Posts by berylblue

i've been a faded jw for 10 years i left because of my failed first marriage, i'm no hypocrite and realised i had left completely so i embraced the world and dived in, only christmas and birthdays i could not get into, they were too foreign to me having never celebrated them, like if i suddenly tried to do ramadan or something like that.. 1/ all the criticisms of the people in the truth you say on here, i've found in the world, warts and all only in the world nothing holds them back from being utterly horrible to you.. 2/ i got stabbed by a worldly boyfriend, i got married 2 times of my own choosing to men outside the truth, the first smoked and was an alcoholic, the second gambled every penny we had and defrauded me out of money after we separated, 2 divorces later i am currently pregnant and a single mum since current boyfriend decided kids was to much of a responsibility and he needed his freedom and i was 'too selfish to expect him to give up his life'.. 3/ parents-in-law!

i have been shunned by them as equal to anything you accuse witness families of and for the silliest of reasons, i had a disabled son and his grandparents said they wanted nothing to do with him because they didn't want to become attached in case he died.. 4/ i miss the honest friendships of the truth, i had friends of all ages from 14 to 80 years old and they genuinely cared for me, many trying to keep me in the faith a long time after i left but i was determined to fade so moved away completely, but i find friendships in the world so shallow in comparison and very hard to sustain :( i've never been a drinker and sometimes thats what friendship means you being a companion for them to goto pub with.. 5/ my recent boyfriend was in a christian religion, i thought why not find out about it, harvest churches if you ever heard of them, unfortunately it still hasn't stop him leaving me pregnant and alone and when i said to him how does he clear that with god, he replies "as long as i repent it doesn't matter" it's like he has a "get out of jail free card" for any wrong-doing in the bible, this is so alien to me and my witness trained conscience.. 6/ i recently out of frustration tried looking into atheism and joined their forums, it wasn't fun, they are as bombastic and arrogant as their religious counterparts can be from any religion, they make a religion out of not believing in god, it's very weird they talk of saving people from believing in god and offer nothing to replace it.

they said to me "be happy you are in reality now and enjoy it" and i thought "well if this is reality i've had enough of it".

berylblue

FIRST OF ALL - sorry about the formatting; I have Firefox and the IE toolbar would not install. Oh, I absolutely tried to do the right thing as a Witness. My goal was never to go to the KH empty handed; I brought home made goods and gave money to others anonymously, even though I could not afford it. I gave clothing that I NEEDED away to those I perceived as more needy. My friends were always there for me - as long as they could count their time. As a basket case, the PO determined that any time spent with me could be counted as service. The minute I was announced my good friends, who never shied from my generosity, literally turned their backs. WITH FRIENDS LIKE THESE.... I may not have any close friends now, but my JW friends weren't really close to me, as I could never open up to them the way I have been able here AND I certainly don't have anyone in my life who would accept my generosity and then f me over in a New York minute because the WTS says so.

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What is your favorite thing about not being a JW anymore?

by megaflower in

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i would have to say the nagging feeling that iam not good enough (in thier eyes) does not bother me anymore

berylblue

EVERYTHING!

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Recent qutters, do you even have a social structure now?

by oompa in

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at least when i was in high school, i had lots of somewhat secret worldly friends.

i fit in well for guy with short hair.

my liberal elder/dad let me play on the tennis and soccer team....and go to the prom with my catholic girlfriend...talk about scandal.

berylblue

No, because I stay up at night correcting others' typos.

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Torn between being Gay and the Truth.........

by ScoobySnax in

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is there anything worse than this?

sometimes it is ok, other times it sucks.

berylblue

Holy shit, Scooby - you still here?

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I'm on pins & needles. About to get the best birthday present ever!

by coffee_black in

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i'm sitting by the phone because my son and daughter in law will become parents any minute.

contractions are 1 minute apart, so it looks like bailey will be born today...on my birthday!

how kool is that!!!!!!!

berylblue

Is this your first? I was on pins and needles as well - my grandson was born two days before my 50th birthday. Best birthday gift ever.

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The next president of the USA John McCain...

by zeroday in

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the dems are tearing themselves apart hillary will not go down with out a fight and obama is nothing but fluff..."members of congress the president of the united states john mccain....(roaring cheers)...dems don't know when to stop and hillary will take the entire dem party down with her mark my words...

berylblue

In the primary I WILL vote for Hillary. As far as the election, I'll write in a vote for someone. I'm taking suggestions.

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Obves / JCannon =Are they the Anti-Christ??

by Witness 007 in

berylblue

As a fellow African-American, I understand from where JCanon is coming. His writing syle, his biting wit, his self-effacement, all indicate a superior intelligence that was no doubt suppressed by the dictates of the WTS. Other than his penchant for flamboyance, I'll bet he's quite witty and engaging. ------------------ As an Italian-American/German-American/Scottish-American/Native-American, I also understand from where JCanon is coming. Friggin' Friends Hospital.

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Chicago MD ties Liberalism to Mental Disorders

by hillbilly in

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washington just when liberals thought it was safe to start identifying themselves as such, an acclaimed, veteran psychiatrist is making the case that the ideology motivating them is actually a mental disorder.

"based on strikingly irrational beliefs and emotions, modern liberals relentlessly undermine the most important principles on which our freedoms were founded," says dr. lyle rossiter, author of the new book, "the liberal mind: the psychological causes of political madness.

" "like spoiled, angry children, they rebel against the normal responsibilities of adulthood and demand that a parental government meet their needs from cradle to grave.

berylblue

Hillbilly, I really appreciate you bringing up this subject. Talk about scary - that tranny skank ho Coulter was staring at me as I read your post. I suppose you wanted it to be incendiary. Hate to disappoint but....

Lib vs con is so passe. The only persons who keep bringing this stuff up are people who refuse to see that not everything in life is us vs. them, nor is everyone or everything black and white.

You'd have made a passable Yahoo troll. I was a fairly good GOOD Yahoo troll. In fact, I won "Most Disgusting Yahoo Troll November 2007". I received 58 votes of which only 20 were mine. Never mind that I promised cyber-sexual favors to the board owner (the now defunct www.yahootroll.com I was one of the better liberal trolls. I MISS YAHOO BOARDS, NEIL BUDDE, you A$$!

Me - In reality, I'm both very liberal and very conservative.

END THE WAR NOW

and while we're at it -

END THE WAR ON WHITE MEN! END AFFIRMATIVE ACTION!

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