Posts by oldcrowwoman

... just as the homosexual community took a term and used it for their own purposes, so that scientific designations and insulting words were derailed, so to a group of people believe that humanism/atheism et.al.

needs such a term.

oldcrowwoman

Yes I am bright, witty and charming~~~~!

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After-Burn

by oldcrowwoman in

even though i meant it, i still feel ashamed, guilty, and afraid.".

"this common reaction to new, exciting recovery behaviors.

anything to do with owning our power and taking care of ourselves can trigger feelings of shame, guilt, and fear.

oldcrowwoman

I had a follow up to the post. Always when I am done expounding the puter freezes up and knocks me off!!! It happens in the evening.

It helps to be able to name what I am feeling. I experienced the After-Burn last week. Confronting a co-worker. Who was under-mining my job. I am and so is the ER dept. deal's with her inappropriate and toxic behaviors. She did'nt own her part and told if she wanted to take over the main desk. She's welcomed. I was so angry. I walked away.

These kind of behaviors has been going on for 3 yrs now. Kinda like living in a bus station. In the past she has gone to anger management and communications classes.

I work in a dysfunctional environment. So some days its hard to keep one's head above water.

Talking with my Head Nurse. She knew I was hot. Kept to how I feel. This is the straw that broke the camels back. I can not tolerate her behaviors. I feel its abusive. For the most part lack of respect towards other and how they are treated.

So the key word that perked the Head Nurse ears was ABUSE. I was not going to tolerate her abuses anymore.

Head Nurse confronted her. Told her that she needs to go back to anger management and 2 other classes. In the future if there is one complaint. She's out the door.

Yes I felt the After-Burn, questioning myself. I felt empowered to express my feelings and when its direct. Take responsibility for how I feel.

OCW

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After-Burn

by oldcrowwoman in

even though i meant it, i still feel ashamed, guilty, and afraid.".

"this common reaction to new, exciting recovery behaviors.

anything to do with owning our power and taking care of ourselves can trigger feelings of shame, guilt, and fear.

oldcrowwoman

"How could I do it?How could I say it? Even though I meant it, I still feel ashamed, guilty, and afraid."

"this common reaction to new, exciting recovery behaviors. Anything to do with owning our power and taking care of ourselves can trigger feelings of shame, guilt, and fear.

We do not have to allow these feelings to control us. They're a back lash. They're after-burn. Let them burn out.

When we start confronting and attacking feelings and messages, we will experience some after-burn. The after-burn is what we allowed to control us all our life---shame and guilt.

Many of us grew up wuth shame-based messages that it was'nt okay to take care of ourselves, be honest, be direct, and own our own power with people. Many of us grew up with messages that it was'nt okay to be who we were and resolve problems in relationships. Many of us grew up with the message that what we want and need is'nt okay.

Let it burn off. We don't have to take after-burn so seriously. We don't let the after-burn convince us that we are wrong and don't have a right to take care of ourselves and set boundaries.

Do we really have the right to take care of ourselves? Do we really have the right to set boundaries? Do we really have the right to be direct and say what we need to say?

You bet we do."

"The Language of Letting Go" by Melody Beattie

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Why are you here?

by freedom96 in

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friends

proplog2 left a post the other day saying that they are "cured" and therefore leaving the site.. this got me to wondering...... why are we here?.

i tend to think that most of us are "cured", i think many of us have put the jw experience behind us.. personally, i am here for several reasons.. 1. to keep updated on what is going on within the organization, as it interests me.

i have several friends and my son still involved, and i need to know the latest.. 2. i like many of the people here.

oldcrowwoman

Why I am here? Good question!!

I am here for healing and to heal others who have or are in similiar circumstances. Its about giving and receiving gifts.

Recovery is a healing process. I can trust it, even when I don't understand it. I am right where I need to be in this process. I am going through exactly what I need to experience. And where I am going is better than any place before.

I don't see myself cured from my experience as a jw. Its part of my history. To come to a point I can say to myself that I have grown from the experience and to contiune to grow. For I find it scarey of being stuck in that crap and not move on.

That was the main reason I came to this site to find ways to take care of myself. I will know in time when its time for me to move on.

OCW

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Choices

by oldcrowwoman in

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" birds sing after a storm; why should'nt people feel as free to delight in whatever remains to them?

" ---rose fitzgerald kennedy.

" we choose the lives we lead.

oldcrowwoman

" Birds sing after a storm; why should'nt people feel as free to delight in whatever remains to them?" ---Rose Fitzgerald Kennedy

" We choose the lives we lead. We choose sadness or happiness; success or failure; dread or excited anticipation. Whether or not we are conscious of our choices, we are making them every moment.

Accepting full responsibility for our actions is one the requirements of maturity. Not always the easiest thing to do, but necessary to our further development. An unexpected benefit of accepting our responsibility is that it heightens our awareness of personal power. Our well-being is within our power. Happiness is within our power. Our attitude about any condition, present or future, is within our power, if we take it.

Life is doing unto us only what we allow. And it will favor us with whatever we choose. If we look for excitement, we'll find it. We can search out the positive in any experience. All situations present seeds of new understanding, if we are open to them. Our responses to the events around us determines whatever meaning life offers. We are in control of outlook. And our outlook decides our future.

This day is mine, fully, to delight in---- or to dread. The decision is always mine."

"Each Day-----a New Beginning" Book positive affirmations

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Why Are You All Still Here ??

by xjw_b12 in

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friends

to those who have been here since the beginning:.

i have been a member jwd for close to 2 years now.

i lurked some time before "taking the plunge" lol.

oldcrowwoman

I am a rock, an island!

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Could this be the language in the New system?

by shotgun in

the european union commissioners have announced that an agreement has been reached to adopt english as the preferred language for european communications, rather than german, which was the other possibility.

as part of the negotiations, the british government conceded that english spelling had some room for improvement and has accepted a five-year phased plan for what will be known as euroenglish (euro for short).

in the first year, "s" will be used instead of the soft "c".