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  Abuse was the only reason I left. Posted on the net in 1996.

  by cat1759 in

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  jehovah's witness elders .

  abused my 4 year old

  when my son matt was three years old, he was molested by his 26 year old aunt (my sister in law).

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  Cathy~~~~~~~~

  I want to say that I admire your whole family. The courage and strength to stand up for your son. I think its important to honor those places in life that brought so much pain. And to measure as individuals where you stand today and to be able to mark those changes as well.

  I too, the only reason I left was abuse.

  My children are adults and to watch them bloom and grow over the years. They know as a mother I will stand behind them still.

  And to stand by your son who is gay . Is a testament in the relationship. I applaud you.

  OCW
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  The JW Martyr Complex?

  by lisaBObeesa in

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  2. friends

  like my mother before me, im a martyr.

  i am almost unable to make a choice based on what is best for me.

  and of course this has over time made me a depressed, bitter person who, much to my horror, explodes with rage from time to time.

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  oldcrowwoman

  Yes, I wore the martyr robe quite well. I was a martyr before becoming a jw. My mother is a role model for martyrdom. So I was quite groomed into the jw-dom.

  So it has taken me years to reclaim myself. Fortunately over the years I choose to be around other women who are taking care of themselves and extensive therapy.

  I can say I am a happier person today.

  I support you in taking care of yourself in whatever way it makes you comfortable with self.

  OCW
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  I'm Getting a Tattoo!!!!

  by ESTEE in

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  on my ankle.. here it is....what do you think???.

  estee.

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  Estee

  Sounds exciting. What a beautiful spot on your ankle. I like the rose image.

  There is a woman here in Minneapolis is a tattoo artist. Her spirituality is with the process of tattooing. I plan on receiving a crow feather on my upper arm.

  Hope to hear how it goes for you?

  OCW
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  JW funeral! Help!

  by smurfette in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  my grandma died yesterday.

  i love her very much and miss her terribly.

  she joined the jw's late in life after years of my mom coaxing her to join.

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  Smurfette

  My condolences goes out to you in these times of the loss of your Grandmother. She sounds special to you.

  I support you in taking care of yourself surounding this unhealthy energy. I am glad their are non-jws to get support from during this time.

  I am also from Minnesota.

  Interesting that one post here sharing about Ron and Mavis Frye. I use to be in the same congregation in the middle 1970's. Small world.

  OCW
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  Do You Think That As A Poster You Can Make A Difference In Someone's Life?

  by minimus in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  when you post here, do you feel that you that you can make a positive difference in someone's life?

  or is this place just a spot to hang with your friends?

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  oldcrowwoman

  I think so. It certainly has opened many doors for myself in my healing process. I can see my growth has changed sense being on this board. Hopefully will make a difference to others who are on their journey. And to know each one of us are not alone.

  OCW
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  Who owns the fish?

  by no one in

  1. jw
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  there are five houses in five different colours.

  in each house lives a person with a different nationality.

  the five owners drink a certain type of beverage, smoke a certain brand of cigar, and keep a certain pet.

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  oldcrowwoman

  I have no clue???

  Welcome no one

  OCW
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  To 'No One'

  by Guest 77 in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i read your reply to 'not fitting' and i'm sorry to hear that only one person welcomed you to the board.

  you have to forgive some of us because the board moves quickly and trying to read as many posts as possible and make replies is a chore within itself.

  anyways, welcome and i think i speak for others.

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  Welcome No One

  Sorry you slipped through the cracks. Its hard sometimes to keep with the treads.

  Whats interesting is the response to threads are few. But notice in the upper right hand cornor shows how viewed. So you being heard but not always acknowledge.

  I glad you are hear. Hope to hear more about yourself.

  OCW
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  I Just Don't "Fit" Anywhere!

  by pettygrudger in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i'm sitting at work today, listening to all the different "cliques" around me, typing here on these boards a bit (don't tell), and it occurred to me again that i just don't fit.. .

  it seems like i don't "fit" anywhere.

  i'm always on the outskirts of alot of "groups", always on the fringe, but never inside.

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  oldcrowwoman

  I am glad you brought this up. Helps me to put this in perspective. And thank you PG for the gift.

  I too, struggled. I am 59 years old. Even on a couple of ex's boards I felt this square peg trying to fit in round hole. I realized being on the fringes of these clinques that I would'nt get my needs met and it would'nt be place for me to be. And I would loose part of myself. I worked too hard to get to this point in life to do a trade off in order to belong.

  I work with 180 people in the ER. I have one friend who I can call a true friend and visa versa. The clinques are like the HS cheerleaders they have'nt actually moved on in life. Interesting I for the most part don't know all the goings on. Nor do I care. People don't share with me. Cause I would nip in the bud.

  I've been on this board 6 months or more. I am beginning to feel okay and making friends. So there are jewels here.

  I would love to get to know you more. Thank you again for the gift.

  All the Best, Old Crow Woman
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  Old Crow Birthday 7/20/03

  by oldcrowwoman in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  birthdays

  i would like to hear from others and feelings with experiences with birthdays.

  and what ways you choose to celebrate or not since being out of the org.

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  oldcrowwoman

  Want to say thank you for the wishes. I appreciate hearing how others treat themselves regarding birthdays.

  I don't think I ever had so many wishes in my life. It was a honor.

  OCW ((((Hugs to All))))
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  Birthday Experience

  by oldcrowwoman in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  it was a emotionally packed week-end.

  one never know's whats around the cornor?

  i am grateful to be in a place to not create crisises for myself.

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  oldcrowwoman

  It was a emotionally packed week-end. One never know's whats around the cornor? I am grateful to be in a place to not create crisises for myself. And being aware of my feelings.

  Early in the week-end by the lake shore I saw a snake. To remind me that I am needing to shed old skin relating to relationships, jw stuff and my spirituality. And seeing deer to be gentle with myself throughout this process. The best birthday gift was a bald eagle sitting in a tree next to the cabin. And eagle is about seeing the overview of my relationships and life. There were many dragonflies flying around in the circle at the "Honoring the Earth Pow Wow" my needing some fresh air in regard to my relationships. Need to gain a new perspective or make a change.

  I was able to enjoy my birthday even tho there was unhealthy group dynamics. Did not allow it to rain on my parade. My wishes were a nuturing week-end. For the most part was'nt met. I was able to receive gifts from those who were around me. Not allowing the negative energy take over my well being.

  These women are my drumming group and we have been involved for 8 yrs.It's becoming more and more dysfunctional. Not meeting my needs. And I've bargin with myself for a while now. The writing is on the wall my needing to take care of myself to move on. And the pain is so great. I value my spiritualty. The wise voice within says my spiritualty will stay intact regardless of being connected to a group. And there were many gifts given over the years.

  So the 59th birthday is packed this year. For me to honor change.

  OldCrowWoman