non, je ne regrette rien.. mr. moe has said that she doesn't want to enter her 50's (that's about 25 years off, btw) and look back on her life with a feeling of regret.. relax, you probably won't!.
you see, i have made the most apalling mistakes in my life.
some real mega cock-ups.
So many good sentiments in this thread!!
I have made some very poor choices along the way as well. I have learned something from each and every one of them though. To say I regret my choices, indicates that I would do something differently given the opportunity. In some cases I would, but I like who I've become, which is what is important. What I would change is the hurt and pain that was associated with some of my decisions.
see if you think this sounds a little............you know.......biggoted .
do you think the opinion from the slave is a little strong in one direction..........nah!
questions from readers wt, 1960 july 15
I just have one question: If they love each other, how can it be wrong?
now that you know about the truth of the blood doctrine, would you feel, even a little bit uncomfortable agreeing to take a blood transfusion?
btw, my mother asked me if i would still honor her wishes for refusal of blood.
i told her that even though my view has changed, i would respect her decision, even if i felt that it was wrong.
Hopefully I never have to make that decision, but I think I would feel uncomfortable, but I would still do it. I would worry more about being infected than guilty. There would be no question in regards to my children. I would do whatever I had to, to make sure they were ok.
here's a thought...in order to make three people whom you care about happy ,you had to sacrifice your own happiness, would you do it?.
bring it on....
You know I've been thinking about your comment ....
"if I do that, I'm going to be miserable and wind up killing myself."
Are you serious? My brother comitted suicide. Suicide is nothing to toy with. I'm getting the impression that there is more to the story than fits in the "nutsack". Would it help to elaborate?
here's a thought...in order to make three people whom you care about happy ,you had to sacrifice your own happiness, would you do it?.
bring it on....
Sorry you posted while I was typing. Now that I know more... You asked for an opinion so here goes:
First question, why are you so miserable with her? You say you don't love her, yet you are considering getting back together? Is there something there, just buried under "looooooong history"?
People change, sometime they grow together sometimes they grow apart. However, if there was something there at some point (there had to be your married and have kids) it can be rekindled. It may take time and energy, which seem silly since love should be easy, but once you dealt with each others issues it would be easy because you would both know what the other needed and wanted.
You said the kids would be better off, did you ever think that maybe you would be better off also. As I said in my other post, watching your family grow, change and thrive can be quite rewarding. If, and think about this, you worked through that "looooong history" and fell back in love with her you would have your family intact and you would be happy. I know in the Borg counseling was disapproved (and Im assuming you are no longer in), but have you considered it? If you never really try, you will never know. That old clich is true "the grass isnt always greener on the other side" yet sometimes it is. No easy answers, but my opinions regarding family tend to lean to the "think about the big picture".
Edited by - tranquility on 9 October 2002 10:54:42
Edited by - tranquility on 9 October 2002 10:57:4
here's a thought...in order to make three people whom you care about happy ,you had to sacrifice your own happiness, would you do it?.
bring it on....
I agree with LyinEyes, need more information.
But really, how can you make someone else happy if you are not. I think the questions are "Why are you not happy?" and "What makes you happy?" I have to assume this is family related (all three people being affected by one action) so, if these three people contribute to your happiness in any way I think you owe it to yourself and them to find out what is missing in you and work on that.
Again assuming this is family related, it can be very rewarding to see your family grow, change, and thrive. I am married and have two children. I know I am depressed if I know that my family is not happy and they are not happy if I am not happy (viscious cycle, I know). I also know that only I can stop the cycle, I make myself happy. For me, it is family, but every so often I take time just for ME. Guess you have to look at the big picture.
So if you still want an opinion, give me some more information.
hello all.. i've visited here a time or two but this is the first time i've posted.
been out for five years now.
left because i realized i was expected to be perfect and that just wasn't gonna happen.
Hello Flutter,
I am a newbie as well. I left about six years ago. It was a very difficult time in my life, but am SO glad to be out now. I have come to realize that most of what I was taught is a lie, which makes it hard to believe in anything. It is hard for me to seperate what is true from what I know was propaganda. That is part of why I came here, no one else seems to understand my way of thinking. Although I have found so many supportive people "in the world" who truly care about me and my well being.
I have two children and I am so relieved that they will not grow up in the same atmosphere of guilt that I did. I am happy knowing that they will have the opportunity to have a happy childhood and do whatever they want when they grow up.
I love coming home on a Tuesday/Thursday night and knowing I do not have to get all dressed up and go the the KH. Fortunately for me, my family has been alittle more understanding (I'm not sure that is the most appropriate word) of my reasons for leaving.
Well, Welcome!
Edited by - tranquility on 10 October 2002 8:41:39
ok, question for all the non dubs.
am i the only one who went totally wild (sexually) when i got df'd?
well, i actually went wild when i turned 21 and became inactive.
Buffy,
You just described me when I left also. If I knew the dub's wouldn't approve of it, I did it. I loved seeing JW's around town and making sure I made eye contact so that they would have to squirm and look away. God forbid they have any contact with "bad association". Boy, those were the days.
Edited by - tranquility on 10 October 2002 8:36:15
how many of you are totally, incredibly happy in your marriage?
how many of you feel that your spouse is your absolute soul mate and you couldn't even imagine your being married somebody else?
talking with the women at work, i'm surprised at how many are not totally happy.
TOTALLY happy in my marriage? mmm let me think. The first year was hard. I had a hard time being the "submissive wife". The next several were good and now I am blissfully happy. Only time will tell what the future brings.
Edited by - tranquility on 10 October 2002 8:43:10
i would like to know what your opinions are and i would really appreciate some input.. i have been re-married for two years, but along the way there has been some deep hurts, although no infidelity.
he claims that he loves me, but i do not feel the same way for him as i once did.
i was married to a verbally abusive husband for 11 yrs, and i'm wondering if maybe i just wasn't ready to remarry so soon, and the hurt my current husband has caused has rubbed some old wounds alittle too often.. he has done some emotionally hurtful things to me in which i don't really care to go further on right now, and this has caused me to distant myself from him.
Lost Diamond I am sorry that you are feeling unhappy. Your happiness is imperative. If your not happy, no one else can be really happy with you.
Good luck.
Edited by - tranquility on 10 October 2002 8:28:15
