Posts by Thechickennest

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What's the BEST thing about being "out" of the "truth"?

by B_Deserter in

for me, it's having friends that i don't have to hide my lack of meeting attendance/service from.

it's amazing how they teach you that only jws can be your real friends, but in reality, it's all contingent upon your religious "performance.

" sure, if you're not going to meetings, they'll try to be "friends," by encouraging you to go back.

Thechickennest

Being a parent that can encourage and support your children in such things as higher education. Not loosing your children because they do want to be a witness.

Not giving away life energy and money to a worthless cause.

Planning for a real future instead of a fantasy.

Resting on weekends

Making plans that do not revolve around meetings and assemblies

Accepting employment in a job that you enjoy, not one that allows time for all the witness activities.

Not spending a small fortune on dress clothes.

Just living.

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When you were a Jw did you have a relationship with God?

by Fisherman in

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difficult to understand how even heavys that taught about having a relatinship with god now proclaim that it was imagined after leaving the truth.

puts into question appointments and people serving.

i can understand if some one new leaves the org.

Before I was a JW, I had a great relationship with God. The longer I was in the cult, the demands on the relationship became so great, I lost sight of the forest for the trees so to speak. I don't like placing blame on anyone or anything since I was a willing participant for decades in the JW cult. Towards the end of my time in the cult, I harbored some resentment towards the men in charge of the cult as I began to step back and think more objectively about the teachings of the WT and the abuse of power by these men. After some serious grief and some healing time, I was then able to move on and make my relationship with God whole and clean again. To put it simply-my relationship with God was damaged by the WT and its cohorts.

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If you could say just one thing to help free a JW...

by Mr Ben in

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i guess it's seven years or so since i left, and back then i knew exactly what i would say when members of my cong would come and see me about my absence.

strangely, no one, not one, came and talked about my sudden absence.

i had actually planned a small speech that i could use when friends or the elders eventually came to see me.

Thechickennest

"Please, You need to reexamine and confirm your beliefs with the facts."

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How are you spending this Saturday morning ?

by troubled mind in

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i am spending it having a very unfruitful yard sale !

been out here since six am and have only had two people stop !

one bought a 50cent paperback book .

Thechickennest

My wife and I are involved the Lion's Club. We are helping clean up and restore the city park. This evening we have relatives in town for our daughters high school graduation tomorrow. None of the JW relatives are here of course. Our daughters witness grandmother sent a graduation card with $5.00 enclosed along with some bullshit words. This lady has not so much as said hello to our daughter since 1996. Our daughter was really pissed.

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Do you wish that you had internet access at JWD many years ago?

by asilentone in

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Thechickennest

Yes.

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Is Your Life THAT Much Better Off Since Leaving The Witnesses?

by minimus in

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witnesses love to say how "miserable" the "apostates" are when they .

leave "the truth".. how would you respond to this statement from your own personal experience?

?.

Thechickennest

Yes, much better off. Witness who?

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I'm new too!

by Annointeds Daughter in

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i'm new to the forum.

i've been lurking for some time, since i was "disconnected" by my husband, "tooktheredpill".

i'm a 3rd generation witness, and still inside of the borg, because all my family is inside.

Thechickennest

Welcome! I came out of the borg by myself. My wife joined me later. It has turned out to be a good thing for us.

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Something I Never Understood About The Importance of Meeting Attendance

by minimus in

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why is it soooo important to be a regular meeting attender when you can read the publication simply, at home?

they don't want you elaborating on the material.

they don't encourage doing extra research.

Thechickennest

All the new published material needs to be distributed. What would the poor sales brothers that are standing in those concession stands at the Hall do if someone did'nt pick up all the new magazines and new books? Also, persons need to drop all the funds from donations of prior and future sales in the contribution box labeled for that purpose. How could the "faithful and discreet publishing company" survive if people never came to the Hall to buy more stuff?

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If you could get back the time spent in WT what would you do differently?

by Thechickennest in

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is it too late to start over and pursue your dreams?

where would you likely be in life if it wasn't for the time spent being one of jehovah's witnesses?

was there anything salvagable from the your former life in the jw cult?.

Thechickennest

Easyreader1970:

It looks as though you are going take your life back. Excellent! I am extremely happy for you! As some one else mentioned, "Don't do it for money, do it for yourself"....If you can start a new business with your talent that's OK too. When you are up and going I hope that you will send me a PM about the website. Do not set your goals so high that you will be discourged if you do not at first get everything accomplished that you hoped to. Take things at your own pace and don't be too hard on yourself. We are trained as witnesses to beat ourselves to death with guilt, that having been said, just don't do go there while reaching out for your long time dream. Good luck freind!

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watchtowers at my threrapist's office

by loosie in

when i go to my threrapist's office, while waiting in the waiting room, i look for wts and awakes.

when i find them i write on them a website either this one or silent lambs or i just write "this group is a cult" across the front of it.. one visit i found like 12 wts.

i didn't have time to scribble a note on all of them before my therapist called me in.. well this week.

Thechickennest

I laughed and laughed when I read your topic!....I am a GM for a business that has a witness customer that is always leaving behind tracts, etc. I instruct my employees to throw away all religious materials found on the property. Maybe your therapist is trying to bring in some additional patients in that screw up thier lives in association with the witnesses....maybe not. You made my day! Thanks!