The answer for me is "yes". Absolutely. There is mutual trust and respect going on here. We are best friends. I don't know if we will still feel this way tomorrow, or next week. But, for right now, and for the past twenty years, this is where we both choose to be. This is the second time around for both of us. My first marriage ended after fourteen years with a separation, then my husband died before I actually was divorced; and my present husband was married for nine years and divorced after his wife abandoned him and their three small children.
Both of us thought that our first unions would last forever. Forever is a very long time....
People change. I would never say never anymore, as just about the time you say that, boom, something happens to change everything. I never want to take him for granted. As we grow older together, we find that we are really bonded on so many levels. That would be difficult to replace. But, in all honesty, one should never depend so much on another, because people do die and leave us. We would have to be strong enough to go on without them--and they would want us to be able to take care of ourselves.
There is also nothing wrong with being single either. Some of us just choose the single life. Some people lose their mate and don't remarry. There is nothing wrong with that. Just as much as there is nothing wrong with looking for a loving companion once again, and going the marriage route. It's everyone's individual choice. I like being married. Right now, I would find it very difficult to live this life without him next to me. He is my balance. He let's me be me, and loves me still. He also gives me the space I need, to think, to read, to be on this forum, (while he is neglected and lonely watching TV. )
Sentinel/Karen
