The wife chickened out. After several more text messages back and fourth with her trying to take control and my standing my ground on what we had already agreed to duscuss and not falling for her bid to be in control about subject matter she told me that she wouldn't have a talk with me. Not sure how much her elder hubby had to do with her change of mind.
losingit.... In another post I mentioned that back in January before I learned TTATT I sent a request for a study. I knew then hubby was back in perminately and wanted to learn more. It took 10 months for them to knock on my door today for the January request. She initated the contact after I slammed the door on her and her hubby today.