sat on counter overnight. I am experiencing silver moments pretty regular lately
She says honey taken up with another is'nt the way to go. She said I should call a friend and to say I am going to go grocery shopping. They would call you later saying the about grocery shopping. I thought that was very creative. So I can grow old with self!!! LOL LOL Actually I mean grow older~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
I do love my freedom and value it. After being in a domestic abuse relationship. I won't sell my soul to another. Chersish my free spirit~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Happiness comes within. No one else is going to fill it.
OCW
the watchtower society has had much deserved bad publicity for their policies on child molestation.
some suggest that this occurrence is no different than other religions.
actually, i have known about 10 persons that have been sexually molested by a relative.
I know of 13 jw's who have been sexually abused.
When I went through treatment for alcoholism were told one out of six is sexually abused. Thats including male and female.
OCW
...and i'm feeling pretty good right now.
i quit, cold turkey, this morning.
it's been almost 24 hours since my last cigarette.
hello Aztec~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
I am proud of you. Congratulations!!! Its a huge feat to undertake.
All the Best, OCW
after reading so many experiences about how being a jw affected a person's life, i wonder how your life has turned out because you were at one time a witness.
Before joining the jw's, I came out of a dysfunctional family. Dealing with emotional and abuse issues. Along with parental neglect and abandonment.
So I fed right into the org. and married a man like my father. Like the family of orgin did'nt deal with feelings. I fit right in the org not dealing with feelings~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Fortunately I've done extensive therapy. And continue to do so. It's about the journey not the destination~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
I am happy to be where I am today!!!!!
OCW
i hated it with a passion!
who enjoyed it??.
i can possibly imagine someone who's home life was miserable, and it was an excuse to get out of the house.
I felt guilty at the time of going door to door and feeling like a hypocrit. And prayed at every door they would'nt be home. And if they were at the door they would'nt be interested . Did'nt offend me. Quite relieved!!!! I purposedly went door to door by myself.
I used the same sermon for 14 yrs. Can you believe that???~~~~~~~~~~ I refused to work with anyone at the doors!!!! No one said anything to me the way I was handling the whole situation. Maybe because I was this odd duck out of water to them Who knows??? A true dedicated person~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ huh??
It was one of many journeys in my life!!!
OCW
i took the quiz and i got:.
you come from an ancient civilization.
egypt,.
I come from the ocean.
Which is true for me. Being cancer and a crab makes alot of sense. I receive nuturing from water.
OCW
have you ever won anything in your life?
i didn't, but indirectly i did.
back in 1982 my mother won a brand new honda civic.
I won a 250.00 stratch off lottery ticket.
I won 10,000 nickels on 90 cents at the casino nickel machine.
$500.00 on a quarter machine. Now this was over a period of time.
OCW
