Thank you to those who offered some suggestions for next weekends Memorial.
Believe it or not, I grabbed my daytimer, and scribbled in a few of your suggestions. Most of the things that were mentioned by some of you are going to happen.
The Guest Book item, I am going to bring one of those, but I had not considered that before.
We will have some music, some of his favourite tunes. There will be a few sheets of bristol board, and his good friend will put them up. On the board, will be numerous photographs. We also have access to a cork board which is on the wall where we will be gathering. We will put up his poetry, stories and other unique items.
I had one good photo of he and I together, so I duplicated 25 copies. He came from a very large family (15 siblings altogether). I will have those available to each family member and his mature nieces and nephews.
There will be time for people to go up and read poetry, letters or share their thoughts, and definitely some humour. Rob (his name) was a great guy. He lived with NF (neurofibromytosis), which for some of you who do not know, it's also known as the Elephant Mans Disease (I hate calling it that). He had a facial anomoly, but it's interesting, when you're friends with someone like that, you DON'T even notice it. He was my friend, and he could crack me up like no one else.
I offered the memorial as a suggestion, having done it once myself after my father passed away in November 2001. A friend suggested it. I couldn't make any sense of its value prior to the event (I was not close to my father, whatsoever). Oddly enough, after I had arranged it with my friend, who is a chaplin, it slowly come together. I invited over a select few friends, and we gathered on a Saturday night, and we sat and talked and shared thoughts and feelings. For my friends who either could not make it, or were too far away (overseas) I placed their pictures on a curtain near the table where I had placed pictures of my father from when he was a young man back in the late 1950s. I had his obituary enlarged, and I wrote little notes by any photos I had of him.
One photo of him was from 1960. It was my father with my older half-brother. I chose that to be enlarged as it was the only time I could honestly say, I had no negative feeling towards him when looking at him. My rationale, I wasn't even born yet, and I didn't know the man in 1960. I was born in 1962.
Anyways, I went off on a minor tangent there.
Cruzanheart, I'm so glad you responded. I do recall your post of several weeks ago about your father, and I knew you and your husband (Big Tex) were going to do something special to mark your father's memory. I'm looking forward to next weeks memorial. I know it will give me some satisfaction, and help keep the memory of Robert alive for a long time to come.
Thanks to: starfish, Scully, Inserter and LyinEyes for your kind and generous thoughts and suggestions. I wrote them down .
I'll let you know how things go, next weekend (probably Sunday).